When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

Also accommodation in Amsterdam is bloody expensive.

Uuuugggghhhh. AF. And I just saw that bit of Gavin and Stacy where Ness is having her first scan and all I could think was that I’m never seeing that for myself again. DSis had her 12 week scan yesterday and it’s totally wonderful for them as they’ve been trying for ages but it also makes me feel sad. Selfish and mean, but sad too. 😢

Limp hugs and more 🍷🍷🍷 for you.

That’s horrible for you @limp I’m glad they’ve referred you and were kind to you 💐

@chook that’s not long to wait at all

@limplettuce I had my fingers an toes crossed for you, it is so sad, drink the wine and grieve.

Maybe you can get some answers x

limp :( enjoy your wine, thinking of you ❤️

@Limp that sounds like a really challenging day - you deserve the wine.

Just got home to find an appointment card for fertility clinic for 10 days time!! After all my whinging that’s earlier than I expected (just under 3 months since referral). Feels positive to have that in the diary even if it ultimately leads to more waiting.

Oh yammers. I'm drinking, already, so if it's too much, sorry not sorry (as dd would say), but fuck what a day.

Epu this morning. Hcg still high, scan showed very vacant womb. Pregnancy is fully gone, no 'retained products'. I have to test again in a week and 2 weeks. I sat in a room with 20 very pregnant women for 45 minutes, that's just life, apparently.

Fallopian tube is still swollen / blocked / fluid.

They've referred me direct to recurrent miscarriage, and actually were very kind. M/w didn't say too much but felt it was positive I'm still getting pregnant at my advanced age, they just need to stop my body killing them off.

I've decided that the mature response is to get pissed and think again next week.

Hi ladies,

I've not been on here for ages mostly because it's been 13 months and I've mentally given up with ttc.

We are still dtd every 2-3 days and dp has had his results back today from his first sa.
He has done normal and some abnormal sperm. More abnormal sperm then most people have and it is quite low. Gp said this isn't uncommon.

He has to do another sa and take it to the hospital on Monday.

Anyone else in a similar situation with sa?

X

@Chooklass. I am a pesterer lol. If I ever get an abnormal result then I kick up a fuss until I get the numbers and the reason why. Even if they tell me it's "normal no action" I ask for the results and Google it to check lol. I've had a B12 abnormal result missed once because of incompetence!

My DH is taking Wellman Original. I take 5mg folic acid (prescribed)/vit D/zinc/magnesium. Thinking of adding omega 3 and vitamin C though.

@LexieJean he did it on site so sadly can't blame that and he's already been taking the pregnacare vitamins for men for 6months or so.....hoping cutting down on alcohol will help but we didn't get any advice when we got the results so need to make an appointment.

Go for it @chook
We just use the pregnacare pre conception hisnhers. Got them in bulk when on special as so expensive!

@Lexi think I’ll have to try that. Don’t want to pester busy nhs but don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask for rough idea of how long it’s likely to be.

@High and @Looking, SA result communication seems to vary wildly! My dp just told ‘poor’ and no numbers, so we don’t know in what way it’s poor! He’s been taking male conception vits since then - have any of you heard of any particulary good brands? We’re just on pregnacare or Boots own.

After 2 days of cramps and moods AF finally arrived this morning and feel a lot better. On with cycle 12ish ... lost count now!

@chook have you tried calling the clinic/hospital to get an idea of waiting time? Then at least you’d have a timeline to wait out.

@high my OH first SA results came back with 0.5% morphology! 😬 however, 8 months later he did it again and it’s apparently in the top of where it should be. Go figure. Only change was I made sure he was taking his multi-vit. He is convinced the first sample was off as he had to take it into the clinic himself- so it was 55mins before they even received it. Was yours dropped off or done on site?

As for the BFP's - I'm glad I took photographs of mine lol as I can't remember what I feels like to see one!

Thanks ladies :-) you are really lovely. I've had a couple of glasses of and have managed to calm down a bit.

DH sends his sample off on Monday so we'll have to wait and see how that goes. His Dr was fairly blase about it, no one seems to give a hoot about the idea of secondary infertility. DH said his Dr said "Well if it was fine last time..." I didn't want to say this to DH as I didn't want to hurt his feelings but he doesn't know his sperm is fine, he could have a problem but we just got lucky before - same goes for me. You can't make statements like that without evidence.

Sorry lol I will get off of my soap box now!

Sorry @chooklass and @looking, totally know the feeling. I cry every time!

@catherine1988 your message made my laugh (sadly) because this is the only place I have ever seen a BFP, I'm beginning to wonder if they exist??

In other news my DH had his SA results and only got 2% on morphology - has anyone had similar results? Any advice??

@limp hope your scan goes as well as it can tomorrow. We’ll be thinking of you

Went for a less healthy choice of pizza in my pjs! Think I’ll have an early night with a good book and say goodbye to today.

for you looking

@looking sorry af arrived, so bloody shit. My DH is also super laid back and didn’t even realise we’d passed the year mark of trying

@chook anywhere nice to go for a swim and then sit in the jacuzzi, steam room or sauna?

Ah sorry @looking. I’m due af tomorrow and got frer bfn so feeling shitty today too. My dp is really chilled out too - it’s really tough not to take it out on him sometimes! Purely out of general frustration, not because he deserves it - poor chap! Trying to think of something lovely to do tonight to cheer myself up ...

Well the sweet potato I ate this month did FA as flo just arrived. Completely devastated - again. Had a little cry. DH was a bit blase about it, which in my hormone frenzied mind really annoyed me!!