TTC after recurrent miscarriage

Gosh karen, you have been through it. I'm very sorry for your losses. Welcome to our little gang. I do hope you don't need that frozen embryo.

Lisa I'm glad the chat with Coventry was helpful and here's hoping for a result over 600 tomorrow.

Bertie that's exciting about the apartment!

I'm currently enjoying the joys of period cramps! But glad that things seem to be starting so soon after stopping the tablets. I was expecting a few days wait. Still currently managing to feel excited about TTC again which is good.

Thank you Anne I suppose it’s been a really long time, we’ve just ploughed on through and definitely not ready to give up. After not conceiving after 2nd mc we were referred for tests but nothing obvious showed up so we’re classed as unexplained and referred for ivf. We’ve been really lucky with funding in our area. Just before we started our first ivf cycle it was discovered that I had a uterine polyp which I was told could have been the reasons for our troubles however after it was removed we went ahead with the ivf as we didn’t want to waste anymore time. This will be our first time ttc since it was removed, who knows?

Oh and transfer of the frozen one is likely to be sometime early next year.

Oh karen, you haven't half been through the mill, I'm so sorry for your losses and everything you've been through.

What was it that got you started on the IVF, not having conceived or some sort of screening? What a journey. You're welcome here, hope you find it useful.

How long do you have to wait till the transfer?

Progesterone wise, I was on a fairly high amount this time as they do for an ivf cycle, I still bled but it wasn’t anywhere near as much as previous mc’s I was worried that I’d hardly bled but a neg hpt and positive opk must mean things have sorted themselves out

Hello ladies may I join you? Though it’s sort of a thread that I never wanted to join (in the nicest possible way) two weeks ago today I had my third miscarriage in a row, me and Dh have been tcc for nearly 8 years now I don’t know where the time has gone. I’ve had 2 natural conceptions in 2013/14 Ending in early mc’s Started ivf this May, first cycle was terrible and bfn but second was much better and we transferred 2 5 day old embryos. I got my first bfp in over 4 years and an early scan due to concerns over it bein eptopic showed 2 little sacs. Sadly I lost both of them a few days later. We have 1 frozen embryo from that cycle but are ttc naturally until transfer.

I wish all you ladies well xx

That's interesting Lisa and good to know. I was told the exact opposite by the doc at my RMC so looks like the understanding of how it works is changing.

Hope you're doing okay.

Excited for you keepon!

Sorry for your losses schnitzel, you're very welcome in our small collective

How are you feeling fox?

Welcome Schnitzel. I hope you feel at home here soon enough.

Sorry about the BFN fox.

Lisa, keeping my fingers crossed for a nice doubled HCG on Thursday.

I'm due to take my last oestrogen tablet tonight woohoo! We're off to Seville for a few days on Monday so I'm hoping to get any kind of bleed at the way before then and then TTC officially restarts! Also will be glad to see the back of the condoms which have been required since the op.

May I de-lurk and join in? I've had 4 mc but also 3 living children. No reason for the mc. AF due at some point in the next few days (took progesterone to bring it on - my last D&C was in September). Hoping to TTC this next cycle. I have read a bit and the TTC after loss thread definitely isn't for me.

Lisa - I know we've bumped into each other a few times around the boards. Rooting for you.

Apologies for the lack of other personals, will do my best to read back and make sure I know everyone's stories properly.

It can't just be me who does things like that can it? I am not religious or spiritual but just feeling like things have fitted into a plan does really help. Actually with DH breaking his foot this summer I can look back and say that would have been an actual nightmare to deal with while pregnant and with a newborn, on maternity leave etc.

My mum is a great believer in everything happens for a reason. I think I'm more that you can force things to make sense in sequence if you look hard enough. But that's okay.

Mind you DH and DS have been experiencing some strange phantom sounds at night almost as though somebody is visiting so who knows, perhaps someone who loves us really is looking out for us and wants to help us get sorted before our time.

Four of us on the bench! Sorry Scary.

We have been looking at a potential new apartment to rent. Tentatively hopeful because it looks so perfect. At least it gives me something else to focus on and then maybe I can convince myself fate was just letting us find that nice place to move to before we get pg!

Hi all, I've been taking bit of a break from thinking about TTC (or trying to!) but following along. Sorry there's not better news going on for everyone, but fingers crossed for you on Thursday Lisa, that's a total rollercoaster you've been on in the last week. And sorry to hear about the BFN foxtrot

I've been quite enjoying my time off! But now AF is due next week and I'm back to scheduling sex in case we miss the next fertile window (we both work away a lot so requires serious diary coordination). And annoyingly my last cycle was much shorter than usual, so I may well end up pg over christmas anyway, despite trying to avoid.

That said, I'm the same as you Anne and Foxtrot, conceived super easily last 3 times, but it's not happening now. It makes me cringe to think how smug I was at the start. I thought I was so perfect getting pg straight after 15 years on the pill. So naive!!

On the wine already tonight after a day of pregnant chat at work, never gets any easier

Yes sorry Foxtrot to welcome you to the seemingly "can't even get pregnant anymore" club

I can feel AF coming on so not very likely I'll be getting a BFP this month.

You might get your results from Thursday that day Lisa, fx it's super soon either way and the news you're hoping for.

I knew from my hcg test at 4 weeks it wasn't great, I was having very clear bfps but my first hcg result was 60, which they didn't say they were particularly worried about, but I know now meant it never really got off the ground. If it had doubled with the second one all would have been okay, but it didn't so I knew it was going to miscarry.

Crossing everything and saying a little prayer you have wonderful news. Thinking of you!

I totally get what you're saying about the scan, but one day at a time for now. Bloods are one phase, scan will hopefully be another.

So gutting foxtrot, I'm really sorry I've been in exactly the same boat and due to the losses I did allow myself to be slightly smug about how easily I was conceiving - I don't feel too bad about it looking back as I had sod all to be smug about and was in a horrible place and trying to find anything positive! But it was something positive to hold on to
and it did help for a while, though it's now been 10 months and I'm as worried about conceiving as staying pregnant.

It's okay to be disappointed, angry, frustrated, whatever you're feeling. Have a rant

Really glad you're getting some bloods done Lisa. Will you be able to get the results of the first set today? And I really hope you don't have to make use of that St Mary's appointment.

Lisa - glad they are doing bloods this week for you. Really hoping it is good news for you. Each pregnancy is different and you are on the projestrone and asprin this time. So hopefully it won't be a repeat of before and you will get to the scan in 7 weeks with everything looking great.

I think as this thread is in conception and we're all trying to make and keep babies, BFPs are exactly what we're after and they make me feel positive, happy, and hopeful.

I hope you've spoken to the doc Lisa and have a plan, also that work goes quickly and easily for you today. Keep us posted.