TTC after recurrent miscarriage

Glad things are going in the right direction Unicorns BUT sorry you're having such a time of it - fingers crossed you've not much longer to wait xxx

Definitely sounds like things are improving, if annoyingly not completely resolved. Do you feel a bit reassured by the news unicorns? So sorry it's been so tough. Really feel for you. And I hope things are now on the up. Crossing everything!

When you've had a BFN - always a weird feeling to want one I know! - you can count down to AF and then cracking on when you both feel ready.

I'm really glad things seem to be sorting themselves out unicorns.

Well the good news is that the thickness of the lining has gone down a considerable amount since 10 days ago (we're not sure where but they think it might have been reabsorbed - from but whatever). But because it's all basically back to normal aside from the minuscule retained bit still in there, it's a waiting game. Though they're now confident that my body is finally moving in the right direction. So I have a test to do in a couple of weeks but it should hopefully be resolved by then. Hcg is just dropping off so bloody slowly now. Everything else looks good though thankfully

I hadn't even thought of that Mog, I'll take this month off aspirin too. I'm so stuck in my habits I just snaffle it with my vitamins from about CD10 to AF starting without even thinking.

You might have cracked it, I promise to let you know!

Hope they see you quickly unicorns and there's some good news. Have they said what they're do if they find retained tissue still? I don't know how you're holding up either but make a big fuss and try to get them to do whatever they can to get this resolved. You've been stuck in limbo for ages and it must be exhausting.

Keep us posted.

Always appreciate your support Lisa, thank you

@Mog I'm not going to lie, I have no idea how I'm managing it in all honesty!

Unicorn - sorry I hadn't seen your post. That's been dragging on so long for you. Hope they can resolve it quickly for you now. I find time feels so slow waiting for miscarriage to be over and desperate to start again, and that was without the delays you have had. You are doing so well coping with this.

Popping in to say hello and see how you are doing.

Bean - I think everyone varies with how quickly they ovulate after positive Opk and LH surge and also whether you feel pain before, during or after ovulation. So not that helpful! I know i ovulate quite a long time after positive and long time before bbt increase, because they are about 4 days apart,but other people it's much quicker. I don't get ovulation pain, but I have read that it is common for it to be pre ovulation not during that you feel it. Anyway it doesn't really matter the exact day if you have plenty of sex and better to be ahead rather than after ovulation. From experience I think the thing about sperm hanging around waiting seems to be true.

Anne - sorry to hear that you are feeling frustrated and fed up. Totally understandable. Really hope you get a positive soon. Have you thought about stopping the asprin for a bit to see if that helps? Don't think you have has a positive since you have taken it and there seems to be some conflicting info on whether it helps or hinders implantation.

Keepon - Fingers crossed for scan. You have been so patient waiting until 8 weeks.

Lisa and Bertie - glad all going well with you both too.

@LisaSimpsonsbff Last day of the month 😖

@Anne Yup it's tomorrow. Just a generic walk-in kind of one but they'll scan me and see that clearly nothing has changed. I found out about the most recent mmc at the end of November so I'm done with the waiting approach now.

Thank you Anne. You are always so kind. I think I just need it to be Thursday so I can find out what, if anything, is going on in there.

I'm not surprised you're bloody pissed off. You've been through so much without all the bereavements around Christmas. For what it is worth, I did find the break from TTC we had whilst waiting for my op really helpful. It was so nice to go back to having sex as and when we wanted, no thoughts about where in my cycle I was. Kudos to you for not boozing. I never managed to be that good and needed my gin and wine! I hope you manage to find a bit of headspace and work eases up soon.

You have nothing to feel guilty for keepon! It’s your very private news. You don’t have to tell anyone till you have your baby safely in your arms if you don’t want to. People might have suspicions but they can keep schtum till you’re ready to share. Also totally reasonable to wait till you’ve had your scan, of course it is x

Here to listen to any anxieties any time and will be thinking of you Thursday.

Af was grim and thankfully gone. I’ve reached the point of not being able to take anymore tbh, not in a depressed or desperate way, but I’ve stopped temping this month and I just can’t think about any of it in the way I have been anymore, at least for a bit. The end of my last cycle and DHs painful palpable disappointment and guttedness nearly made my head explode.

We might get back to our respective GPs next month but for now we’re just taking a step back. Not from a relax and it’ll happen perspective, it won’t, but I really just can’t think about it for a bit. It’s fucking exhausting.

I spent two days telling DH it would be okay, it takes some people a while, I was sure it would happen, no reason to worry blah blah blah and I think I believed it. But I woke up when we got back from New Years in a bloody rage and it’s still coming and going.

Work is stressful and there’s loads of crap going on, we’ve had all the deaths which has been shattering, my DSC are wonderful but exhausting and one of them’s been ill (he’s fine, not serious but sleepless nights for all of us). I’m just tired and sick of the whole fucking buggering lark on top of everything else. I’m angry and I’m done.

We’ll see how long it lasts. I’ve always had clear ov symptoms and could tell earlier it’s coming again, if early, so going to keep dtd when we feel like it and not check dates or temps or anything else. Tempted to start boozing, smoking and eating processed carbs just for fun but I’m so relatively clean living none of that appeals so I’ll stick with coffee, Pilates and good books.

Excuse the massive self indulgent rant

Still more than happy to chat or listen about what’s going on with you and everyone else. I really hope Thursday brings reassuring news and the days till then go quickly and without you much anxiety x

No wisdom on OPKs here either I'm afraid bean, I've never used them. But I agree with Anne that it sounds like you're covered.

How are you Anne? I hope AF has buggered off. Have you a plan for going back to the GP?

I've got my first scan on Thursday so my anxiety is ramping up massively. Hopefully will be 8 weeks. I'm trying to remain positive. Have been feeling guilty this weekend as had a girly weekend with 4 old uni friends, 2 who have moved away. One of them told me her IVF which was just before Christmas was succesful which is great. I haven't told any of them I'm pregnant yet, also suspect at least 1 has rumbled me. They have all always been so kind and so sensitive and supportive so I feel bad for all my dry January lies!

No wisdom on opk I’m afraid bean but sounds like you’re well covered re dtd so definitely take the day off if you’d both be better off having a cuddle and just resting up.

I think you’ve got your follow up scan this week unicorns? Really hope they find everything has cleared up.

Glad af makes sense haff and hope things continue to settle for you.

Hope all’s well lisa

Can I ask a stupid opk question (as lucky me gets to have recurrent mc and infertility). Yesterday had positive opk around 12pm and then at 9pm def ov pain. However this morning at 9 opk was even more positive? I don’t understand. We’ve dtd weds, fri and sat. Both of us a bit ill and frankly would rather miss tonight. Is that stupid? I don’t understand why I would have pain yesterday then still suck a pos opk today?

Thanks for your advice Bertie was v helpful and reassuring. Otherwise I would have gone with 21 days and thought I was broken!

Af arrived - I'm out ( kind of assuming I was from all the spotting but there's always that glimmer of hope). Hey ho, onwards we go cd 1.

At least last two cycles have been 25 days, short but at least I seem to be becoming regular!

Counting down payday when I can go test purchase crazy 😂

Yes - I tend to get differing amounts of spotting before AF, sometimes none, usually a couple of days but not always in a row, sometimes up to 5 days! Looking back over really old period tracker app data, I think this is why I used to think my cycles were irregular, because I was measuring from spotting, but not full bleeding. When I measure from full bleeding there is only about 5 days variance between countable cycles.

I have also read that if the bleeding starts after 5pm to count it as having started the following day. But never followed that one myself as it's normal for me to start at night.

Thanks Bertie, no bleeding today so far so at least my cycle will be 24 or 25 days instead of the ridiculous 21 if I counted it as Monday. Short but not sillily so...