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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

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SoozC · 10/02/2018 13:24

Thread five!

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.
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Pinkemi · 27/02/2018 15:23

So I am now in my TWW and already feeling melodramatic about it all! (Sigh) Proper pity party for me right now.

Catscakeandchocolate · 27/02/2018 13:30

AF was due yesterday and is yet to appear. I know i should take a test and more than likely put myself out of my misery but just living in the possibility window currently. I am sure she will be along soon like she always is. Pathetic really

LexieJean · 27/02/2018 11:21

Crap. Totally confused by my opk’s this fw. I seemed to be building up but not quite getting there and now see nothing. So I guess I ovulated already? Last month I had a really dark indicator line so there was no mistaking it. Today is cd17 so I think I ov cd16 again. Which would be 2 months regular! Will force persuade OH to dtd again tonight as a sort of last chance saloon. I hope we’ve dtd enough.

SparkwoodAnd21 · 27/02/2018 10:28

Hugs Jaggy, hope all is ok.

pinkdonkey · 27/02/2018 09:54

Hugs jaggy

My DH doesn't want to know when my fw is (too much pressure to perform) and I really don't think he understands how short it is either. He might get a clue by how often I'm trying to jump on him at that time of month though. He's on quite a lot of meds which leave him with a low drive, drowsiness and erectile problems, so dtd can be a challenge we are lucky if we manage once in the fw which sucks. Things seem to be slightly better on his new meds and I'm pretty sure we hit ovulation day this month based on opk and ovulation cramping so feeling vaguely hopeful that his swimmers are fit and healthy this month following some overall health improvements over the last few months combined with him giving up smoking and losing weight.

JaggyJobby · 27/02/2018 08:41

Dh has an appointment with the urologist in an hour to talk about feetility. He said he'd get an appointment in December but has been putting it off as he is dreading wanking into a cup and the idea that something could be wrong.

I pointed out that I had a stranger putting her fingers inside me and poked around inside with an ultrasound stick thing last week, so he can go and bloody have a wank. In any case, it looks as though I'm the problem so he's likely fine.

Got a call yesterday. They had said they'd probably give me my blood test results over the phone, but whan they called they said I need to come in for an apointment on Thursday. Actually terrified of what I'n about to be told.

JaggyJobby · 27/02/2018 08:34

@Bubblegum89 love the calender idea, my have to try that one! My DH now likes to know when my FW is, but as my cycle length varies, its more like a two week "possibly fertile window" for me.

Si1ver · 27/02/2018 08:10

@SparkwoodAnd21 technically no. I posted a few days back about having to wait six months for day 21 to fall on a week day. I have had my tsets done online/through the mail. It's not advised if you want to interpret the results yourself but mine are getting sent to a private if clinic.

PM me if you'd like some more details.

SparkwoodAnd21 · 27/02/2018 06:50

@MynameisJune yes, we have a DS. So I guess no IVF.

I am also available for coat holding and brow mopping for anyone doing any punching. People are fucking idiots.

Do I have to go to a clinic for AMH testing?

LookingAtTheStars89 · 27/02/2018 00:33

@Bubblegum89. Good luck :-) I wasn't going to comment and I didn't put what I would have liked to have put!!

@Pibbee. Ha Ha yeah, my eye was starting to do its crazy, nervous twitch thing that I seem to have developed on my ttc journey lol

On a brighter note, managed to dtd tonight - woohoo - one day down ??? to go!

Bubblegum89 · 26/02/2018 23:36

Thank you wonky :)

WonkyDonk87 · 26/02/2018 23:30

Tee hee Phibbee - from another "bitter arsehole" 😉😂😂😂

Good luck for tomorrow bubble don't let them fob you off! May the force Yams be with you x

Bubblegum89 · 26/02/2018 23:24

Thanks pibbee it’s not until 3 tomorrow afternoon. Got all day to figure out what I need to ask! I’m worried about being fobbed off tbh. Also, that thread is ridiculous and I’ve refrained from commenting on it purely because of how ridiculous it is lol

Pibbee · 26/02/2018 23:22

Good luck with your appointment tomorrow @bubblegum. What time is it?

Gaaaah the more I look at that thread the more it winds me up. Time to step away from the ‘net and go to bed methinks Hmm

Pibbee · 26/02/2018 23:17

Ha I think I know the thread you are referring to @lookinatthestars....Seriously?’

Bubblegum89 · 26/02/2018 23:12

Got another consultation at the fertility clinic tomorrow to go over my HyCoSy results and look at next steps. So tired of all this back and forth, I wish someone could just tell me what’s wrong and how it can be fixed. Sigh.

WonkyDonk87 · 26/02/2018 21:52

Deep breaths and Ginstars - Feel free to exercise the rage here if it helps you to rid yourself of it in RL x

LookingAtTheStars89 · 26/02/2018 21:38

Angry I've just really riled myself up over one of the other threads!

LookingAtTheStars89 · 26/02/2018 21:21

@LexieJean. Yeah, I hate the awkwardness of it! My DH has sleep apnea and sometimes he'll be like "let's dtd" but then he will get in bed and fall asleep! It is mortifying Confused I don't feel like I can wake him up to dtd - like some crazy sex pest lol.

@Bubblegum89. I love your calendar idea Grin I might do one and draw little pictures on the relevant dates Grin

@Si1ver. I think even with data my DH would be confuddled bless him I think he genuinely believes you can dtd any time and get upduffed!

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SoozC · 26/02/2018 21:13

You and me both, Wonky. You and me both. (Safe space, bitter hag!)

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WonkyDonk87 · 26/02/2018 21:06

Have been having a good read of the old 'BESH' threads recently, god they were an amazing bunch - worth a look at if you want to waste a few hours 😏 (and yes, I'll take comfort from threads from four years ago!)

WonkyDonk87 · 26/02/2018 21:02

Head. Desk. Slam

😂😂😂

You lot are the best. Glad I have a safe space to be a bitter old hag ☺️

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SoozC · 26/02/2018 20:56

I don't have the money for A LOT of tests. I just have a couple that sit in the cupboard until they're past their use by date!

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SoozC · 26/02/2018 20:54

Well, you know, when you do A LOT of tests it can be difficult to know what you're looking at.

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Bubblegum89 · 26/02/2018 20:51

wonky there’s a couple of threads on here at the minute so not sure which one you’re referring to but I’m sure it could apply to all of them lol I wish there was a “hide” option

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