TTC #2 February BFPs

Sorry to hear AF arrived @Cariad2017. Be kind to yourself.

I hear you about the retail therapy. I don’t buy myself clothes anymore. It’s all for DD (who, incidentally, just reverse-crawled for the first time!). I swear around 30% of the reason I want another baby is that, needing maternity clothes, I’ll at least have an excuse to buy myself some new things.

Congratulations Unicorn.

AF has just arrived... Onwards and upwards to Cycle 18. Off to console myself with some online Retail therapy (which will invariably involve buying more clothes for DS! 😂)

Congratulations!

And if I ov'ed yesterday afternoon would we still be in with a chance if we dtd tonight?!

Congratulations @Unicornchaser I'm now on CD18 of a 28 day average cycle (sometimes they're up to 32 days). DH and I have been dtd eod from cd 6 until Tuesday (cd 15). Yesterday I had a lot of ewcm but both DH and I were exhausted from work and fell asleep without dtd am I still in with much of chance if we dtd on cd 15 and ov'ed on cd17?!

@Unicornchaser, I’d say that’s pretty clear! Congratulations!

I think my fertile week is over as had quite strong ov cramps yesterday. Will keep dtd for a couple more days just in case cramps are before ov - plus that may help make the tww seem shorter!

Omg! Shaking so hard here, does anyone else see what I see? Super faint since been to the toilet 4 times already this morning and drank a lot of water at the gym......

Lopey - thank you for thinking of me! Expecting AF any time today. She never disappoints so I know she’ll turn up at some stage - I’m also a glutton for punishment and having had about 4 BFNs this month, I know I’m out!

Feeling a little less blue about it than I was earlier in the week. We’re going to see a Consultant Urologist on Monday (privately) to get DH checked out (mainly because if our issues are male factor alone, we’re both slightly baffled as to how things have changed so dramatically since we conceived DS, so it would be good to see if there’s an explanation)...

We’ve also got a further appointment at the fertility clinic on 26 March where I’m planning to push for a HyCoSy as although the scan I had didn’t reveal any issues and my cycles are as regular as clockwork, I’m keen to check that my one Fallopian tube is still functioning and that there’s nothing else preventing conception... Once that’s done, I think we might try and get a cycle of IVF done before the Summer’s out, as I suspect (given that Cycle 18 #ttc2 is imminently upon us) that our chances of conceiving naturally are fast dwindling...

Browneyedgirl myname I've not heard of the ava bracelet, not sure i can justify the costs but if we're considering ivf (which we have to pay for here in Australia) i guess it's not a lot in comparison!

lopey funny we have such similar cycles and control freakery have you ever been told that the short luteal phase is an issue? I haven't, but was just wondering from your experience. My obgyn wasn't concerned but she seemed pretty laid back (ha) about most things so who knows. And i know your pain, my dd has just started sleeping through, she had a few months a year ago when she'd sleep through but recently its been 1-2 times a night.. my dh has night terrors so they're both sleep saboteurs, i was considering booking myself into a hotel to get a solid 8 hours without the pair of them messing with me!

Did you guys just use normal thermometers at one decimal place or should i have gone niche with a 2 decimal jobby?

@cat @myname I am tempted to get the Ava bracelet as well if I end up with AF this month. I'm hoping that if I do get pregnant I'd be able to share it with friends. I haven't read too much about it so I'm hoping it's something I can share with others while I don't have a use for it.

@cat I’m contemplating buy an Ava bracelet as im useless at temping due to DD. It’s £200 but figured if it worked it was worth it 🙈

Hi and welcome browneyedgirl - no idea on the probability based on age but imagine that dtd 2-3 days should give you a fighting chance? Fingers crossed for you!

I've gone turbo ttc and bought a thermometer for temping. I think I'm pushing my obsessive tendencies to the limit but it suddenly occurred to me that i might be getting my ov date wrong as i have a long pre-ov phase (17 days) then short luteal (12 days) and temping should help. Or turn me loopy.. loopier i mean

Hi All!

I'm 36
TTC#2
Cycles: 4
DD: 14months
AF Due: 22 Feb

I believe I ovulated 6 Feb possibly 7 Feb but DTD on the 3rd, 4th and 8th. What's the likelihood of getting pregnant DTD two to three days before ovulation at my age? For a while I felt like I could be with my uterus feeling heavy. Kind of hard to describe but perhaps it's just psychosomatic and wishful thinking.

Your not You’re

BFN at 11dpo at this end so I know I’m out. We’ve decided to make an appointment with a Consultant Urologist to talk through what might be causing DH’s poor SA, not least as if we are going to end up spending a fortune on IVF we’d rather give ourselves the best possible chance.

CatRen - Sorry to hear about you’re friend’s lack of sensitivity - those who’ve never been through this seem to find it very hard to identify IMO. It certainly doesn’t help...

I think ill be joining you mynameis as I've got the hormonal crash as well, and at 13dpo my tests are coming back white as white so on to the next cycle..

Sorry you're feeling rubbish cariad i totally empathise.

I was told by a friend (who got 'surprise' preggers with no 2 and it was earlier than they'd planned) that i should stop "trying" and it will just happen.. took all of my willpower not to shout at her.. i am seriously not this angry and depressed irl.. i hope not anyway!!

Thanks both, I was getting all the pre af symptoms so wasn’t totally unexpected.

Rhi - I got my BFP with DS on Easter Sunday, so you never know...

10 DPO at this end and the monthly hormone crash has hit, so I know I’m out... Feeling tearful and as though it’s never going to happen, no matter how hard we try... Currently drowning my sorrows with a glass of bubbles... Onwards and upwards to Cycle 18, which is due to end just in time for me to turn 36 (oh joy!)

Sorry af arrived@MynameisJune

@Cariad2017 do you think the Easter Bunny has any sway with the stalk? I'll swap all my Easter eggs for a bfp and a sticky bean!

Oh no, I’m so sorry to hear this Mynameis, although I’m fairly certain I’ll be right behind you come Friday.

It feels like this Winter has gone on forever, so I shall be keeping everything crossed that Spring brings with it a flurry of BFPs. Xxx

Af has arrived, onto the next cycle for me!

@cariad and @catren thank you, I’m okay with it. Kind of used to it now! I’m fully expecting her tomorrow bang on time.

@cat sorry for the bfn but 11dpo is still very early!

@lopey sorry to hear things aren't going so well. I certainly said i wished i had have gotten more help sooner so would recommend doing all you can even if private - particularly if you're worried about age. Sending hugs your way

Thanks @cariad. We'll see!

@Mynameisjune sorry its looking doubtful, as they say its not over till the fat lady comes and shits on your dreams (that's it isn't it?) So fingers remain crossed for you!

A bfn today for me at 11dpo but ill keep on testing until af arrives as I've got some ics now. I'm hopeful as I've got really creamy abundant cm which is really unusual at this point for me. Possibly my cycle sorting itself out still though so who knows