Everyone is pregnant!

marrage I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope you’re ok.

OP - I read something the other day that really resonated with me. Don’t think about your period as a failure, think of it as another month to get your body healthy and ready for a baby. It sounds trite, and might not work for you, but it really struck a chord with me.

Same, I feel your pain.

All my friends are having babies. Everywhere I look. Any stuff, pregnant women and it's horrific!

We've been trying for months now and are getting nowhere. The constant disappointments and 'mechanical' love-making is starting to get soul destroying.
When we began, we convinced ourselves we'd let nature take its course, and not get too hung up on definitely wanting to become pregnant. The old mantra of 'relax, it'll happen when it happens' has long since left us and It feels like now we've admitted a baby is definitely what we desperately want (after years of rigorous birth control), the failures each month are more disappointing.
AND to make things worse, EVERYONE around us appears to be pregnant. We've had 3 babies born on our families in the last few months, 2 close friends have given birth too, now another two close friends have announced they're both pregnant and due within days of each other. Everyone is so excited for them and although I desperately want to be happy for them too, all I want to do is scream and cry as it just feels so unfair!
This coupled with the constant questions and assumptions from friends and families (are you not broody yet..... does seeing all these babies not make you want your own..... Shouldn't you get a move on, you're not getting any younger you know.....) all just makes me want to lose my temper altogether. Feeling like an utter failure just now

I was having this very same cry tonight...

My two chemical pregnancies in the last 20 months coincided with the two people I am close to becoming pregnant. I can't talk to either anymore. One now has a healthy and happy 5 month old.

This isn't a competition. We are all experiencing distress and I know I am suffering from some degree of depression. Other people's successes have no impact on my failure to become pregnant... blah blah. That's what my head says anyway!

It's just shit. I'm trying to get my life back on track but finding it really difficult to motivate/ focus/ plan/ think with so much unknown. Part of me wants to go back on birth control and try to forget about trying to create genetic offspring. If I can't even cope with the stresses of infertility, how the hell am I mean to cope with the stresses of parenting????

Sorry for my own personal rant. I have no answers. I guess you can try to take comfort knowing you actually aren't alone - even if I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. There really isn't anything anyone can say to make it even remotely ok or even better.

I'm very very sorry for what you're going through right now marriage. Be kind to yourself.

I feel your pain. I’m currently miscarrying after trying for 18 months. Three of my best friends had babies this summer. I don’t have any advice really, just saying me too! Hang in there OP x

I feel your pain. Partner’s brother and his gf got pregnant after admittedly having sex once in 9 months and I now have a 1 year old nephew and my younger sister has been pregnant twice by accident this year (had termination for the first and is 24 weeks now with her daughter) It’s very hard and seems very unfair especially when you have been trying a long time. I don’t really have any advice, so I’ll just send hugs