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Chemical pregnancy

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Helen290 · 14/11/2017 11:48

Hi so this is my second one in 3 month period I know to some people that’s not a lot but it’s hard to deal with, first one happened very early and this second one I was 3.5 weeks pregnant I just wanted a bit of advice on a few things;

  1. Any tips on dealing with this?.
  2. If anyone has had one before how long does it take for your cycle to get back to normal?
  3. Advice on future testing when do people do that first pregnancy test as I tend to early tests which in turn makes me crazy?

It’s so hard to deal with 😟

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Helen290 · 14/11/2017 14:48

@MouseLove thank you for your comment I agree this time has hit me hard and the early testing made me worry it didn’t help at all, I just feel so low this time and I am loosing hope I am an inpatient person anyway which is also why I find this very hard.

I’m sick of waiting till I ovulate then not being sure cause my cycles are so irregular then the 2ww which is the worst bit then just disappointment it’s so draining.
Sorry just had enough at the moment.

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MouseLove · 14/11/2017 13:52

This probably won’t be a popular comment but id stop early testing. It’s not doing you any favours for your mental health. Anything over 5 weeks LMP is classed as a miscarriage. I’m sorry for your loss. It’s nothing you’ve done, nor is there anything you can do to stop or prevent it happening.

I’m 15 months TTC. I’ve never ever tested early and I honestly think it’s helped me not lose my ever loving mind in that time. I know I can conceive as I had a mmc at 10 weeks in February. I think early testing just makes people become obsessed, depressed and less hopeful. And that’s a really sad thing to be making your future children.

Good luck. X

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Helen290 · 14/11/2017 12:55

@QueenAmongstMen sorry early miscarriage I was roughly two weeks post my period and positive pregnancy tests etc, where as the before that one was a chemical one.

I can see the benefit of early testing just it messes with my head 😩 I get all excited sometime waiting till later is better I guess now I know something else is happening I guess.
I just want my period to come now so we can try again.

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QueenAmongstMen · 14/11/2017 12:41

When you say you were 3.5 weeks pregnant do you mean you miscarried 3.5 weeks after your BFP?

It's my understanding, though I may be wrong is that a chemical miscarriage is when a woman's period arrives pretty much arrives on time and the only reason the woman knows she ever conceived was because she tested early.

If a loss occurs a week or so after a BFP then I would class that as an early miscarriage, not a chemical pregnancy.

I have only had one early loss where I was getting positive tests for 2 weeks after my initial BFP but then they started fading until eventually they were negative and I miscarried a few days later.

My cycle returned to normal straight away.

I have always tested early and I do see the benefit of it because even if it does end up as a chemical and the period arrives on time (ish) then at least the woman knows that she can conceive.

A woman who doesn't test early and so has her periods on time may wrongly think she hadn't conceived, or medically can't conceive, when in fact she can but the eggs just fail to implant correctly.

Inability to conceive at all and ability to conceive but eggs that not able to implant are two different problems and I think it's beneficial to know which (if any) you're dealing with.

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