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Where there’s a Yam, there’s a way

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Bubblegum89 · 08/01/2018 21:55

Thread numero four-o.

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shall not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shall not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shall not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if they do so.

Welcome and welcome. We’re all very nice and friendly despite being horrible bitter old cows ☺️

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LookingAtTheStars89 · 14/01/2018 00:49

@SoozC. I think I'm 8. I've had a few on and off cramps this evening. I never normally get cramps pre af but there's always a first time! I've been telling myself all week that it's not going to happen this month! But I suppose we never really know that.

NewSense · 13/01/2018 23:03

Thing is, I'm so sure it's going to be something totally embarrassing like, they'll scan me and say "yeah, you've just got a whole load of trapped gas, stop wasting our time", but now I actually want to go to that embarrassing appointment just to put my mind at ease! I absolutely 100% should not have googled. I'm quitting google.

(except of course to check if something is an early pregnancy symptom, of course Wink . "is an itchy left eye a sign of early pregnancy" etc...)

SoozC · 13/01/2018 22:25

Oh, New, that is such a dreadful worry to have. I hope your badgering on Monday produces results and I wish you every luck it is nothing severe and is something completely minor and treatable xx

NewSense · 13/01/2018 22:10

Well I'm utterly depressed. Early December I went to the GP about various unrelated things that I wanted to ask (tiredness, stabbing twinges in uterus since miscarriage last year, bloating, back ache amongst others), and she was pretty chilled about it all, but said she'd refer me for a scan to check all was ok inside after my miscarriage etc. Said it would be about 2 weeks, as they usually scan quickly. Still no sign of an appointment over a month later, and some of the things I'd mentioned to her are getting worse (more twinges etc), so I foolishly FOOLISHLY googled the symptoms I'm getting, and guess what comes up? A list of ovarian cancer symptoms. Of which I have like, 8.

So now I'm freaking out (although I know it's stupid, because google is not a doctor, and chances are so so slim that it is any kind of cancer), and will be phoning first thing on Monday to say WHERE'S MY FLIPPIN' SCAN??

And at least it's taken my mind of pregnancy symptom spotting. Now I'm bloody cancer symptom spotting ... (sob)

SoozC · 13/01/2018 21:54

Looking, I fear that is a futile wish! I, too, have had the cm. How many dpo are you?

LookingAtTheStars89 · 13/01/2018 21:51

Migraine. Cold like symptoms. Abundance of lotiony/watery cm....MUST. STOP. SYMPTOM.SPOTTING.

SoozC · 13/01/2018 21:43

Twinge, twinge, twinge...

StargazyDrifter · 13/01/2018 18:11

@Bubblegum89 Thank you for this excellent, and somehow life affirming, thread. I have lurked on previous ones and now turning my mind to TTC again after MC. Fingers crossed for everyone!

MynameisJune · 13/01/2018 17:12

@milk no worries, but didn’t want bubblegum telling me off for symptom spotting 😂

Milknosugar1 · 13/01/2018 16:57

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MynameisJune · 13/01/2018 16:50

@milk I’m more concerned that I have none of my usual tww symptoms that signal my progesterone has gone up. Could be masked by this cold I have. The flapjack sounds yummy.

SoozC · 13/01/2018 14:51

Oh, and chocolate flapjack?! Yummmmmmmm!

SoozC · 13/01/2018 14:49

More faint nausea today (went to a street food market so probably just the smells mingling together) and more odd cm. No spotting yet but I'm sure that's to come. Cramping never really kicked in though. Sharp pain in side of right boob for a minute or so.

Any more of those sound familiar, Bubble? Grin

I will just say that I had lunch with a friend who's 15 weeks and I managed to be completely happy for her. So even if my body lets me down this month I'm pleased to know it's not turned me into a horrible person (despite what some intruders people may say)!

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MynameisJune · 13/01/2018 13:49

@sooz and @bubblegum I never test anymore, not even if af is a day or so late. I just can’t stand to see the stark white test window anymore. A colleague, and another friend have both just announced pregnancies. Both are due just after my due date would have been had I not had the mc.

Pretty sure I’m out for this month, 7dpo and not a single tww symptom going.

SpongeCake23 · 13/01/2018 13:00

Here I am back again.

We are on month 6 of properly trying now. Really didn't want to step over into the 7 month mark Sad

Anyway, fingers crossed for this month, I'm on CD9, so not even ovulating yet but feeling positive.
We dtd last night anyway.
I think O is due mid-end of next week.

I'm getting weird left sided pain which I think might be a cyst, I can't be sure. If it continues I'll go to my GP. It's sort of groin/lower abdo/pelvic area. Feels sore and tender to touch...which is unusual. Almost like something is inflamed in there.
It can't be my appendix because it's the wrong side!
No pain with sex.

Bubblegum89 · 13/01/2018 12:57

It’s just so damn frustrating. Like ttc wasn’t hard enough without adding more crap on top of it. And Sooz every time you mention a symptom, I notice I have it too haha I’ve got watery but lotiony cm too. I know I’m not pregnant though, I don’t know how I know (apart from the previous 14 failed months) but I just do. I’m keeping everything crossed for you!

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QuietTime · 13/01/2018 12:24

Sorry about AF lexie - good for you for going ahead with your class though! Have you had the results yet? The 21-day test is to check progesterone for ovulation, so guess if it seems low/borderline then maybe check with the GP about whether you should redo it?

sooz following with interest :) hope AF doesn't arrive but thanks for entertaining us with the rolling symptoms

bubblegum hope the consultant has some answers - must be so frustrating. Am with you on testing, just wait for AF to rock up (which it's due to do any day...fucker...)

I use Clue - haven't tried the others, but does the job for me and quite like the layout. I take the predictions on specific day for ovulation, etc with a pinch of salt...

LexieJean · 13/01/2018 11:17

Good to know you’re experiencing every single possible symptom @sooz! 😂

I use Ovia and Clue- find they’re about a day or two different to each other when predicting FW and af. After a break of a few months I’m going to use opks next month. Af arrived this morning with some nice cramps for my yoga class after 3 shitty nights of night sweats. That means last cycle was only 26 days. Does that mean my day 21 bloods are wrong?

SoozC · 13/01/2018 10:50

Bubble, that is weird they should become a bit screwy. Hopefully someone will be able to give you answers. Our bodies are ridiculous, are they not? I'd say stock up on the Wine and chocolate for next weekend just in case xx

Weird cm just now. Kind of watery but also a bit lotion-y. Haven't the foggiest about that one. Probably a yeast infection. lucky me

Bubblegum89 · 13/01/2018 10:37

Sooz strong smelling wee here too haha but I always get that during the tww so nothing new for me. Are you going to test do you think? Or wait until af is late? I can’t bring myself to test anymore, I can’t cope with the disappointment.

I’m not using fertility apps anymore but when I was, I used Ovia and Glow. They are a little more simplistic I think, I like the colours 😂 I found them both spot on accurate up until September when my cycles started being irregular.

Well the Uber sore boobs have started today so I guess I was right in saying I ovulated last Friday (cd11) so this cycle will only be 25 days. I know it’s not that bad but I don’t understand why after regular 28 cycles for 16 goddamn years, that they’re suddenly all over the place. Nobody can seem to give me a possible reason. It’s top of my list of questions to ask the consultant at the clinic on Tuesday. On the bright side, my period will start on Friday rather than Monday. So I’ve got the weekend to feel sorry for myself instead of being stuck in work. Every cloud.

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SoozC · 13/01/2018 10:16

Tomorrow, because if it's happy news I can spend the day with DH rather than having to go to work! Even though I'd rather not test at all. On second thoughts, I might not test and just wait and see. I really hate seeing negative tests and then af arrives later that day.

I think I'm having mild cramps, very very mild, probably the start of af. So she'll turn up this evening or tomorrow I reckon.

NewSense · 13/01/2018 09:43

sooz ... Just out of curiosity. Not that I'm over-invested... But... When will you be testing??

DoAsDreamersDo · 13/01/2018 09:42

I use ovia, glow and fertility friend. I only have fertility friend from when I tracked my temperature, which I don’t anymore so it doesn’t really do a lot for me now. The most accurate at estimating AF is glow, so I trust this one for the dates of when I’m most fertile (ha, guess that’s not really working out for me is it?)

MynameisJune · 13/01/2018 08:37

@sooz got to be pregnant.....not a possible uti no way....

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