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Is it time to see the Dr? Feeling sad

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Merrz · 23/01/2018 09:04

AF due on Friday and pretty sure she's on her way! So that gives us 1 more chance before the 1 year ttc mark Sad
I can't believe we are here, i don't want to delay going to the Dr, obviously if there is something wrong the sooner we find out the better but i'm not sure i'm ready to accept that yet. Anyone else ttc for over 1 year? When did you make an appointment with your GP?

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Merrz · 23/01/2018 09:44

Thanks for the replies.

Cake so sorry for your loss, me neither just imagined it would happen quickly.

We are the same Miserablemouse no contraception since beginning of March last year but actively trying since July ie watching dates, opks, temping etc. I'm counting from March though because if you google, primary infertility is classed as not falling pregnant after 1 year of having regular sex without contraception. It just seems like such a depressing milestone to be reaching Sad especially when so many of our family and friends seem to be falling pregnant at the drop of a hat! That's a lovely idea about doing something nice after the appointment.

Demirose that's interesting!

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Miserablemouse · 23/01/2018 09:19

Similar here - one year in March since no contraception but only 7 cycles of "actively" trying. Not sure whether March counts as my year or whether to wait until August.

I think you're right in that the sooner you go the sooner any potential problems can be investigated or at least hopefully give you some reassurance, but it's definitely a scary (and unwanted) step.

No advice on when to see the GP but could you try and book the appointment for a day when you could go out with your partner or some friends afterwards for a nice meal and plenty of wine? Something to make that day not solely about the appointment?

FlowersWineCake to you. Good luck xx

demirose87 · 23/01/2018 09:14

Hi try not to worry. I conceived my second and third child after 12 and 14 months and was convinced something was wrong as I conceived my first immediately. I then went on to conceive my fourth after the first month of trying. No idea why it took me so long with my second and third, though they were to another man so that could be why. But just because it's taken you a year doesn't always mean there's fertility problems. Sometimes it can be normal. But I would see your doctor and get advice from them and hopefully reassure you.

Cake20189 · 23/01/2018 09:13

Been TTC for 16 months , had an ectopic pregnacy about 11 months ago and I lost my left tube xxx

Cake20189 · 23/01/2018 09:12

I totally sympathise 💐 I’m going to make a GP appointment If I haven’t conceived by next month. It’s upsetting and scary, I never thought I would be in this position!