TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

@Daffodils86 ahh I know, it's totally horrible and unfair. I'm about 5 weeks post MC and generally things are fine, people wouldn't know anything different if they saw me / spoke to me, and generally I feel well and back to normal mentally, but then I have days where that all goes out the window which I think is normal after such a shock and trauma. And now ttc again, well I suppose I'm less focussed on the MC because I'm utterly OBSESSED with getting pregnant again.

Can you post your chart @Boboelephant ?

I'm a bit worried ladies. I have had EWCM Sat, Sun and Mon, not today. Thought I was due to ovulate yesterday (Monday). The back pain started yesterday which is pretty normal for ovulation but I still haven't gotten a positive opk. The line was definitely getting darker on Sunday but today it's barely there. It never got as dark as the test line and because I didn't want housekeeping to think i was a nut job I threw them away so can't look again. I have been temping and had a slight 0.17 increase today but not sure if that's enough to mean anything. Also aware that we are on holiday, it's warm, drinking alcohol and DS is waking alot with a cough so not waking at same time every morning and prob not always after 3 hours uninterrupted sleep. Ahh driving myself crazy!!! I don't know how I can know if i have ovulated. Any words of wisdom welcome!!

@Boboelephant
Im sure i have symptoms now when before i didnt. The sides of my boobs are definitely sore. Although my CM seems to have gone awol. Iv no idea what is going on, makes it worse opk- neg!

Thanks so much for your responses ladies. It’s eased off now but having that random ‘gush’ has definitely scared me. I’ve never experienced anything like it. I’m going to ring the EPU in the morning and see if they can offer any advice. The weird thing is I’ve been spotting for 4 days so was certain my period had pretty much gone. It’s going to be a long night of worrying I think

Sorry to suddenly spring it on you and not respond to any other messages, I was panicking!

@Llondbol have you tested??
@Daffodils86 I definitely have noticed a difference. I had zero symptoms before and now it's all sore boobs and back ache all the freaking time. Totally convinced myself I was pregnant the first cycle too because of all of my symptoms!
@BabynameEdie I also worry constantly that I am not ovulating. I didn't until the doctor suggested it and now it consumes me. Worried about it now in fact!!!
@PumpkinPatch000 I'm sorry hun. That sounds scary and confusing. Like the others said I'm sure it's fine but I would definitely call the EPU in the morning just to ease your mind and be sure.

@BabynameEdie
Hope your sides are better! I sometimes think im hyper sensitive, so desperate to get back into a normal cycle i make it up in my head!
I thought the TWW was bad, this is even worse. TTC when 2.5 weeks ago you were actually pregnant sucks!

@xLeanne128
Sorry for your loss, i MC at 6 weeks too, it was just over 2 weeks ago.
Im hoping my cycles come back without too much craziness, but who knows. Im impatient! X

@PumpkinPatch000 I would second ringing the EPU. I had to speak to them a couple of times and they weren't at all concerned about really heavy bleeding and they told me as long as the clots weren't bigger than a plum (!!) it was fine. But I would definitely ring to run it past them, and because you're feeling unwell. Maybe you're a bit anaemic? That makes me feel dreadful, headachey and dizzy.

I'd say it sounds relatively normal. My first AF was really heavy and a little off. But like what @Daffodils86 said, I'd call Epu just to calm your mind. They may scan you. There possibly may have been some tissue remaining that's now left. Sending hugs. Everything about MCs is confusing.

@PumpkinPatch000
Mmm well im not a doctor, but it sounds as if you are having what seems a normal period after MC. I read alot of women report that their periods where heavier and longer than normal. I have also read this in various literature about MC and TTC.

The only thing that concerns me slightly is that you have felt unwell, however a lot of women feel this during their periods.

To be on the safe side can you call the EPU just for some advice or your doctor tomorrow.
Try not to panic though, im sure all is ok. X

Hi Ladies,

i'm really scared and hoping for some advice. What was your first AF like after MC?

TMI....
I started brown spotting last Tues and had bleeding the wed - Friday then brown spotting Sat - today. More spotting than i'm used to and slightly longer AF as it's normally all done in 4 days but I've read AF can be different aren't MC so wasn't worried. What has scared me and this will be really TMI now sorry but I was just sitting on the sofa and I felt it run out of me.. went to the toilet and it's the brightest red blood i've ever seen. Thin, loads of it and with big clots... i'm scared. Is this normal? It came out of no where.

I haven't felt well the last few days, bad headaches and feeling faint on and off, i'm now freaking out something is really wrong.

Eeeek @Cakelaur I really hope you get a bfp!

It's looking good @Cakelaur 😀

Good luck cakelaur hopefully be a bfp! X

I can't wait til 10dpo so I'll be testing tomorrow at 9dpo. But it may depend on my temps. So far they're slowly on the rise. No idea if it's the progesterone cream or it's gonna turn into a bfp. No idea. Hoping for a big temp rise tomorrow. If it drops I may not test.

Cake after the 10 day marathon, I sooooo hope it's implantation!! When you doing a test?!

@Cakelaurs sounds like it could be implantation bleeding! How exciting, fingers crossed it’s BFP Friday this week! 🤞🏼

Good luck @Lovewinemorethanhusband just get him drunk! 😝

@Boboelephant I bloody hope so!! It's totally stopped again. So could be! We'll see in a couple of days!

@Cakelaur OMG!!!! Implantation bleed!!!!! You know you would be saying this to anyone else!! 😉 keeping everything crossed for you!

Well I've managed to get my parents to have the children tonight so will be getting busy tonight ! My husband was a bit freaked out with the bleeding yesterday told him it was normal and I'm not taking no for an answer tonight !!

@Martydog I'll be with you. I'm 8dpo today will probably test tomorrow as I had a little bit of pink when wiping yesterday. But we'll see!! It's defo POAS Friday this week for me. I should defo have a bfp by Friday if I'm gonna get one cos I'll be 11dpo by then!! Eek

I've decided I'm going to test on Friday even though I will only be 8 dpo. Anyone joining me? I'm hoping this will be the month as next month hubby will be away. Also I have started extra folic acid and progesterone cream and we did smep. 😀

@weasledee @beck1988 going to try not test until AF but don't feel hopeful but you never know. @daffodils86 I did conceive in January but sadly ended at 6 weeks and nothing but wackiness since!! Fingers crossed for you too 😙

@Claire138 it's so hard isn't it. I'm meant to be going to meet my dh's best friend's newborn on Sunday. Luckily they know all about it but I just know it'll tug on a lot of heartstrings.
@Daffodils86 I can't tell if I feel more around ovulation now or whether it's just that I'm super aware of any little twinge. We've just moved house and I was pretty certain I was ovulating earlier in the week as sides were hurting etc. Turns out I pulled a muscle from lifting boxes 😂 but any little feeling I'm now on hyper alert for, so I don't know if I just feel that there are more signs than there used to be or if there really are!

@cakelaur OMG! Has to be implantation bleed!its in the right time frame and if you don’t usually get random spotting, it looks like you might be getting a positive!! Have my fingers and toes crossed for you!! 🤞🤞
@daffodils86 I seem to be a lot more sensitive around ovulation now. I used to only have pain on my right and twinge on my left, now both sides are pretty sore for a good few days. This month I’ve also noticed my boobs feeling a bit tender as well.
@pumpkinpatch000 glad to hear you’re out of limbo. Let the POAS games begin!
@babynameedie I really struggle with it. My DH cousins came round yesterday with their baby and of course is handed straight to me, so I’m there having a nurse and the comments start “won’t be long till it’s you” 🙄
@funkyemzie it prob helps your friend understands and it’s really nice of you to plough ahead and help organise the party. Hope it goes well and doesn’t pull too many heart strings!