Is it time to see the Dr? Feeling sad

I wasn't passing my view I was just saying I'm anti vaccine and I'm not trying to create an argument sorry it's just my opinion (nor do I need to explain why to you)

Sorry to butt in...

Owl. You're against vaccination? So you're pro small pox? polio? You've been protected your whole life by the vaccinations of others, nevermind your own.

Please consider a more balanced research approach and finding out the benefits of vaccinations before you pass on such an extreme view to any future generations...

I can totally sympathise I'll be onto cycle 15 if af shows this weekend but honestly I can't bring myself to call the dr yet. I had the whole doctor thing anyway (I'm anti vaccine and medication in general) so I want to go down a more holistic approach if possible first and dh isn't keen on me going to the dr either. However now I feel like I'm in limbo with still no answers!

Thanks Chienrouge! Yes I do know and I guess he knows that it is 50-50%..but he believes in this method and at least he is willing to try this way.

If it is going to be a girl I have no idea what happens.. I hope he will come around the idea..

I feel powerless

www.genderdreaming.com/the-trouble-with-timing-dr-shettles-got-it-wrong/

BoRoni you do realise that whenever you conceive, you still have a 50:50 chance of boy:girl? The shettles method had been proven to be based on completely false assumptions.
Which means if you do conceive, there’s a 50% chance of it being a girl regardless. How will your DH feel about that?

DD1 was conceived in month 13. No known issues, just took a while. We hadn’t seen the Dr yet as we were living abroad and were waiting for our next scheduled trip back to the UK.
Just reassurance that sometimes it can just take a while!

I agree but at the age of 39 I do not have too much hope. 10 years ago we got pregnant after trying only once.

To be honest my situation is a bit tricky. It is me who really want a sencond child and my husband is sort of ok to try ..(please don't judge me). He would be very very happy with another boy but not a girl. I talked to him about this and there is nothing that would change his feelings about this issue.
So we are only trying when to ovulation test is positive to sway for a boy as we did 10 years ago.. and that is why so important to catch the lh surge . I know it is silly but im happy that at least we can try even if it is one or two day in the month.

My husband is a good man and I feel lucky that at least we can try...

I’m now on cycle 15
I went to my dr start of month 12. He did a full blood count test on the first day of af then a progesterone test day 21.

Progesterone test was negative but got a BFP 2weeks later the mc the next day.

We’re still trying and getting negatives. 6 days until af is due and we can move forward from there.

I’d say just book your app now and get bloods taken, it’s best to know what your up against rather than years of trying to find out something could have been done earlier x

It needs to be taken on cycle day 21 to check it Im ovulating at all. They check for all hormones as well as thyroid hormones. I think I ovulate at least I have a fairly regular periods. However im on cd15 without any positive opk.

... well I had the appointment.. Blood test next week and DH reffered to the fertility clinic .. I had the feeling that there isn't much we can do .. keep trying..

Im on my way to the doctors appointment right now... 9 months without success...I feels sad and disheartened... But if there is anything I can do to conceive I wanna know and do it yesterday!!!

I'll be going to initial ones by myself but if Everything is ok on my tests I imagine DH will need handholding to say the right things 😂

I have been to all mine by myself. I went with DH for his initial GP appointment to get referred for a SA, but that’s it. I’ll be going by myself to the fertility clinic appt too.

Just wanted to say that although its daunting and sad to go to the Doctors - it will also feel proactive and that you are doing something positive in your journey. The tests can take a few months as some of them require bloods at specific points in your cycle and getting a sperm analysis can be tricky too.

I am now 9 weeks pregnant after trying for 18 months so I understand your frustrations perfectly.

Good luck!

My advice would be to get it looked into as soon as you are eligible to on the nhs. I am about to go to first appt at fertility clinic (waaaah!) next week, and I had my first lot of tests in September 2017, so it has taken several months. It’s fairly nerve-wracking, but I hate being in limbo/not knowing stuff so if there are any problems, I’d rather just know so I can deal with them, rather than continue wasting cycles (if indeed there is something wrong which hopefully there isn’t...)

I gave up bc in November 2016 and still no BFP here. I contemplated at Dr at 12 months ttc but decided against as it says the average person conceived within 12 months. Considering other minor health issues I have I decided to wait until 18 month mark in May. Now I'm not sure I can wait that long so maybe book if AF shows up this cycle. Currently in tww at 2dpo.

Sorry to hear about those of you struggling to conceive particularly 1st time TTCers. Definitely go and see the doctor when you get to the year mark (6 months if you're over 35). The various tests that they do will take a few months so it's good to get the ball rolling ASAP. Make sure you tell the doctor you've been actively trying for a year as you're likely to be fobbed off. Sometimes it feels good to get the ball rolling on this as it feels you're at least trying your best. Hopefully you'll conceive anyway whilst you're waiting. Good luck! X

Merrz yeah it's pants, sorry to hear you're surrounded with pregnancies atm. Luckily nobody on my side of the family is likely to spring a baby bomb on me any time soon, but my best friend is 26 weeks with a 1st cycle honeymoon baby and I'm finding it hard not to be jealous. Fairly certain another friend is pregnant and husband's brother/SIL are TTC too so just waiting on the baby bombs there. Look after yourself.

Cake so sorry I missed your message before, must have cross posted. Sorry to hear about your loss, such a shit thing for you to go through. Good luck to you too xx

On 28th Jan this year we will have been ttc #4 for a year 😔😔. My docs said to go in after trying for a year and they will do tests but I just want it to happen. Never thought it would be this hard after already having 3 xx