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TTC after recurrent miscarriage

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 10/09/2017 11:48

Hi, just wondering if anyone else was in a similar place to me and wanted to chat about it? I'm 30, TTC my first and have had three miscarriages, all early (two natural MCs at five weeks, then a MMC where a scan at 6+5 revealed development had again stopped at 5 weeks). I've had RMC tests and am just waiting on the results of that but hoping to be able to TTC again from my next period, which should come any day now. I've found throughout the whole thing (have been TTC just over a year now) that it's really helped me to chat with people in similar positions, so if anyone wants to be TTC buddies please let me know!

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 12/09/2017 17:59

Hi fia and something - I'm so sorry for both your losses and wish that neither of you were in this boat, and hope you both get your successful pregnancies soon, but while you are you're very, very welcome to join us to chat about it!

That's really interesting, anne. I'm not really sure how much good the progesterone is likely to do me, to be honest - I seem to have a normal luteal phase, and I've never spotted with any of my miscarriages (all three started with a sudden torrent of blood), so there are no obvious signs that mine's low. I sort of feel like it's probably doing something for the sake of doing something, but I also still want to take it anyway! I know that makes no logical sense, but I find the thought of attempting another pregnancy with nothing different at all too scary.

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somethingfromnothing · 12/09/2017 13:54

Hi everyone!

Can I join too? I have a 5 year old but in the past 2 years have had 3 mc and a suspected ectopic. I have been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic but after 6 weeks I'm still waiting on an appointment Sad

I feel so fed up and feel that something must be wrong! Annoyingly after falling pregnant quickly with my dd and the first mc with every loss it's taking longer and longer to get pregnant.

Fia256 · 12/09/2017 13:32

Hi I'd like to jump on this thread too if that's ok!

I've had 4 miscarriages in a row now, in order at 7, 5, 16 (mmc picked up at 20w scan) and 5 again this month. Currently loosing the will to live and most hope!

The strange thing with us is we have a healthy 6 and 4 year old. No complications or problems with their pregnancies, then it's just been recurrent losses after that!

My last one was the start of this month and have decided to just keep on trying straight away. Have finally been referred to a specialist too after having to beg for it!! So waiting on my appointment coming through now

Such a horrible situation to be in, as it definitely takes any excitement over any pregnancy away as I know personally I'll just be convinced it's going to fail! Xx

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/09/2017 13:14

That's great news Lisa, always a weird thing to say in TTC context! But it's a fresh start for you.

I'm CD 24, 11 DPO and AF due Friday.... Not sure what to think, I'm usually a bit optimistic!

Hey flynn! How nice to bump into you again, though equally very sorry to hear your struggles continue Flowers xxx

What a fucker about the delay on your tests as well. So frustrating!

Yes, sorry I should have said. I asked about aspirin at my first appointment and he said no, then after my Feb loss he put me on it (I didn't bother to ask why he'd changed his mind and he was sure that due to the initial HCG result I had being quite low that pregnancy was always a non-starter and a chromosomal issue that nothing could have helped) and I'm still taking it.

Funnily enough, for the first few cycles after the last mc, which were also the first on the aspirin, I had exactly the same thing flynn, combination of gushing bright red blood and massive chunks of clots/tissue. I'm chortling at 10p piece, this was more like the length of my palm and a couple of fingers wide at times.

It was so bad I ended up phoning the GP from the toilet at work saying she had to give me something as I wasn't able to function properly at all! The pain wasn't too bad, I take mefanamic acid usually anyway, but the volume and chunks were unbelievable. I don't take the aspirin once AF hits but she thought it was possible taking it the rest of the time was affecting AF so she put me on tranexamic acid to lessen the flow.

Couldn't seem more counterintuitive taking a blood thinner 3 weeks of the month and a clotter for up to a week! But I only used the tranexamic when I was desperate and it got me through a couple of cycles but they're now much more normal and I haven't used it for a bit.

The GP said the speed I was bleeding was responsible for the clots as the hormone which thins the blood for you to pass during AF couldn't work fast enough and I was losing stuff that effectively hadn't liquified as it should have. Makes sense I guess.

Anyway, they're calmed down loads now.

I'd love to hear how the acupuncture goes! I emailed someone yesterday to ask about her availability. She's a Zita West certified or associated therapist which must mean she can perform miracles right? Grin

I had it years ago from a physio when I tore something in my back and was so high on painkillers I have no clue if it helped but I'm openminded.

I've been having reflexology but I was going off it so trying something else!

Lisa, my guy offered me progesterone suppositories from BFP to 12 weeks. Much better, I've heard to put them up your bum then your fanjo as they don't leak from the former but can from the latter! I got dire warnings about any mc definitely being a mmc as you don't bleed while you're on it so even if the pregnancy failed you wouldn't know till a scan. He left it completely up to me to take it and said I could leave it unless I had any spotting, but once I started on it I had to carry on.

I'm a bit reluctant because with my mcs I've had the opposite problem and struggled to get them going as my body's been so slow at letting them go, and I was on a high progesterone pill a couple of years ago which made me feel so unbelievably shite I'll never forget it!

Crikey, I haven't half gone on.....

Hope you're both well! Thanks for this thread Lisa.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 12/09/2017 08:29

I've also seen the 'no bigger than 10p piece' advice, and would think that that suggests it's worth at least asking about if yours are bigger. Apart from anything else, it can't be good or nice for you to be losing so much blood so quickly.

AF showed up this morning, so on cd1 of a new cycle!

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flynn80 · 10/09/2017 21:16

My consultant said she didnt even recommend for me to take aspirin as i had no clotting issues, the things is though those tests were done in February, and since then (and sorry for tmi) but every period since June (my last mc) I have huge clots, literally I can stand up from sitting for a while and woosh, I googled and it said not to worry if they are no bigger than a 10p piece, but these are so much larger, and now i'm wondering whether to ask to be tested again.

I've also heard the clotting test isnt that thorough on the NHS, so wondering if i should go private for that 1?

I take those prenatal tablets available, high folic acid and even resorting to acupuncture this coming saturday, as i've read to many stories where they went to see a chinese herbalist and were suddenly pregnant within a month, anything worth a try now!

LisaSimpsonsbff · 10/09/2017 19:44

Hi both - so sorry you've had such horrible experiences, but it is nice to talk to other people who are in the same place.

That's really interesting that they give it to everyone, Anne - no idea what (if anything) my local hospital will give me, but Coventry give everyone progesterone. When I got it home I realised that it, er, doesn't go in your mouth - nicer than injections but still not looking forward to doing that twice daily (you do it every cycle for 7 days)!

Flynn I feel the same as you about the timing being too suspicious. I really feel like something must be going wrong with implantation with mine - they never really seem to get off the ground.

Do either of you take aspirin? I started for a few days with my last one but then freaked myself out about self-medicating at about 16dpo, and stopped. I've been wondering about that ever since, as that one did make it a bit further than the others. Might be random coincidence of course - the RMC clinic didn't seem to think it was significant.

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flynn80 · 10/09/2017 17:09

Hi Lisa, finally found you!

anne I remember you from the other thread, I was Buddah, somehow locked myself out of my old account and had to start a new one! So sorry to see your still around these parts Sad.

I have now had 7 Mc's, 1 before I had my ds and the rest all after, I was told early this year that I had a probable chance of second infertility, then somehow ended up pregnant again at the end of may, that resulted in my latest MC, and since then been trying each month. I get my results back from genetic test in a couple of weeks after the hospital lost my 1st set of bloods, so had to wait another 3 months!

My consultant is very sure that its just down to bad luck this keeps happening all around 6 weeks, But I suspect there is some other reason why it keeps happening and Intend to find out what it is!

AnneLovesGilbert · 10/09/2017 11:58

I'm in such a similar position! Ttc first baby. DH has ivf twins from previous marriage.

Started ttc last February, bfp August, mc days later. Next bfp straight away with no af, ended in mmc at 12 week scan in November, took one cycle off, next bfp start of this Feb, mc at 5 weeks.

As I'd also had an early mc many years ago (didn't know till it happened, was on the pill!) I was referred to local RMC after mc and was under them for last mc.

Has usual RMC tests which are all clear and was told to go away and crack on. Hmmm. Bit disheartened that after taking 7 months to get bfp last year then catching every cycle we tried it's now been another 7 months.

My RMCs protocol is for everyone to have clexane injections from bfp, whether or not they test positive for a clotting disorder. I started it with my last pregnancy and now have a big bag of drugs in my wardrobe I'm hoping I get to use before they expire!

DH hasn't had any tests because we had been conceiving quickly and when they tested my mmc baby she was chromosomally perfect. So no answers to any of it but shitty luck! And now I'm struggling to conceive...

Hoping af comes and goes again soon and you feel positive about ttc again.

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