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Farewell

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Cupcakesandlove · 17/01/2018 19:12

So I’m writing this to simply say I’ve given up and made a doctors appointment on the 30 th to go back on the pill.
My cousin gave birth yesterday and a close friend just announced her pregnancy.
We have been trying for our second child
For over a year, and now enough is enough. For whatever reason I’m only suppose to be a mother to my lovely daughter.
I’ve had my bloods taken all we’re ok I had Day 21 bloods taken and the levels were rising but I tested on the wrong day, I’ve done opks everything. Nothing worked.
I found out I seem to be ovulating on day 14/15 of a 25 day cycle so it’s obvious that I will never amount to a viable pregnancy.
As I’m 27 and I have a child my gp won’t put me on any medication.
I think it’s “gods” way of saying it’s not suppose to be. Then tonight when my friend announced she was expecting I cried not happy tears tears of utter devastation. Like my heart had literally been ripped out of my chest sobbing.
It’s rediculous as I have a child and maybe I need to focus on being happy with her (which I am).
Really I just wanted to say thank you for all the invaluable information this website has supplied me with, if I only I could somehow forget it all!!!!
But anyway good luck to everyone on here and I hope that how ever long you have been trying a day a year or 10 years
I really do hope you all get a joyous baby at the end of it!
All the best. X

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MynameisJune · 17/01/2018 19:33

I’m so sorry to read this, long term TTC for any baby whether it’s no1 or no21 is still bloody heartbreaking.

I’d definitely take some time off TTC, but I would abstain from any birth control and just let whatever happens, happen. Big hugs x

Bubblegum89 · 17/01/2018 19:31

I’m sorry to hear that :( I’m 28 and have been ttc #2 for 15 months. All my tests have come back fine so far as have OH’s. Because I have my daughter, we are not eligible for any fertility treatment on the NHS even though my OH is not her biological dad.

Have you had tests such as an HSG to check your uterine cavity and your tubes? Sometimes you can be ovulating perfectly fine (as I am) but if you have blocked tubes or adhesions in your uterus (as I believe I have), that will stop you from conceiving until you have them fixed. My consultant at the fertility clinic said that it’s perfectly normal for a couple to take two years to conceive naturally even without issues.

I know how you feel about other pregnancies. My little sister is 35 weeks pregnant and her pregnancy was an accident. I have just blocked three people on a Facebook in the last few months as they announced how they were pregnant either on first try or that they weren’t even trying. There’s at least one thread on here every day of a nice positive pregnancy test with the caption “omg bfp and it’s only our first month ttc!” It breaks my heart.

I don’t think you should give up totally. If you haven’t had any internal tests, push for them. If you have, just continue to ttc but don’t put so much pressure on yourself. I wasted my entire 2017 stressing about ttc. I refuse to waste any more time. I’m going to live my life with my partner and my daughter this year. I think after ttc for so long, a break is just wait you need. Don’t rule yourself out completely. I totally understand you though, the amount of times I’ve said “that’s it, I’m giving up, it’s obviously not meant to be” is ridiculous! I wouldn’t wish long term ttc on my worst enemy. It’s soul destroying and worse so when you’re surrounded by people who only need to sniff a penis and they get pregnant. Sending hugs Flowers

Justwaitingforaline · 17/01/2018 19:30

I get it, OP, I’ve given up too. Cycle 18 was last month and I’ve booked in to get the copper coil later this month. I just can’t deal with the sadness and longing any more and somehow it seems a hell of a lot easier to deal with when it’s your choice. Flowers

mamabear05 · 17/01/2018 19:25

Awww @Cupcakesandlove I'm so sorry to hear you're really feeling it atm. Would you not go through a period of NTNP and just see what happens?? They do say when they relax it often takes women but suprise! Have you also looked into dietary changes to help lengthen your luteal phase? I'm sure I've read about different vitamins having this effect x

twobambinos · 17/01/2018 19:16

Oh god I'm so sorry cupcakes.
It took us 9 months go conceive our second. No explanation why it took longer than the first. I was 27 at the time too. We eventually went for acupuncture and I was taking agnus cactus. I think this was to lengthen lp.
If you look at the stats about how many conceive within the first year and then the second year I think it's around 90%. Try not to give up hope. Xxxx