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Helen290 · 14/11/2017 11:48

Hi so this is my second one in 3 month period I know to some people that’s not a lot but it’s hard to deal with, first one happened very early and this second one I was 3.5 weeks pregnant I just wanted a bit of advice on a few things;

  1. Any tips on dealing with this?.
  2. If anyone has had one before how long does it take for your cycle to get back to normal?
  3. Advice on future testing when do people do that first pregnancy test as I tend to early tests which in turn makes me crazy?

It’s so hard to deal with 😟

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Helen290 · 17/11/2017 16:27

Yeh I have heard lots of rubbish about waiting etc it’s not more likely at all my fertility clinic just said continue to try she only said delay if emotionally I find it too hard, at the end of the day it’s hit or miss and hopefully eventually it will stick one thing I will do next time is; 1. Not test early.

  1. Not tell a single person until I know it’s more safe. 😊
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LisaSimpsonsbff · 17/11/2017 16:18

No, I'm not - I went to the specialist recurrent miscarriage she runs and travelled some distance to it (though apparently not that far in the range of patients they get - someone else seen the same day as me had travelled from Scotland).

QueenAmongstMen · 17/11/2017 16:14

......I was told that by one of the country's leading experts on recurrent miscarriage (Siobhan Quenby).....

Wondering if you are local to me as she was my Consultant for my most recent pregnancy...

LisaSimpsonsbff · 17/11/2017 16:03

I just wanted to say that when I was at the docs for my current pregnancy she was surprised I wasn’t told to wait at least 3 months after the first loss as it made a second loss more likely. Not sure how true that is but I would’ve saved myself some heartache had I waited.

This is not true, at all. It is an old wives' tale that some doctors still believe. I was told that by one of the country's leading experts on recurrent miscarriage (Siobhan Quenby). It wasn't your fault you miscarried again, and it isn't anyone else's fault if they miscarry twice in quick succession. Nor does it mean a pregnancy conceived quickly after loss is less likely to succeed. Please don't feel you did something wrong.

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Helen290 · 17/11/2017 12:26

I know so am I I was only 4 weeks 😖 just be glad when it’s over and we can try again it’s so annoying waiting for that ovulation lol it feels like forever fingers crossed better luck next time 🙂 XX

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Nikki2ol6 · 17/11/2017 12:17

Mine was so heavy and painful too and I had only got a positive 8dpo and bleeding began to 10dpo I was so shocked at how much worse it actually was compare to normal. I hope it’s all over soon for you

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Helen290 · 17/11/2017 07:54

I have started my period yesterday and It’s so heavy and unbelievably painful I never get painful periods so really struggling, I will just be glad when it’s over 😩.

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QueenAmongstMen · 15/11/2017 20:05

Did you have a normal length cycle after that?

Yes I did - everything returned back to normal straight away. My DH wanted to start TTC'ing again straight away but emotionally I just couldn't face it so we had a few months off.

It all worked out though and I'm now snuggled up to my 3 month old son.

I hope you fall pregnant again soon and that you gave a happy outcome.

Nikki2ol6 · 15/11/2017 15:34

Aww that’s sad but it will be all over with soon and back on the ttc road. Hopefully your next baba sticks xx

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Helen290 · 15/11/2017 14:05

@Nikki2ol6 ah ok yeh was 4 weeks pregnant so I was late for my period, but good news this afternoon I have started spotting so hopefully should come on my period tomorrow then we can try again with hopefully some more luck this time 🙂 x

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Nikki2ol6 · 15/11/2017 13:42

I’m in my mid 20’s. And my bleeding started before my period was even due or on the day it was due and to be honest if I hadn’t Of taken those tests I would have never known. Iv had my bloods done but won’t get my results until tomorrow. After I did bleed though it was only around 2 weeks before I ovulated but I kept Thinking maybe I need a few months rest but I think it’s gojng ok this time

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Helen290 · 15/11/2017 12:12

@Beetlebum1981 thank you for your comment, I want loose hope it’s just hard especially when you want something so badly 😩.
I know early testing is horrible but then even if I didn’t and tested the day of my missed period I still would of got a positive and still felt the same so you can’t win really but I do think next time I’ll leave it a week after my period to test lol I say that now but I bet want 😊. Xx

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Helen290 · 15/11/2017 11:59

@Snipples thank you that’s really helps knowing people have had success after miscarriage, when it’s happening to you you don’t think logically and it’s hard to be hopefully so thank you again.
I’m not sure about the likeliness after but I am with fertility and they said just keep trying she said maybe chill a bit this next month but that’s more to do with me getting over this loss. Congratulations it’s so nice hearing peoples success 😊. Xx

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Beetlebum1981 · 15/11/2017 11:44

I too had two early miscarriages at about 6 weeks, they were about 4 months apart. It really got me down however 2 months after the second I found out I with pregnant with DD who’s now 2. I’m also 23 weeks with DD2. We’d prepared ourselves for another wait before conceiving this time however I fell pregnant within a week.
It’s hard but please don’t give up hope and I agree with other posters about testing too early. Easier said than done I know when you’re so desperate to find out!

Snipples · 15/11/2017 11:28

So sorry for your losses. I had two very early losses at about 5 weeks each in May and August. I’m now 10 weeks pregnant with a (so far) healthy pregnancy.

I just wanted to say that when I was at the docs for my current pregnancy she was surprised I wasn’t told to wait at least 3 months after the first loss as it made a second loss more likely. Not sure how true that is but I would’ve saved myself some heartache had I waited.

It is still very possible for you to have a healthy baby. Try not to panic

MouseLove · 15/11/2017 10:39

Nothing surprises me on these forums and then you’ll welcome all the smart comments of people telling you it’s impossible to be 2 weeks pregnant, wanted to spare you the snark. Xxx

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Helen290 · 15/11/2017 10:37

@MouseLove I know that sorry I thought that was obvious as I couldn’t be 2 weeks from my last period.

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MouseLove · 15/11/2017 09:59

Helen. Pregnancy is dated from your last period. So if you were 2 weeks from ovulation it means you were 4 weeks pregnant based on you ovulating on CD14. Always count from your last period. I hope you feel better soon. X

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Helen290 · 15/11/2017 09:56

Did you have a normal length cycle after that?

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Helen290 · 15/11/2017 09:55

I was about 2 weeks pregnant and I had positives on the weekend so I’m guessing it will take possibly a few days, I am hoping by the weekend I just want it to be over so I can move on 😔, and hopefully be more successful next time.

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QueenAmongstMen · 15/11/2017 09:11

I went to my GP when my pregnancy tests turned negative and she said it was very likely I'd had an early miscarriage.

She wanted me to return for bloods in two days but I asked her what was the point as it was only going to show what we already knew.

I then started bleeding the next day so it was very quick after the negative HPT.

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Helen290 · 15/11/2017 08:19

@Nikki2ol6 I hope you don’t mind me asking and you obviously don’t have to answer but how old are you?

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Helen290 · 15/11/2017 08:03

@Nikki2ol6 thank you have really given me hope I have been feeling so awful, I found out my hcg dropped Monday but I still haven’t had a bleed does it take a long time? My hcg On Monday was 19 and progesterone 25. please let me know how you get on and congratulations!! I have everything crossed for you 🙂 xx

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Nikki2ol6 · 15/11/2017 07:14

I had two in a row two months in a row. The first time I tested positive for 3 days from 10dpo. However my line was getting fainter by the day and I began bleeding on 14dpo. I ovulated around 2 weeks later and concivedd again, I got a bfp on day 8!! However it never got darker at all and on day 10 I began bleeding heavy. Around 2 weeks later I ovulated again and I’m now almost 5 weeks along and so far things seam ok. My advice would be stop testing early but I couldn’t even do that. I know how you feel though, and it will happen for you soon

MouseLove · 14/11/2017 15:06

I think the first thing you should address is ways to work on your patience. You may be at this for years. And that’s the harsh truth. You may be pregnant next cycle. It’s hard and emotional and draining. This is month 15 for me and I never thought it would take this long. However I’ve practiced patience, because there’s literally nothing I can do to make it happen other than the obvious. I will have 9 months to wait once I’m pregnant to hold my baby and then a lifetime of worry and delight at every step. So if I can sort this out now, it will prep me for the long haul.

Take a little time to treat yourself. Stop blaming yourself, don’t feel like you’re wishing your life away. Take up a hobby, set mini goals or things to look forward to and refocus. It will happen when you’re ready for it to happen. And you’ll know that once it’s all over. Xxx

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