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Where there’s a Yam, there’s a way

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Bubblegum89 · 08/01/2018 21:55

Thread numero four-o.

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shall not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shall not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shall not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if they do so.

Welcome and welcome. We’re all very nice and friendly despite being horrible bitter old cows ☺️

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MynameisJune · 06/02/2018 11:50

@limp keeping everything crossed that it is just too early to see anything yet on a scan. Keep us updated x

@si1ver af arriving early is such a fucker. Seems worse than it arriving on time. Have all the wine.

I’m still away and I can safely say that all my symptoms I get each month are created by my own mind. I’ve been busy since ovulation now 8dpo and not a single symptom to spot. So I’ve concluded I think too much about this when I’m home and cause them myself!

bama4 · 06/02/2018 10:48

Ladies have just stumbled across this whilst looking to order opks - has anyone tried anything like this is it worth it? Been trying for 9 months so dr won't offer any insight just yet....

Where there’s a Yam, there’s a way
Where there’s a Yam, there’s a way
ronswansonstache · 06/02/2018 08:53

No AF here yet but got BFN this morning (CD28). I woke up at about 5am to POAS using FMU but 'missed' and managed to invalidate the test! So back to bed for about 2.5 hours lying awake waiting to take test number two!

I've a terrible headache so expecting AF later today.

DoAsDreamersDo · 06/02/2018 08:34

Si1ver that's shit - sorry about AF

NimbleKnitter · 06/02/2018 08:26

Limp, I know it's shit, and I'm scared to get your hopes up, but a lot of these do turn into babies. It's just too early to see them.

Hug x

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Bubblegum89 · 05/02/2018 23:13

Oh si1ver af is a bitch :(

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LovePinaColada · 05/02/2018 21:41

Sorry @Si1ver. How crap. I feel I may be in the same boat soon - definitely hormonal & classic AF cramping! Ugh.

Milknosugar1 · 05/02/2018 21:27

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Si1ver · 05/02/2018 21:15

My fucking period has turned up FOUR days early.

FFS.

WonkyDonk87 · 05/02/2018 20:38

Keeping everything crossed for you Limp
Bubble that's totally understandable, I think focusing on investing in your emotional wellbeing is never a bad thing

SoozC · 05/02/2018 20:25

Sorry it's hard news that you have to wait, Limp, got everything crossed all is okay xx

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Steaksauce · 05/02/2018 18:32

@LimpLettice sorry you didn't get a conclusive answer today, how awful to be stuck in limbo. Fingers crossed you get good news on Wednesday. X

@Bubblegum89 totally get your feelings on TTC. Sometimes a break is what's needed as you're right, it's all so exhausting and takes over your life. Hope you get some good news though.

FairyAnn · 05/02/2018 18:06

Thanking of you Limp, hope all goes well on Wed

Good idea Bubblegum I'm tempted to do the same myself. I'm so sick of being up then down every month. It's exhausting!

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Bubblegum89 · 05/02/2018 17:07

Don’t be silly, Limp that’s what the thread is for :) get some rest and look after yourself. I’m not religious at all but I’ll pray that it’s all good news!

I’ve decided that I might just stop ttc altogether. If they tell me on Wednesday my tubes are blocked then I know that that means IVF is the only option as they won’t attempt to unblock them. So if that’s the case, I’m just going to go stop ttc. At least for this year. I wasted my entire 2017 ttc’ing and I don’t want to waste another. I think I will just do stuff for me. I’ll go on that holiday and go out with friends and just enjoy myself and then maybe start saving up for IVF in 2019. I just can’t do this anymore, it’s exhausting

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LimpLettice · 05/02/2018 16:54

You're all so lovely and I realise it's a bit mememe on the wrong thread, I'm sorry. Just feeling very low and fed up. DP is frantically googling the difference between anechoic spaces and the sac, wondering if I ovulated late because we didn't track, all sorts. I guess I'm more pragmatic but the not knowing is hideous. Wednesday is the anniversary of my oldest friends death (9 years) so I'm sure I will be a bundle of joy. Sad But it can't come soon enough. As soon as DD is in bed I'm going too.

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QuietTime · 05/02/2018 15:21

Oh @limplettice what an ordeal, and frustrating not to get an answer. Really hope the spotting stopping is a good sign and you get clearer and more positive news on Wed

Also, sorry for tagging you in the other thread, was getting mixed up between the two Confused

Take care of yourself xxx

DoAsDreamersDo · 05/02/2018 15:02

Oh gosh Limp I really hope that you get positive news on Wednesday xx

LovePinaColada · 05/02/2018 14:44

Hope you're ok @Limp - I have absolutely everything crossed for you. X

RhiBee29 · 05/02/2018 14:25

@LimpLettice that sounds awful. Hoping hcg has risen on Wednesday x

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Bubblegum89 · 05/02/2018 14:23

That’s crappy limp but I suppose there’s still hope. Fingers crossed that it’s just too early to see properly

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LexieJean · 05/02/2018 14:04

Oh @limp you poor thing to be stuck in limbo, I can only imagine how horrible and hard that is. Keeping everything crossed for you some more positive news on Wednesday. In the meantime try to take care of yourself. 🍀

LimpLettice · 05/02/2018 13:53

Well, that was fun, not.

Had an ultrasound and bloods. Ultrasound was TrV, I have a retroverted uterus so hard to see much. Sonographer said she could see a small sac, no pole and not a lot else. Went back to the midwife, the sonographer had marked it as an anechoic space not a sac, so basically inconclusive with a diagnosis of either early pregnancy or early pregnancy failure - they call it pregnancy of unknown location. MW said she does 3 or 4 of these every single day and in the majority of cases it is just too early to see anything either way. I have to go back Weds morning for another HCG draw, and they will call me Weds afternoon. If HCG same, it is ectopic, if lower, a loss, and if rising, all good to go and probably a scan to try and find a heartbeat.

TLDR: Inconclusive, more bloods on Weds. Total fucking limbo. No bleeding since Saturday, whereas last time full bleed started 36 hours later, but basically nothing means anything and it is just a waiting game.

Si1ver · 05/02/2018 12:16

Good luck today @LimpLettice hope everything is ok.