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When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

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SoozC · 10/02/2018 13:24

Thread five!

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.
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JaggyJobby · 17/03/2018 09:51

@LimpLettice sure you'll find a fantastic dress. You'll have better luck than I did in that department, my credit card chose that day to stop working and I'd left it really late. Ended up with a 50€ dress from a Topshop style shop haha, and we got the wedding pics halfway down a mountain so I'm wearing trainers and fuzzy stripey socks in all the wedding photos (made more obvious as it was a short dress!). I love those pics though haha!

JaggyJobby · 17/03/2018 09:47

Haha @WonkyDonk87 I nearly didn't join the FB group for the same reason, but I'm glad I did join in the end.

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SoozC · 17/03/2018 09:16

I appreciate your reasons, Wonky but so you know, there are only 17 of us and we're all lovely, if that helps sway you! Wink We seem pretty spread too, over the country.

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WonkyDonk87 · 17/03/2018 08:53

Sorry everyone's having a crap time at the moment- hope you're all taking time to do something soothing this weekend.

Limp can we have a preview here too? Not on the FB for fear of outing myself but bloody love a wedding and would love to see what you find xxx

LimpLettice · 17/03/2018 08:37

Sooz that's lovely. Especially with dp still snoring away beside me, mr it'll all come right in the end stop your worrying. He's great, but doesn't quite get how distressing this all is. That's a grand idea. If I can find anything that doesn't make me look like a frocked hippopotamus I will defo post some.

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SoozC · 17/03/2018 08:24

Ah, Bubble, that really sucks about af, I'm sorry. And the baby bomb. Some people don't know how lucky they are. Look after yourself this weekend, maybe buy one small treat? x

I dreamt last night that af had arrived, I remember my feeling of dismay and upset so clearly. I can't even escape it in my dreams, ffs.

Limp, my heart goes out to you, it really does. I think of you a lot, I think you're an incredibly strong person. Everything is crossed for you finding answers and getting the right help. I wish I could actually do something.
Maybe we'll see some dress choices on the FB group later, if you're up for it. x

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LimpLettice · 17/03/2018 07:50

Thank you. It is cold comfort, sometimes I wonder if bloody everything implants, but they are all rubbish. I think you're probably right, it hopefully will be easier to treat and I need to look at the positive but this is fucking exhausting. Rollercoaster is an understatement. I'm meant to be wedding dress shopping today, I need to get my skates on, it's 7 weeks today but the thought is just meh. We have snow too.

MynameisJune · 17/03/2018 07:42

@limp I’d definitely look into the NK cells. I know someone who lost 5 IVF babies. Finally got tested for NK cells and treated, she now has twin girls.

Fingers crossed for this one being a sticky bean. I know it’s cold comfort but at least you don’t struggle to get pregnant. And there are options for recurrent loss that are easier than IVF etc.

Si1ver · 17/03/2018 07:25

Jesus limp, that's beyond shit. I'm so very sorry.

LimpLettice · 17/03/2018 07:17

Morning June. Gp has started the referral process but no appointment through yet. He said it can take up to 6 weeks. We probably could manage a private consult in the meantime, I think I need to look into it and find out about the NK thing.

I've been awake most of the night. Terrible nightmare about being chased through a field whilst holding a bloody kebab of all things. Poas after 3 hours, and the line is still there. And slightly more purple. I'm going to start baby aspirin i think, but it's just a case of waiting for it to go pear now. We've dtd twice this cycle, no timing involved, it's a month today since I passed the last one. Madness.

MynameisJune · 17/03/2018 06:58

@limp have you had a referral to the recurrent MC clinic? I don’t know if they do NK tests on the NHS but if not it might be worth looking at getting tested privately if you can.

LimpLettice · 17/03/2018 00:44

Bubblegum I always have my fingers crossed for you 😘

Dp ordered a big batch of one step cheapies after m/c so I could check hcg gone. Last time stuck to frer but didn't want to waste those in misery. I stupidly did one Monday which in a normal cycle would be about 9dpo. I only did it coz I've been bloated and tired again. Tonight's was a teeny touch darker, he could see it too but mostly the same all week. My body is a total bastard. This will be about my 16th week of pregnancy in 8 months, with nothing sticking. Wtf is wrong with me?!?

Bubblegum89 · 17/03/2018 00:21

Limp thank you Flowers are you using a different brand to the ones you were using before? I know IC are some of the more sensitive hpt’s. It does sound very strange. If it was a chemical, would the lines not be fading rather than staying the same? Sorry your body is being such a dick :(

Bubblegum89 · 17/03/2018 00:01

Ugh I hate pregnancy dreams looking I once had one where I took a test and it came back with two lines and then when I looked again it was an opk. Even my subconscious is trolling me haha

To top the evening off, a friend of mine just found out she is pregnant but she’s having a termination. It’s made me feel even more crappy than I already did. Just reminds me of the worst thing that’s ever happened to me that I’m paying the price for in abundance now. Anyway, at least it’s friday so I can have my pity party over the weekend instead of being in work lol

JaggyJobby · 16/03/2018 23:58

sorry to hear everyones feeling so rubbish atm 😕 x

LimpLettice · 16/03/2018 23:56

Hello ladies. Would you believe I think I'm having another fucking chemical? I'm starting to think you couldn't make it up. I've had negatives since a few days after I passed the miscarriage, but am getting stupidly faint lines on an ic. Has to be chemical. No symptoms, line hasn't gotten more than faintly visible in 4 days, no idea when I even ovulated. I'm getting to the point of blasé whatever now. I'm 40 and a bit fat, it's a joke.

Looking I'm sorry about the shit results, and Bubblegum I wish I could will your af anywhere else. Ttc is fucking arse. Thanks

LookingAtTheStars89 · 16/03/2018 23:12

@Bubblegum89. And hope isn't stupid x x

LookingAtTheStars89 · 16/03/2018 23:11

@Bubblegum89. Lol baby stuff crops up everywhere! I even dream about it! I dreamt the other night that I was running water over a pregnancy test. I woke up thinking that the f***g tap water has more chance of being pregnant than me!

Bubblegum89 · 16/03/2018 22:27

Thank you june a lovely baby bomb perfectly timed this evening as well. Someone on baby number 5 that was “totally unplanned” 🙄

MynameisJune · 16/03/2018 22:02

@bubble sorry for af arriving, be gentle to yourself this weekend.

Bubblegum89 · 16/03/2018 21:45

Thanks looking not started properly but it’s the brown spotting that means it’ll be here tomorrow. So now my weekend is ruined as well. Yay. I knew I was stupid to be hopeful this month :(

LookingAtTheStars89 · 16/03/2018 21:43

@Bubblegum89. I'm sorry Flowers

Bubblegum89 · 16/03/2018 21:37

Well af has arrived. Time to spend money I don’t have on shit I don’t need to try and curb the need to just launch myself headfirst into a wall

LookingAtTheStars89 · 16/03/2018 17:39

@MynameisJune. No idea! I will get it sorted though. I'm no push over! I have learned how to fight for myself with Drs over the years!

MynameisJune · 16/03/2018 17:11

@looking I’d have been grumpy too, how the hell can one be normal. I’m at the GP for unrelated bloods next week so I’ll be asking then. I’m still waiting for smear test results which was 3.5 weeks ago 🙄

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