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Going insane!! BFP/Miscarriage

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Albuspotterdumbledore · 24/11/2017 15:12

I had a BFP on 14/11 and posted it on here for clarity (pic 1)

I started to bleed that weekend, it was heavy and I had cramps so naturally assumed it was a chemical pregnancy but I was still having BFP (pic 2)

Bleeding stopped on Tuesday. Obviously now is Friday and I have just had my strongest BFP to date. (Pic 3)

I have been to the doctor who told me bleeding means miscarriage and to just accept it basically.

But should my tests be getting stronger? I know I’m probably torturing myself but I read that you shouldn’t TTC again until you had a negative test?!

Anyone been in the same situation or can provide insight? Thanks in advance!!

Going insane!! BFP/Miscarriage
Going insane!! BFP/Miscarriage
Going insane!! BFP/Miscarriage
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Albuspotterdumbledore · 24/11/2017 21:50

Thank you so much. I’m trying desperately to remain neutral on the situation as I was truly heartbroken over the weekend. After 11 months of TTC with nothing it felt like a cruel twist of fate to give us a BFP and almost immediately take it away.

It’s nice to hear some success stories felloutofbed I guess it really is just a wait and see game.

When I phoned the midwife Gum she told me there was no point going to the hospital as they would just send me away as it’s too early. So I’m stuck in a never ending wait and see.

I’m going to try and hold off testing for a week and see what happens. I predict I will last until Sunday Blush

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FellOutOfBed2wice · 24/11/2017 21:30

You need to hold out for a scan I suspect. I had a BFP on 22nd December a couple of years ago but then what seemed like a very definite period the next week and it lasted the usual duration of a normal period so I assumed chemical pregnancy. But then I was still getting positives including on a digital w/c 10th January so ended up in the EPU. They found a heartbeat at just 6 weeks and that’s now my DD2 who’s 15 months. Like you say, I always assumed blood meant miscarriage but it wasn’t in my case.

Gumbubble · 24/11/2017 21:25

Could you go to the early pregnancy unit at your local hospital? That's where I was told to go when I had my first miscarriage (was 8 years ago so may have changed). The gp didnt need to refer me, but may be different at each hospital. They scanned me and did a repeat scan a week later. With my second miscarriage I just had bloods done a few days apart as was a bit earlier.

Emz01 · 24/11/2017 21:20

Digital pregnancy tests need a much higher level of HCG before they show a positive compared with standard tests. This might explain why you didn’t get a positive before. You can always try and push them a little harder even if it’s with the GP for a blood test as the 15th is still a frustrating amount of time to wait. Really hope everything works out for you OP!

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Albuspotterdumbledore · 24/11/2017 20:51

Ok so I have just done a digital which says 1-2 weeks pregnant. The one I did before AF said not pregnant. But all other tests showed positive. I know no one here has answers but I’m just so frustrated!!

I just don’t understand why my BFP’s are darker and clear blue digital is picking it up now but wasn’t before Hmm

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russiandwarf · 24/11/2017 16:41

I know what you mean, I am the same and I hate waiting around wondering, I'd rather just know either way!

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Albuspotterdumbledore · 24/11/2017 16:20

Thanks Russian to be honest I’m not getting my hopes up at all. I just want to know what’s going on with my body. I’m very much a ‘it is what it is’ kind of person but at the moment I don’t know what it is and I hate it Confused if that makes sense!

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russiandwarf · 24/11/2017 15:45

I got pregnant in July and had what I thought was AF for a whole week. I didn't find out I was pregnant until quite a while later as I had been totally fooled by this. Unfortunately I had a MMC but I doubt that had anything to do with the bleeding as baby made it to 8 weeks. My point being that if you are still having BFP I wouldn't say for certain it is a miscarriage. How frustrating having to wait until 15th Dec! Fingers crossed for you x

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Albuspotterdumbledore · 24/11/2017 15:39

Thank you!!

I have spoken to the midwife department who told me to just hang around and wait until the 15th December, when I have an appointment. But it seems so far away and I don’t think I should have to wait nearly 3 weeks for answers. I will go bloody insane!

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BertieBotts · 24/11/2017 15:24

Yes I think you need to ask to be referred either for an early scan or blood tests 48h apart.

Say you're worried about ectopic pregnancy if you like but you do need to know what's going on. It could be an infection, molar pregnancy or anything.

Emz01 · 24/11/2017 15:21

Hi OP!
That last pregnancy test definitely is getting stronger! Sounds like you spoke to a very uninterested doctor, I would definitely go back and try and see a different GP if there is one. They should be offering to do a blood test to check your HCG levels or refer you to an EPU. My sister in law experienced heavy bleeding and it turned out she was still pregnant he is now a happy and healthy 2 year old. Good luck!

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