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When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

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SoozC · 10/02/2018 13:24

Thread five!

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.
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LookingAtTheStars89 · 12/03/2018 09:54

@DoAsDreamersDo. Flowers I'm sorry you were sad x x

I had a shitty day yesterday too. My EDD is this Sunday and I am supposed to be a Godparent and my nieces christening but I've got myself so worked up by the looming birth date and crappy fertility test results that I told my DH that I couldn't go to the christening. DH told his mum (my MIL) and she couldn't wait to get on the phone and tell SIL before I'd spoken to her. So it made it look like I'd decided on a whim that I wasn't going and hadn't bothered to tell her. I'm so pissed at MIL, she did it on purpose.

I phoned my GP surgery this morning to clarify what my pelvic scan had actually shown and it's been sent back to clinical admin for "further action". What that means, I don't know.

DoAsDreamersDo · 12/03/2018 09:16

Well I hit a bit of a low yesterday - crying in the kitchen, hiding, at my Mum's because my Mum gave my heavily pregnant sister a family heirloom and I was feeling a bit rubbish about it being Mother's Day anyway. Anyway, hopefully today will be a bit better! Even though we're not 'trying' this cycle, I can tell that I'm gearing up for FW.

Hopeislost · 11/03/2018 17:59

Congratulations @minime2017 !

MynameisJune · 11/03/2018 14:44

@cariad I’m CD28 now, af hasn’t been this late since I started taking AC and it pushed ovulation back. When left to its own devices. 25/26 day cycle is usually what happens. But my af has been known to throw the odd random curveball of a long cycle for no reason. So after the bfn’s the other day I am trying to not be overly hopeful!

@chook thank you. The only positive is the longer af stays away the more my FW moves and it might span a weekend when DH is Home to give us a small chance next cycle.

Chooklass · 11/03/2018 14:40

Fingers crossed for you @MynameisJune ! X

Cariad2017 · 11/03/2018 14:06

I shall keep everything crossed for you Mynameis. What CD are you on now? Xxx

MynameisJune · 11/03/2018 14:04

@cariad thank you! It’s stoll staying away for now. I was going to test on Tuesday but I might wait. Last time I had the MC it was CD35 so I might wait until after then. That’s if I make it that far.

Highwater · 11/03/2018 13:34

Congratulations @minime! That's amazing news!

Cariad2017 · 11/03/2018 12:05

Amazing news MiniMe. Enormous congratulations!

I really hope your AF stays away Mynameis and that you get your BFP imminently xxx

MynameisJune · 11/03/2018 11:31

Fab news @minime keeping everything crossed for a happy and healthy 9 months x

Chooklass · 11/03/2018 09:38

That's lovely news @minime2017 ! It's nice to hear some positive news on this thread! Hope all goes well for you this time x

WonkyDonk87 · 11/03/2018 09:22

Congratulations @minime2017. I really understand your apprehension, if I ever get pregnant again I think I'll be in turmoil until after the 20 week scan. Hope all goes smoothly for you

minime2017 · 11/03/2018 09:19

Morning ladies. Been off the board for a while but wanted to pop on to offer some *tentative hope.
We got our bfp a week ago at 13dpo. We have been trying for our first child for around 20 months. We caught after 6 months but that resulted in a chemical at 5 wks. Things feel different this time. Lines have become stronger but id like them to be darker for reassurance. Im living in fear of the dreaded chemical happening again. I wont be 100% content until im at least 6 weeks but we are delighted and remaining optimistic.

WonkyDonk87 · 11/03/2018 09:13

Morning ladies, sorry to hear the dreaded witch has caught some of us again. Never gets easier.
I think I'm about halfway through the 2ww and ov'd on the 4th. If that is the case, then it'll be my first ever 31 day cycle (and praise be to Agnus Castus for that!). Feel like we're starting all over again and the last 18 months were pointless 😒

MynameisJune · 11/03/2018 06:43

@pink and @lost sorry for af arriving. Hope you’re both drinking all the wine

@bubble the cycles where I’ve been hopeful for one reason or another have been the hardest. I hope af stays away for you.

@chook sorry you’re feeling hopeless, pcos and endo are tough diagnoses to hear I can imagine. But I do know people that have conceived naturally with these so there is always a bit of hope. Big hugs.

As for me, af is still MIA 🙄 just wish she’d arrive now so I can move onto the next cycle even though DH will be away.

Chooklass · 11/03/2018 06:25

We must be about the same stage in cycle @Bubblegum89 - my AF due on 20th. After spending last couple of days reading about pcos and endo I have no hope left of bfps!!

JaggyJobby · 11/03/2018 03:33

@pinkdonkey & @Hopeislost sorry to hear thst AF has arrived for you guys 😧

Hopeislost · 11/03/2018 00:52

Am hoping that AF stays away from you all.

Mine finally arrived 8 days late. I was coping ok the last few months but this really messed with my head.

Bubblegum89 · 11/03/2018 00:44

Sorry everyone is feeling crappy at the moment :( it’s a week until my period is due and I realised tonight that I’ve been subconsciously feeling hopeful for this cycle and I just know when af shows up and going to be so upset. This sucks.

pinkdonkey · 10/03/2018 23:18

To be honest I stopped really expecting a BFP a while ago the obviously I still hope for it every month. Having the referal gives me some hope again.

Chooklass · 10/03/2018 22:23

Sorry about AF @pinkdonkey. I felt the same after referral - a bit calmer & resigned to it taking a while x

pinkdonkey · 10/03/2018 22:15

Well AF has arrived properly this time. In away I feel like this fertility clinic referal has taken the pressure off a bit. Like I've admitted that we are not likely to get pregnant before then anyway.

lolli18 · 10/03/2018 17:25

Bloody witch hahaha I'm 16 days late now and nothing but spotting when have a BM no cramps just lower back ache and hot all the time then obviously to make things annoying my cervix is medium blends in with the wall and closed but of course a negative test. It's all a head fuck game I think Confused

MynameisJune · 10/03/2018 15:00

I should add if af had arrived on time fw would have started next Friday and we’d have at least got 3 or 4 times in before DH went away. I’m so annoyed 😒

MynameisJune · 10/03/2018 14:59

@lexie the bloody witch (pun intended 😂) needs to get here ASAP if she is coming. Hope yours stays away and you get a bfp. DH is away mon - fri for he next two months so I think I’ll have to just live with the enforced break.

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