Christmas Day due date!

The thing is, saying 'Oh I wish my parents had waited a month or so' makes no sense, because if they had, you wouldn't have been born! It would have been a different egg, different sperm, and the person you are wouldn't exist.

When I think about it like that, I couldn't give a flying fig when my birthday is. I'd rather exist!

DH is a few days before Christmas and hates it!

I have 2 close people whose birthdays are 21st - one hates it - she was born in the 50's, that and Xmas were merged into one, (money issues post war plus siblings being key!) She's never felt she has a 'special' day. On the other hand my BIL doesn't mind his, he's always had a birthday and a Christmas (born early 90's, one of two). My dad's birthday is January and his brothers birthday is NYE. My best friend had a daughter born near the end of January. My uncle hates his - it's a 'holiday' which is unavoidable I can understand. My dad doesn't have an issue with his. My best friend is really sad , that she feels January is a 'skint, miserable/ back to reality month' for most, and is worried her daughter will feel like that.
In short, babies are born when they are born. We may not 'like" our birthday but we get what we are given. My ex boyfriends is on 9/11. That overshadowed some of his birthdays. My point is, it doesn't matter what day you're born, or what happens on that day, aslong as it's made special for you that is all that counts. You can 'plan' a January baby - you may get a baby that arrives 4 weeks early.

Dont think into it to much!

All 3 of my babies have been two weeks late so if we are lucky this month although I wouldn’t have a Christmas due date, I’d likely have a very close to christmas baby.

A few months into ttc we missed a month due to a holiday that was already booked because it would’ve fallen directly on a likely induction date. I kind of wish we had just tried and invoked Sod’s law now as 6months on we’ve had no luck.

I'm the 1st Dec and I am not a fan. However I am TTC and will not wait a month because of a birthday. I only hate it because when friends are planning things for my birthday it's always Christmassy whilst theirs are all summer festivals or holidays. That's the only reason.

My friends DD is a Christmas Day baby. She was born 6 weeks early, so avoiding this month doesn't really mean much as baby could come whenever!

They've always acknowledged her birthday, and instead of Christmas pudding they have a birthday cake after dinner and 1 special present wrapped in birthday wrapping rather than Christmas. but apart from that, they do her birthday on the 25th June, especially more so since she's been at pre school / school. It seemed weird to get our heads around at first but now it just seems normal. She has her "birthday party" so it falls in line with the school year, so for example she turned 7 Xmas day but will celebrate her 7th birthday properly in June. She thinks it's great as she gets two birthdays

I had my dd at the beginning of December and I found it a pretty miserable time of year to have a baby tbh, but then I'm not that fond of Christmas. DP's is the 19th and he loathes it.

DD probably won't mind hers as it's a good three weeks before Christmas, but whilst she's little it means that there's a month of fairly non-stop presents and celebrations and then feck all for the rest of the year, and parties always have to be indoors due to rubbish weather.

January birthday here. It's great because I feel all upbeat about January while others groan.

My ds is Christmas Eve and it's amazing. Everyone is buzzing with excitement and very keen to make sure we celebrate it properly with it being so close to Christmas. We always plan something big and to be honest he gets a bigger celebration than anyone else as we overcompensate. We knew we had the risk but after over a year TTC the birthdate didn't matter.

Giving birth oevr Christmas was brilliant. It was dead in labour ward, I had it to myself most of the time. I got a private room on postnatal too. Plus the staff who worked Christmas Eve were off Christmas, so they were super jolly and helped to keep a very difficult high risk labour happy and calm. The date lead to me having much better care than the normal high standard.

My dd birthday is the 27th she's only 3 so it's not a big deal but the week of presents is a nightmare space wise, but I imagine they'll be some upset when she's bigger and gets the joint birthday/Xmas present family cheap out on. The only positives I can think of is that she'll never have school on her birthday and they'll be lots of nights out when she's older.

Only 5% of babies are born on their due date. My 6th Feb due baby arrived on Christmas Eve. We were in NICU next to twins born the same day who were due in March.

Personally I think pre-Christmas is preferable to post-Christmas when everyone is skint/on a diet, but I’m pretty biased!

Also, I received much better care with my Christmas Eve baby than my October baby when the unit was incredibly busy. Non-urgent inductions/sections aren’t booked in around Christmas. Can’t say I’d recommend an NHS Christmas dinner though!

Good luck TTC whatever you decide.

Im 26th Dec and hate it! Really wish my birthday was elsewhere in the year.

DSs birthday is very very early Jan. It's shot, for him, us and others. Weve stopped this month and next to avoid it again.

P.S. We have only been TTC for 3 months. If I'm in the same position next year I probably won't skip a month.

My birthday is the 31st (nye) and I love it but maybe that's just because I love that time of year.

I don't think it would be a problem as a small child, but once they are school age through until adulthood I can imagine it would be a pain. My Mum's Birthday is 23rd December and she hates it. Of course we always do a celebration with immediate family with cake and presents, but it always feels like an afterthought since everyone is getting geared up for Christmas.

I'm in the same situation as you. I'd like to avoid a birthday 2 weeks before or after Christmas for the reasons above. So will have to skip April as my due date would be (if AF comes when scheduled) 2nd Jan. So desperate to try anyway but trying to hold off!

My LMP predicted due date for 25th but actual scan was 22nd. I actually wanted to be overdue as i wanted to focus on my 3yo on xmas day. He came 8 days late.

No way was i going to take a month off during ttc as i was scared if that month was the one and it was!!!!!

Are you my SIL tinyradish?!?

I'm nyd & don't like my birthday date at all but it hardly ruins my life & I've never blamed my parents for it, haha... Who on earth would?! It's not the end of the world is all I'm saying.

My SIL’s birthday is New Years Day & she hates it as everyone is always hungover & never wants to do anything to celebrate with her. I wouldn’t stop ttc for a month, who knows what might happen if you carry on trying, and a Christmas birthday can be a lovely thing.
Re half birthdays, we recognise dc’s every year - it’s merely an excuse to eat cake (no candles or presents obvs) and it’s lovely to hear the dc’s saying they are eg 3 1/2 rather than just 3. They love it, and we will carry on doing it even though most people think we are mad 😂

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. For all of those who dislike it, the alternative is not existing so I thinks minor inconvenience is he better option! Plus babies can come late, early, who knows!

My DS is a Christmas baby. He loves it. It is an excuse for chocolate cake on Christmas Day then a selection of small parties with various groups in the surrounding month or so.

My bestfriends birthday is Christmas day and she hates it.

We have a BBQ in the summer for her bday every year and everyone really goes out of their way to make it feel special for her!

I was in the maternity ward at Christmas. The ward was decorated beautifully with fairy lights, the staff were in good spirits, groups of carol singers came round and it was really magical. Then I took newborn home and to enjoy the tree lights and decorations in our house. A really lovely time of year all round.