Feel like an awful friend

Good luck! (I had three babies in 33 months because of that!)xxxxxx

Have you tried preseed?

SpongeCake I'm very similar. My brother and his gf are having a baby. Accidental bfp after only being together a few months. After the initial shock all my family are delighted and my mum especially can't wait to have a grandchild but I can't get myself past being bitterly jealous and angry about it to the point I'm struggling to be around them because I'm worried how I'll react when they speak about the baby.
This is me on to cycle 7 now of properly trying, I'm 29 and dh 39. Fx 2018 is the year it happens for us both. What makes you think you have endometriosis?

Colleague announced a pregnancy today. She has a 7 month old! genuinely happy for her but it's affected me quite a lot. Feel pretty down. Seems like everyone around me is able to have a baby whenever they feel like it!

Haha I obviously meant @spongecake not @cupcake! New year's diet clearly has cake on my brain... 😂

@cupcake it sounds like you've got it covered! I'm using pregnacare and EPO (until ov) and dh is using Wellman and extra CoQ10. I've also started using castor oil packs every other day up until ovulation... don't know if it makes a difference or not!

@Biscay totally! Really difficult. On one hand it's silly to put our lives on hold indefinitely... but on the other hand it would be madness to pay out loads of money for a trip that we might not be able to do! ☹

*@surreygirl1987 *

It's frustrating isn't it. My friend wants to go to Ghana over Easter but I've had to say no just in case!
I also want to apply for a new job this year but am worried about starting somewhere new and becoming pregnant. But I can't put my life on hold.

ps a friend told me she's pregnant yesterday (totally knew already though)... it hurt but am trying hard to be happy for her :)

Hi @spongecake I don't have any advice but wanted to say hi and sympathise. I've been trying since the summer, was SO excited and sure it would happen immediately... and like you it hasn't yet. I'm 30. I know people say it can take ages but it's so frustrating when it happens so wuixkly for so many! Still, at your ages the odds are with you. The way I'm looking at it, we are likely to be pregnant by this time next year... which is pretty cool. However I have got the ball rolling with testing as I suspect I have a thyroid issue and luckily my GP is pretty cool with testing before it's been a year! Had a blood test today so we'll see. I think the hardest thing is putting life on hold 'just in case.' If we weren't ttc I would be joining a channel swim relay team for this coming summer and/or planning an exciting summer teaching abroad in Africa... not exactly the kind of things you can combine with ttc or do spontaneously!
Anyway basically just wanted to say there are a few of us in the same boat so you're not alone! 2018 may have started uncertainly... but who knows... this time next year we might be pg or have a baby!

*@SpongeCake23 *

I'm the same as you. On 6th cycle now but I'm 32. I just presumed it would happen within a few months but nothing. Each month is horrible. I go from feeling optimistic to deflated to depressed in a cycle. I'm only a few days after ov but I've already somehow convinced myself that this isn't my month. I just feel like it can't happen which is so ridiculous really. I feel so neurotic.

I've been quite open with very close friends and family about TTC. They all say don't think about it and then it will happen! how do I do this!?

Anyway, just wanted you to know that you're not alone in this

I found myself avoiding certain people at certain times and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You just need to be kind to yourself when things feel a bit tough.

I doubt it's because of your DH's age. There is a reduction in fertility as men age but it happens much later than for women. I can't remember the exact ages etc but it's unlikely that age is a factor for you or him right now. I know that when it's not happening you desperately want to find an answer as to why it's not.

We were unexplained after 3 years and various tests. We've had some private testing done recently and actually think we now understand the problem but I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes there's no reason, it just takes some of us a bit longer. And it's totally normal for a perfectly healthy couple to take up to 12 months (and in some cases over that) to conceive which is why guidelines don't allow for referral for tests until after that point.

I know it feels like a lifetime but 6 months in is still relatively early on in the ttc journey.

It's so hard not to feel the way you do when friends are falling pregnant around you and it's taking you a bit longer than you'd like. There's nothing wrong with feeling the way you do. It took us over 3 years to conceive dd and I remember us counting up the number of babies born in our friendship group during that time and it was something like 17. Since having dd I've had a few losses and have had to deal with friends falling pregnant - seemingly easily - and having babies very close to various due dates of the babies I've lost. It's really really but what you're feeling is normal.

I'm sorry you feel something might be wrong - hoping that isn't the case and that it happens soon for you.

Not quite the same situation as you but I know exactly how you are feeling!

I had a late miscarriage in June, then my friend fell pregnant the next month but had an early miscarriage, then I did the month after but lost that one too (was actually my 4th in a row by this point). The month after that she conceived again. I just knew she had done, and she told us all at a party at 9 weeks. It was actually the same week my baby had been due which I was still struggling a lot with (the late loss). I smiled, congratulated and hugged her and then I drove home and sobbed. I sobbed all night and the next day, and found it all incredibly difficult.

Everything's been fine for her so far now and she's now halfway through. I recently got a bfp again and I can't lie, it's only now that the jealous feeling has started to lift slightly but it's definitely still there and probably will be until I know for sure everything will be ok with me. Please don't feel bad for how you are feeling. There's no feeling more powerful than longing for a baby, and it's completely natural to feel how you do. Take care of yourself and let it all out. I'll keep my fingers crossed you get your happy ending soon xxxx