Boy and a girl/pigeon pair/perfect family + 1 ??

I'm not sure why the wet dreams and periods mean anything tbh! Surely parent don't get involved with either. Talking to them about physical manifestations of puberty is the same deal for both sexes. Babies and young children are all different. Two boys might have as different needs as a girl and a boy. That's not 'genderless bullshit', that's humanity!

Well considering when a boy pees with his nappy off it hits the ceiling. When they hit puberty they have wet dreams, hardons etc you clearly don't experience this with your female child so yes there are differences between raising a boy and raising a girl.

Girls have periods and can give you grandchildren. Yes boys also give you grandchildren but ask any grandparent and they will tell you it's a completely different experience with your daughter compared to your son!

So I stand by my comments and I stand by OP in saying it's nice to have one of each for the parents and I understand what she meant and it's not all of this modern day genderless bullshit that everyone is spouting.

People say all sorts of shit.

I've got two girls, and when they were young I used to get told how lucky I was ... no cold sports / football runs / life is more sedate with girls / boys are only sons until they get a wife, daughters are daughters for life.... now they're older, I get comments about teenage hormones and DH moving out to the shed!

Then there were the others who told me that boys are much more loving than girls, mums feel differently about their sons, dads always want sons or they miss out...

It's all bollocks.

I thought a Pigeon Pair was a G/B pair (girl first, then boy)

The alternative is a Gentleman's Family which is B/G (boy then girl)

I am off to google now to check!

People say a lot of ridiculous things when you have young babies. It stops when they get older thank god.

Having a boy and a girl is meaningless as ALL babies and young children have their own distinct personalities, so you really aren't 'experiencing' anything that a mother with two children of the same sex isn't experiencing.

My own very small experience of parents with one of each is that the gender sterotypes are usually very strong, ie girl is super girly pink and sparkles, boys are football and tough guy and indulged but that is purely my own limited experience.

Oh ffs. Regardless of how you choose to raise your kids there are still differences between having a baby boy and having a baby girl. I totally understand what the OP meant by "better for the parents" 🙄🙄🙄 the parenting experience differs between the two

The title of this thread is not supportive. That's why the OP is getting negative reactions.

These forums are supposed to be supportive. Yes, suggesting a 'pigeon pair' is the perfect combo is an odd thing to do, but it's not the OP's opinion, it's what people frequently say to her and so seems to have made her question her desire to have a third. OP if you feel your family isn't complete and you'd like a third, I say go for it. When I had DS at 22 I found that a lot of women my mum's age would say to me how good it was that I'd had children so young as a lot of older women have it hanging over them for years and they assumed I was done as I was a single parent. I always responded politely that it was great but actually I knew I'd want more children at some point!

Oh and I have 3 boys and genuinely wouldn't care what gender a fourth would be. It's irrelevant.

Don't listen to other people. Make your own decision. I have three and I love it. I'd like four but it looks like it's not going to happen.

I've got two boys and love having two boys.

I was momentarily disappointed when I was told the second was going to be a boy because I knew I wouldn't get the chance to experience bringing up a daughter for the sake of my first son I was really happy that I was having another boy as I love same sex siblings.

I'm feeling broody for a third now and to be honest I would probably like another little boy given the choice.

I had one of each then another.

That’s what I wanted.

I’m very happy to have two DDs. Have to say I’d never heard of a “pigeon pair” before, but on googling I see it is a thing to be desired apparently.

@tvhearts I have identical girl twins. People spout a lout of shit. They like to make conversation, about nothing. It’s a way of passing the time. I was seriously considering printing cards “yes, they’re identical, c-section, girls, not ivf, she’s the eldest, FUCK OFF.

It’s mindless chit chat.

My cousins were a three - girl, boy, girl.

In any arguments it was always two against one - the eldest against the youngest, boy against the girls.

My brother and I were just two.

Sometimes it was better. Sometimes it's worse.

I realise this is not helpful, but tbh not sure anyone can help

Recently group of mums at a toddler group i attend unanimously agreed 2 girls was their most desired combo. Reasons given were they're more likely to be close and support each other as adults, they do better at school and stay in touch with mum. I don't think my sister got the memo.

OP i got what you were saying.

People love to take things literally, twist things, make assumptions. They could get offended over anything! Dont let it bother you

It's just an odd thread.

I can understand why you'd want to think hard and discuss having a third child.

But why having a 'pigeon pair' and people constantly telling you you don't need any more children would come into it I don't know.

Do you ususally make life changing decisions on the basis of things other people say to you in passing?

I will be sad if I only experience boys.

I know I am wrong to feel that way but I cannot help it.

I've never heard anything like a pigeon pair . What bollocks.