TTC #2 (December BFPs)

Ahhh @Flybynight1 by your calculations AF is due tomorrow based on my temp. I was really excited about mild cramps and tiny bit of spotting meaning possible implantation until I had about half a day of dull achey uterus for half a day so now I think AF is coming however dr google thinks I have cancer 😂😂 note to self do not even bother with google x

June whatever happens you'll be feeling better about yourself and have something to focus on... getting rock hard abs!!

I'm not convinced. I've used a couple of OPKs and the line is just light, its not getting darker (we are talking over the course of a day here!!) so I'm not counting my chickens. 11/12dpo (ff and I differ slightly) so I know it's still early but still I'd like to be seeing some change (because I'm crazy!). See what temps do in the morning. Looking back at previous cycles looks like I get a temp drop every cycle at 9/10dpo, one high temp after that then AF arrives the day after, which should have been today. So I'll expect her tomorrow

Ah @cariad I’m so sorry you’re feeling rubbish. Hope you can get some downtime soon. You deserve a bfp so much.

I’m feeling really positive this month, I forgot how much exercising helps with the anxiety. Although I’m concerned that if I don’t get a bfp this month I’m going to crash so badly!

@Flybynight1 oooh fx for you I'm gunna try not to buy one till the day before plan to test 😬 x

Fly sounds really promising! Update us! How many dpo are you?

Lopey that sounds promising, fingers and toes all crossed. Both times I’ve conceived I’ve known by a complete lack of my usual pms symptoms- no sore breasts, not irritable! Cariad this years cold/flu viruses are miserable- hope you feel better soon. And hopefully Sod’s law will apply!

I’ve definitely ovulated, nipples tender today which is always a give a way. Ovulated later than usual probably as was ill, and bedroom activities were limited so looking forward to January.

Cariad sounds like your head is in the right place. Focus on all the good things you have rather than don't have and enjoy life in the here and now. It is easy to get fixated on the things we want but don't have while overlooking the things we have and take for granted. I've learnt that lesson many times unfortunately!

Lopey test test test (says the POAS addict)!! When will you plan to? It's a positive sign for sure!!

I used my FRER in anger yesterday (cramping all day and generally in a bad mood sure that AF was on her way so just wanted it out of my cupboard!) and I thought there was a mega faint line so I cracked it open but I think it was just the test line indent showing through. But temps still high today and still cramping and I have no more tests I nearly ordered some yesterday but I think just having them in the house is making me crazy so I'm going to resist and just see how it goes... I'll crack by tomorrow probably!!

Hope everyone has a good Sunday

Awww bless you, you've definitely not had it easy. My sister is 7 years younger than me I helped teach her to walk probably delayed her speech by doting on her 24/7 and I still remember coming home from school to find her in the outfit I'd chosen. Although I'm sure we would have been just as close if we where closer in age the gap is amazing. She's just turned 18 and is a better aunty then I could ever wish for my DS. For my Mam she got to spend that special time with us both as I didn't demand her needs so much. I actually planned to have a similar gap but broodiness interfered. Big age gaps are amazing it's not just twaddle people tell you to make you feel better. I hope you get a sticky BFP soon though I think you've been through enough bless you xx

Thank you Impatient. It took 11 months in total to conceive DS but I got pregnant on cycle 2 (cp); cycle 3 after that (ruptured ectopic) and then finally with DS 5 cycles later. I totally expected another rollercoaster this time around but I certainly wasn’t expecting an entire year without a hint of a BFP, so this secondary infertility malarkey has taken me a while to get my head around...

Life is pretty hectic at the moment so I’m trying not to dwell too much on what isn’t going right in my life and focus on the positives. I can see objectively that having a bigger gap between children has its advantages so I’m trying to focus on those whilst enjoying a level of freedom that I never thought I’d have at this stage (as I was fairly confident when we started ttc this time last year that I’d at least be pregnant by now!)

Awww @Cariad2017 hope you feel better soon. How long did it take to conceive your first? X

Ooooh Lopey this is supremely exciting. I shall be keeping everything crossed for you.

Waves at everyone else on this thread. This is Cycle 15 for me so I definitely hear you.

Currently CD14 and I suspect I’m due to ovulate today. Trying to take it easy this month as to be honest I’m utterly fed up with it all. My mouth is full of ulcers and I’m generally feeling run down so I’m not at all hopeful, but we’ll see... The timing of any pregnancy this cycle would be terrible for a number of reasons so although it would be amazing to invoke the law of sod and get a BFP, the next few cycles would be so much better timing wise!

@lopey that it massively encouraging and exciting. Keeping everything crossed for you!

☺️ defiantly 🤞🤞 do you wait for AF to test? X

@lopey errrr yes you are! That's rather exciting! How have you not tested yet at 12dpo?! Do it do it do it! Fx

So two people on the December board got BFPs today at 8DPO for me that's tomorrow. God it's lucky I havnt got a test in the house I'm not due AF for a week yet 🙈 x

Well I’m about to ovulate. Have usual cramps in my side and picked up some cheap OPKs in the pound shop this morning which agree. (Not a big fan of OPKs but thought I’d check today given that I’ve been sick). Will need to take a cough suppressant this evening I think! So I think the flu delayed ovulation by a few days. Assuming I ovulate tonight/tomorrow I can expect to start my next period Xmas day. At least I’ll be able to drink to get through it!

Syd I’ll probably need to go private I know, but feel I’m just waiting it out at this stage to let enough time elapse- I’m 35 next week so think in the new year I’ll get see about arranging a hysteroscopy. Given that I’ve got such extensive cervical damage following c-section and my periods have changed I’m hoping I might convince NHS to do that much. Working on losing a stone too (not very successfully!).

Then of course if I get pregnant I need to try to stay pregnant. Which is going to be tough with a cervix of

Thanks @flybynight. I'm similarly a poas addict so feel your pain of having run out of ics! Must hold out! Hopefully you get to use it

@paranormal i also had adhesions - or of my tubes was stuck to the wall of my uterus which couldn't have helped. They also found some endo so it was a bit of a mess! Not sure which area you're in but before i moved abroad the only fertility treatment/ diagnostic help i could get was the bloods and no more as i already have a child so wasn't a priority for funding. If you think you need the lap you might want to enquire with your gp and then go privately if possible. I only discovered the source of delayed fertility once i had moved abroad.

Fingers crossed you get it sorted, not knowing for sure is the worst!

Hi syd! Sounds like you more than deserve a December BFP! Everything crossed for you

I'll be testing Monday probably if AF doesn't arrive. I have used up all my Cheapy tests so have but one FRER sitting in the cupboard for use ONLY WHEN LATE!! I'm a serial POAS... Had a temp drop though today on 10dpo so I'm suspecting that test won't get used this month (I had an implantation dip with DS but that was accompanied by spotting which sadly hasn't happened this month so I think it's just AF on the way). Anywho paranormal I think I'm with you looking to January already!

Hi Syd I hope this is your month, I’m keen to have a hysteroscopy/Lap as I’m concerned I have intrauterine adhesions but obviously need to endure more fruitless cycles/early miscarriages to confirm that. Have got severe cervical scarring (confirmed at colposcopy) and much lighter periods than before DD was born so am pretty convinced!

Heart rate going up this morning so think I’m probably ovulating/ovulated overnight. Hard to tell as I’m just recovering from a horrible cold/cough. Don’t use OPKs as I work overnight a lot so catching a surge is hard, and I usually have very clear symptoms so know when I’m ovulating anyway.

Anyway have hardly done enough this month to conceive so on to January I think!