Trying for our first baby! EEEEK!

I started charting straight away too (for exactly the same reason as sparks) all the advice I'd seen was that it is perfectly normal to take up to year, which as I'm the wrong side of 35 with pcos we thought was going to be a conservative estimate in our case, and we conceived on cycle 2 which caught us off guard. I think it wise to be cautious that it can take time but equally you need to be prepared that it can take no time at all!

Keeping track of your periods is a great shout, I did for a few months before we started ttc and was surprised that my cycle was a week longer than I thought. Helps to know these things.

(Basically don't do what we did and not bother renovating your house because 'this is likely to go on for ages yet')

I'm in a similar boat have just started trying! Love the advice from other posters, however, I have started charting right away as I am a similar age to you and I want to know exactly what is going on with my cycle so if I do need fertility assistance down the line I have plenty of data to look back on.

For instance my first month I know I didn't ovulate, so I want to keep to keep an eye on that to see if I do/don't ovulate in future cycles.

I have been reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility which was an eye opener as to how and when conception can actually occur.

Don't put things off because you might be pregnant when they will happen but do be sensible. So book your holiday for next year but don't book a zika ridden hell hole where you will be exclusively paragliding and white water rafting.

Don't tell people you are ttc! Apart from the fact nobody needs to know you are dtd every night (!) it puts more pressure on both of you!!

When I started TTC I got loads of ovulation sticks and apps and a thermometer.

To be honest it took the fun out of trying. All I would say is forget all that for a couple of months and just enjoy trying. I found I didn't need any of that stuff after all.

My advice is this; don’t expect it to happen quickly, most of the time it doesn’t and it can take up to 12 months for a perfectly healthy couple to conceive. Don’t overthink symptoms in your two week wait, it’s got nothing to do with whether you are pregnant or not, it’s purely hormonal (and you will get weird symptoms you’ve never had before!) and also don’t bother testing before a missed period. Negative tests are horrible to look at so save yourself the disappointment (and the money) good luck!

Relax, take vitamins, relax, don't fret if it doesn't happen straight away, and did I mention relax

Remember that it's totally normal for conception to take up to 12 months, even without any fertility issues. You have a one in four chance of getting pregnant each month and that's if you have sex at the right time.

I'm not trying to be negative, but I wish someone had spelt this out to me when I started trying.

Give yourself a few months before you start charting and temping etc. Dtd every other day in the meantime. No BFP within 3 to 4 months then start ovulation sticks.

Hi, very exciting times! Start taking your vitamins now (I’m taking pregnacare as we’re trying for #2). Limit caffeine and alcohol and just relax and enjoy rather than trying too hard. Don’t get upset if it doesn’t happen straight away as it doesn’t for everyone (I’m on cycle number 4). Good luck