When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

Good luck today Pibbee, hope it goes well.

Looking they don’t always quite get it do they? They are separated from it in a way we never can be.

I’ve got an appointment with the doctor tomorrow. I’m hoping she doesn’t try to sent me away with yet more thyroid medication and nothing else. What should I be asking or pushing for? I’m assuming I’m not eligible for IVF but I’m going to ask anyway (we can’t afford private so will only have it if it’s NHS). Maybe Clomid? I’m not very good at standing up for myself.

@Bubblegum89. Yeah, my DH wasn't bothered at all when flo arrived this time, I think he said said something like "Oh, so at least you dont have to worry about having sex tonight" I think he's even more blase since his Dr told him that 18 months plus is considered normal lol I'm like yeah but that means dtd regularly and having no obstacles!

Thanks @Bubblegum. Yeah I’m hoping the anticipation is the worst bit of it tbh! Also confused about whether I will find out results tomorrow or if I need to wait until my next appointment with the consultant. Guess I will know more tomorrow!

Good luck tomorrow Pibbee I think the anticipation of an HSG is worse than the actual thing. Aside from a few minutes of mild period-type cramping, mine was okay. You’ll be fine :)

Hi all, been a bit awol of late. Been baby-bombed left right and centre and just been feeling totally ‘meh’ about the whole thing. And I have my HSG tomorrow morning which I am really nervous about. Haven’t been particularly worried about the other tests but this one is doing my head in. Oh and I just had to shove an antibiotic pill up my arse in preparation, which was pleasant

Hope everyone is OK xx

looking mine is just clueless. I find it awkward to talk to him about it because he just doesn’t get it. It’s frustrating when they don’t seem as on board, it’s okay for them. We’re the ones who get all the weird symptoms, do all the poas and get that horrible wave of disappointment when af arrives. Sorry he’s being insensitive

Does anyone else's DH get a bit pissy about ttc stuff sometimes? I briefly mentioned to DH that I had read something earlier and he snapped at me a bit and said "Can we stop talking about this? It's becoming a bit all consuming, we talk about it all the time"

I'm a bit of an emotional person so I kind of had to fight back the tears. I felt a bit annoyed to because I think it's easier for the men as they are the ones that have to have flo or poas or knicker check or dose up on vitamins OR have invasive tests when things aren't as they should be.

I'm so glad that I can come on here and be supported. I'm not going to mention it to him anymore for the time being. That'll bring my real life "people I can talk to about ttc" down to 0 lol.

@pinkdonkey I get why you think you'll wait it out. But when you go and you're told it's a two month waiting list to get tested, you might feel frustrated. Go now and cancel if you get a bfp.

Thanks Si1ver, sorry you are having such a rough time with the testing. I'm feeling a bit nervous now the GP has said we need to go down that route, I have been fooling myself that it's just going to happen on it's own I think. Anyway DH and I have decided to wait out this 2ww in a last bit of hope and then if we don't get our BFP this time he will go see the GP.

Bubblegum, I feel your pain, my cycles were all over the place the 12 months I was on Mirtazapine and it did my head in.

CD26 here and still no temperature rise. Oh and DH has injured himself at work so there will be no DTD for around 2 months while he recovers. So another 3 months of fuck all.

We are both off to the GP this week to get our test results. I have PCOS so am expecting bad news there but hopefully we'll get a referral.

Cd8 and just noticed ewcm. I’m getting so fed up of this. I never even bother starting opks until cd9 because I don’t start getting any fertile cm until around cd11-12. And I never get ewcm either. Why can’t my body just pick a pattern and bloody stick to it?!

Ahahahaha DB.

Get him to speak to his GP who will refer him for SA testing. We had separate appointments. I've no idea if that's normal.

As I mentioned a couple of pages back, we've decided on privately funded IVF and the only blood tests we were missing were AMH and E2. They both need to be 21 day blood tests. So I went back to my private testing facility who did my HCG tests while I was miscarrying. And they were AWFUL. They only take AMH and E2 Monday to Thursday. The next time that day 21 of my cycle falls on a day they'll take my blood is in six months time. Their response to this was "oh well, you'll need to wait"

Sure because at 37 I have all the time in the fucking world to wait about.

Anyway we did some research and found a company who do the blood tests by mail. I asked my dad about it as he was a surgeon and he seemed to think that this would be fine as we don't want to interpret the numbers ourselves, we just want to send them to our clinic.

So I've just taken my own blood and I have it packaged up ready to go in the post. It feels super weird.

AH typo DHs semen checked not DBs that would be so wrong!

Hi guys, I was here at the beginning of these threads but haven't been around for a bit. Still TTC, now on month 23 turn 35 next month. Since I was last here I've stopped medication I was on and my cycles appear normal again thank goodness, I've started using opks which I'd resisted because DH was against the idea I love knowing for sure we are hitting the right days, he hates it says it's too much pressure so this month I've not to him the results till after. DH has been diagnosed with diabetes which may have been damaging his sperm for a long time so I'm hoping that having his blood sugar under control will do the trick. DH has had some other medication changes which seem to have increased his drive (which was very low, picture me begging for sex in the fertile window) but not improved erectile difficulties. And we have both LOST over a stone in weight each.

This week I ended up mentioning how long we had been trying to my GP in an unrelated appointment (I've been dreading the conversation as a previous GP was very judgemental due to DHs health problems. This GP was great has said we need fertility tests and to get DB to see his GP about semen testing as a starting point. Just wondering is it normal to book an appointment together to discuss this further or to book seperate appointments. And what happens next?

I think my body hates me. Not only am I —probably— not pregnant but now I’ve come out in a massive itchy rash all over ny torso. I think it may be related to stress (I don’t even know if that’s a thing but I’m going with it). This feels like the longest TWW so far and I’m so over it already.

I love your username @JaggyJobby! 😂

Bubblegum Can you not dtd if your partner has a cold sore? I didn't know this, what about if you have one? My OH doesn't get them but I do all the time.

I know they're dangerous for newborns

Hi, I was previously one of these threads with a different username. Just had a check up and been told I may have PCOS based on an ultrasound, get the blood test results back on Monday (possibly).

Hope you are all doing okay, have missed you guys. I just needed a break from Mumsnet and the internet in general for a while, but I realized that you guys were the only thing getting me through this, so I am back!

@Bubblegum89. Ugh that sucks. I hate it when something comes up...or doesn't come up during fertile week. Are you giving him internal evils ? Lol. I have never had a cold sore.

@ronswansonstache. Ah thanks. I might take a lower dose during the first bit and then boost it up after OV. I just wanted to make sure. Those vitamins do affect us, I have been taking zinc and magnesium and don't laugh but my last cycle was 26 days - I have NEVER had a what I call normal length cycle before, I wasn't only pissed off when flo showed on Thursday, I was gobsmacked. I also had a good libido throughout the cycle too which had kinda been lacking before.

@SoozC. Ha ha! I tell myself all kinds of crap during those days!

@SparkwoodAnd21. I well up at the clearblue advert where they do the digital test together in the bathroom!

@limplettuce.

Hi looking afaik it's safe to take for the whole cycle (as long as it is under 200mg) but it helps lengthen the lutuel stage so I've just been taking during the second half of the cycle.

I’m so pissed off that OH has a cold sore in time for fertile week. No dtd for me. What a waste.

highwater air b&b is about £200 a night for when we want to go. It’s for a lovely friend’s wedding so I’m definitely going, but we can’t afford for DP and DS to come too. I’ll have another solo friend there so we will be each other’s dates.

Sorry, I know this is a basic knowledge question for you expert ladies but is it ok to take B6 all cycle long or just after ov?

@sparkwood Not sure I've seen your conversation on Amsterdam but try Airbnb for somewhere to stay!