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What are the chances of having another miscarriage?

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hopingandprayingthistime · 17/12/2017 08:29

I posted a similar thread over on the conception board but didn’t get many replies so trying again here for traffic. I would be really grateful to hear some positive messages about people who went on to have a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage. I had an early loss in August and I am now pregnant again (very early days) and I am struggling to keep positive and stop worrying that it’ll happen again. I know nobody can tell me what will happen - just looking for reassurance and positive messages to keep me going through these agonising first few weeks. Also any tips of things I can do / not to to give the pregnancy the best chance (I am taking folic acid and trying to eat more fruit and veg and stopped drinking / caffeine).

I’ll also have to deal with the problem of not drinking over Xmas as nobody will know, which will be problematic / exhausting. We don’t want to tell our families because they will be so excited and don’t know about our previous loss, and we can’t handle their disappointment as well as our own if something goes wrong. We also don’t want our private life (which we are struggling with) to be gossiped about amongst the family.

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Parky04 · 27/12/2017 19:54

DW suffered a miscarriage with her first pregnancy and then went on to have two DS. Quite a few of our friends also suffered a miscarriage and then went on to have DC.

fortifiedwithtea · 26/12/2017 11:49

Having a miscarriage doesn't change the odds of it happening again. Its just another roll of the dice. I had a MC followed by an ectopic pg followed by a live birth and then couldn't get pg again without help. Now have 2 DD and the second one conceived with the help of clomid has many problems. I see her suffering and wish I'd never had her.

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hopingandprayingthistime · 20/12/2017 15:38

Thanks Hatstand x

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Hatstand · 20/12/2017 12:56

hoping I was in your position this time last year. Currently cuddling DD Xmas Smile. Have a look at the posifricintive threads on the pregnancy board, there is lots of support there.

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hopingandprayingthistime · 19/12/2017 11:57

Thanks size best wishes for your new arrival!

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sizeofalentil · 19/12/2017 08:34

I had two mc and am now 39 wks Pg.

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hopingandprayingthistime · 17/12/2017 18:09

Thanks so much for your replies. Crossing my fingers for all of us who are expecting. Sorry for everyone’s losses.

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eurochick · 17/12/2017 17:13

I miscarried my first pregnancy but my second resulted in a live birth. They were both ivf. Miscarriage is really common and most people who have them go on to have healthy pregnancies. It's normal to worry though. I can't say I ever relaxed. The three weeks of first trimester bleeding didn't help!

AlbusPercival · 17/12/2017 16:44

I had 2 mc one after the other.

I was terrified all pregnancy but now have a bouncing one year old.

A friend had a mc in her first pregnancy abd now has a 6 month old.

All the best to you

pastabest · 17/12/2017 16:37

The risk of having a miscarriage with each pregnancy is estimated to be around 1 in 5. It’s only if you have more than two in a row that the risk increases because usually it means there is something else going on.

Anecdotally it is extremely common to have a miscarriage with your first pregnancy rather than any others.

My first pregnancy was a miscarriage. I have gone on to conceive successfully twice since (1 baby, one on the way)

TheChineseChicken · 17/12/2017 16:33

My understanding is that you're no more likely to have two miscarriages than one - it's only after 2 or more than there is an increased risk of subsequent ones. That's because it's so common to have one and usually doesn't indicate any underlying problem.

Anyway, I had one at 9 weeks after over a year of trying, got pregnant 3 months later and now have an 18 month old.

AdalindSchade · 17/12/2017 08:57

Millions of women have healthy babies after miscarriage. I was a nervous wreck through my second pregnancy so I completely empathise but I had a healthy baby at the end.
There used to be a support thread on here for women pregnant after miscarriage but it may have disappeared.

Moraelin · 17/12/2017 08:55

My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 8 weeks, but my 2nd was successful and I now have a healthy 3 yr old snuggled up in bed with me. So definitely try and be positive.
There isn't a huge amount you can do to prevent miscarriage, I've read about low dose aspirin but you don't know the reasons for your first loss.

Can't really help about the non drinking- maybe say you're on a health kick after what happened and cutting out alcohol? Or bring fizzy water and pretend it's fizzy wine?