35+ TTC #1 thread 2!

@russkispy so sorry for your loss it is incredibly hard and you just need to take time and grieve how you need to. Mine was a natural mc at 6+1 so not quite the same. I am onto cycle 3 post mc and generally feeling more positive though each af is hard as it is a reminder that you are no longer pregnant.
Sending hugs

@Russkispy I'm so sorry to hear this. Just devastating news. This is so so tough. Sending lots of love to you and your OH

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@russkrispy I am so, so sorry to hear this. I can't imagine how hard it is. Sending good thoughts to you & your partner xxx

Never felt any pain or cramps, or bleeding. Just noticed the nausea stopped 2 weeks ago and yet was on and off with it for the past 2 weeks. At the scan I was told it was a missed miscarriage

Thought I’d never write this but...sad news for us. Had my 8+2 scan today but there was no heartbeat! When we had our 1st scan 2 weeks ago and I was measured a week behind as originally thought, sadly, everything stopped pretty much right there and then. As they measured me today at 6 weeks only! Devastated is the understatement. Booked for a scan at the local EPU for tomorrow afternoon and then discuss the next steps. I know some of you been in this position before and I’m really sorry about that. I couldn’t never imagine yiur pain but now I know! I hope you’re feeling stronger after that and positive as I believe it’s only the way forward. Thank you for yiur time reading this. X

So...got my CBFM peak today on day 10 (that seems early to me but so happy as I didn't even know if I did ovulate or not) so, following SMEP, 3 days of dtd to follow. Wish me luck and energy

@79andnotout well done for the sex!!! And the good results. Of course you will want the numbers but the consultant being happy is a good start!

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Goodluck @oxted2018!

Aaargh @79andnotout that is so frustrating when I had mine done I called the gp and was told my results were 'normal'. Had to ask for the numbers... then asked Dr Google to confirm they were what was normal . Sounds positive that there is nothing of undue concern.

Ha, thanks everyone! Annoyingly my temp hasn't increased much so maybe ovulation hasn't occurred as expected. I got a letter back from the consultant after my day 2 bloods yesterday saying "there was nothing of undue concern" but no results. What the hell does that mean? Just give me some figures, man!

Good luck @79andnotout... Wishing the best things for you 🌸

Sorry, I meant good luck @79andnotout!

Sorry to hear about AF @Blondcat.

Good luck @Oxted2018 & @79andnotout - fingers crossed!

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All the vibes..... good luck!

Ooh good luck @PixieN.

And @Blondcat - good luck for July! One consolation - at least AF had the decency to show on time rather than being late and giving false hope.

Good luck @Oxted2018 - fingers crossed for you!

Sorry to hear about AF @Blondcat :(

@PixieN - we're trying to cut down on plastic anyway, so avoiding plastic where possible is no bad thing for the environment if nothing else. OH has said he's swapping to bicarb and vinegar as cleaning agents, and we're buying no more cleaning products. Will see how that goes. This is us trying to be green rather than anti-hormone though, but guess it all counts.

In a shock turnaround I got a +ve OPK last night and suggested to OH we DTD, and he was up for it! The medical staff said this month would be a good one to try as they've pushed through a hole through my cervix, and the HSG will have cleared out my fallopian tubes, so I am probably in with my best shot since starting this journey however many years ago it is now. Not getting my hopes up at all but at least I'm in the running this month. Such a rollercoaster.

Hi all

@79andnotout I also have not heard of that condition before but it sounds like you're in good hands and they're on the case. Good luck.

AF was due yesterday and no sign yet. So I'm just waiting......am still only 10 dpo though so not going to POAS until at least after the weekend.

@janefx40 great to hear updates from you and hope you get your results back soon x

@79andnotout glad things are improving with your oh. Not heard of your condition either but hope they can give you some answers soon.

Af has showed up for me bang on time today so onto the next month...

Thanks Ladies. The consensus seems to be to take the supplements & try to be as healthy as poss, but not to go too overboard. It’s good to get your take on it. Not mentioned chemicals/plastics to DH. He’s got a scientist background too & very sceptical lol.

@Oxted2018 - your comment about not cleaning really made me laugh. Maybe that’s the answer!

@79andnotout - really glad things have improved with your OH. Not heard about your condition either. Glad you’re seeing a consultant about it. Hope it’s sorted soon x

@Janex40 - that all sounds so exciting! You’ll have to let us know what you’re having

@79andnotout I didn't even know we could find out gender until earlier today! Yes we will.

Hopefully surgeons can sort you out - maybe it will take the pressure off you and OH if you have to break from TTC whilst sorting this out. Hope it gets resolved soon

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@79andnotout -glad things are getting back on track with OH. Never heard of sealed cervix except during pregnancy.

@janefx40 - so happy you've got this far. Hope Harmony goes well. We got our results in 5 days.

@Janefx40 argh yes it's going to be a tense couple of weeks, but hopefully then you can relax! How long does it take for the harmony results? Are you finding out the sex at the same time? Exciting!

Yep I will let you know what the consultant says. Worst case scenario seems to be uterine cancer but I don't fit the demographic for that at all so I'm not worried. I'm sure it has an impact on fertility though, both naturally and ivf if you struggle to get the tubes in. Again, not worrying about that until I know more.

Anyway, good luck this evening!

Hi @79andnotout it's so lovely to hear from you. I'm not on this group much any more but it looks as tho you have seen where I'm up to anyway!

I'm so glad things are looking better with your OH and that you are happier. That is great news. The main thing is that you are happier.

Sorry to hear about the cervix thing although it is good you found out. It'll be interesting to know how they fix it. I'm afraid I've not heard of this before.

@Blueberry1 glad BF has improved. You are very good for sticking at it!! You sound happy tho!

I'm ok. Yes much less anxious although still nervous about miscarrying or problems occurring. I am 10 weeks today and we have our Harmony tonight so an anxious wait for results. Then 12 week scan is 5th July. Praying we get that far

Hello to everyone else - I also read It starts with an Egg. I thought it was useful. We did cut down chemicals and plastics a bit but not religiously. We bought natural soaps and shampoos and I even gave up antiperspirant for a bit!!! But that didn't have very positive results so I gave up on that one.

@Blueberry1 is right - not worth driving yourself nuts over it. I do think the Ubiquinol is good tho

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Ah, good to hear it @Blueberry1. That sounds like an ideal feeding situation too, as your OH can help out. Lots of my friends struggled with the formula/breast combo wrt milk supply so glad it's worked for you!

Also agree with you regarding plastics, supplements, and cutting things out (although I am also a scientist so a sceptic of anything until proven). Just eating a healthy diet and not going overboard on the caffeine and drinking, and getting plenty of exercise is a good path to follow anyway.

Having said that I found drinking grapefruit juice massively increased my cervical mucus production, and I can find no scientific basis for that anywhere...

hi all, when it comes to supplements & avoiding stuff, I tried to look for evidence (the scientist in me...). So I cut out alcohol, cut down.caffeine (1 caffeinated drink.per day; rest decaf) & took conception daily vitamin (with vit D) cq10, maca & royal jelly. Consultant said multivit with vit D was essential, but evidence for.others wasn't conclusive although they wouldn't do any harm. cq10 is supposed to improve egg quality & I had egg retrieval via ivf at 41 after taking for 6+ months & egg quality was v good according to embryologists. Maybe cq10 helped?

Am a bit skeptical about the cleaning products/avoid all plastic; is overkill and could make a woman feel it's their fault they didnt get bfp. I don't think such things can change underlying fertility rather than tweak slightly under par fertility.

I had a friend who struggled to conceive and she went OTT; only organic food & cleaning products, stopping using her mobile, cycling & driving, no plastics/caffeine or alcohol etc; everything ever recommended regardless of evidence or lack of.. She did several cycles of IVF in her mid to late 30s and sadly it never worked. It was traumatic for her & consumed her for several years. She's fine now (10 years later), but it was painful to watch at the time.

I have persevered with bf-ing & now bf little blueberry 6x per day then he gets 2 bottles of expressed milk or formula. He had a tongue tie which was making him unable to latch deeply and making it painful rather than mildly uncomfortable for me. Since that was fixed; big difference. Anyway he's in sling now and had just started head banging my chest which is his way of saying he wants to be fed .

Hi everyone, not posted on here for a while as my TTC is quite complicated and we're not actively trying and I've been in a bit of a mental fug, but I'm still keeping an eye on the thread.

How is the BFing going @Blueberry1? Is it getting any easier? Lots of my friends were determined they were going to BF beforehand and gave up by week 6 as it was so hard. I don't think support in my area is that great.

@Russkispy - how was your second scan?

@Janefx40 - I've seen updates from you elsewhere are really happy everything is going well. Are you feeling a bit more relaxed yet?

So happy to hear your news @SoozC, and glad everything is going smoothly for you too @Darkstar4855.

Hello to newbies and sorry for the BFN @PixieN.

@Janefx40 - you asked what happened re OH, and since I last posted we've actually sorted a lot of stuff out and are much happier. We've ramped up the couples therapy and it has started to feel like a proper loving relationship. I knew it was in there somewhere, and really didn't want to give up. He's coming back around to the idea of having kids now so I realise it's all based on how we interact with each other. So, lets see. Still not having enough sex though.

However, I mentioned before I was having mid cycle bleeding and have been having some investigations. I had an HSG earlier this week, but they couldn't get the catheter in as my cervix has sealed shut (and it was CD12 so should have been very open) - a condition called cervical stenosis. They had to pierce it and force the catheter through while gripping the cervix with forceps to stop it moving around. Jeez I have a high pain threshold but it was pure torture. So, seems the weird bleeding is because my period is getting diverted all round the place as it can't get out. That also explains why I've got agonising period pains now when I never did before. Weird. No idea what this means at this point, will need to see a consultant. My smears have always been fine, so it's not scarring from any procedures. Anyone heard of anything like this before?