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TTC after recurrent miscarriage

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 10/09/2017 11:48

Hi, just wondering if anyone else was in a similar place to me and wanted to chat about it? I'm 30, TTC my first and have had three miscarriages, all early (two natural MCs at five weeks, then a MMC where a scan at 6+5 revealed development had again stopped at 5 weeks). I've had RMC tests and am just waiting on the results of that but hoping to be able to TTC again from my next period, which should come any day now. I've found throughout the whole thing (have been TTC just over a year now) that it's really helped me to chat with people in similar positions, so if anyone wants to be TTC buddies please let me know!

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keeponrunning85 · 20/11/2017 10:23

I don't think you were aggressive fox, don't worry about it!

So glad to hear everything is going ok kimmi. I hope the bleeding has settled down.

Bertie how was your weekend away?

Anne I hope your weekend was ok.

All those with beans on board I hope things have been ticking along quietly.

So AF seems to have finished so we shall be getting back on the TTC horse. Obviously I am going to be totally zen about the whole thing and not become a symptom spotting hopeful twat in the TWW Hmm. I have not missed that at all these last 7 months!

It also dawned on me a few days ago that due date number 4 is rapidly approaching. I had managed quite well to put it out of my mind. But it is ok to feel sad.

Anyway, off to Seville with DH later where it is a balmy 20 degrees and sunny!

KimmiC · 19/11/2017 14:20

Only just had the time to catch up from few pages previous. Huge congratulations to you too Lisa wishing you all the luck with this pregnancy.

I’m also on progesterone and aspirin so good to hear your conversation with Coventry about it thank you. X

LisaSimpsonsbff · 19/11/2017 11:43

Lovely news, kimmi! Thanks mog - scan a week Tuesday, so trying (and failing) not to think about it until then. When is yours?

How's everyone else doing? Any news on the flat, bertie?

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MogScratch · 18/11/2017 16:45

Lisa - Good news on bloods, such a relief after your tests last weekend. how long do you have to wait for the early scan?

Kimmi glad it is looking good so far.

KimmiC · 18/11/2017 13:52

(Wasn’t meant to send last message there)
I’ve had 2 heavy bleeds but have a little one fighting away. I’m about 10 weeks so not out of danger zone but thought I would share a positive story. Sonographer has explained that the bleeding is down to an area of ‘bruising’ located next to the sac. They are keeping a close eye on me so fingers crossed.
I wish all of you ladies the best.

KimmiC · 18/11/2017 13:47

Hi ladies,
I haven’t posted in a while, hope your all ok.

Congratulations Fox
so after a having a private gynecologist tell me that I was going through my third miscarriage I have since been back and forth the EPU and I do indeed have a little sticky bean growing! Smile

LisaSimpsonsbff · 18/11/2017 09:17

By the way, I haven't been keeping up with things well, and only just noticed the couple of odd messages we got in the last few days... Why do people think this thread is an appropriate place to share obvious and well-known advice, or to tell us they don't like their children anyway?!

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 18/11/2017 09:16

I don't think you were aggressive, I was touched by your anger on my behalf!

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SchnitzelVonCrummsTum · 17/11/2017 14:46

Um, I think that might still qualify as being a bit crap. If a GP can't imagine the stress of losing pregnancy after pregnancy, and wanting a bit of early information about which way a new pregnancy might be going, then he hasn't much imagination / empathy.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 17/11/2017 14:38

Thanks all. Obviously much too early to get excited about anything (I'm only five weeks today!) but I was so expecting bad news that it's nice to know we still have a chance.

Feel a bit mean - GP wasn't crap, I suppose, just not very understanding about my situation. He said 'I don't even understand why you're worrying like this so early. Can't you just wait for the scan and see what happens?'

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SchnitzelVonCrummsTum · 17/11/2017 14:27

That's brilliant Lisa - a very good early sign.

Most GPs don't understand betas. Until we started having losses, my DH (a GP) didn't know a thing about them.

keeponrunning85 · 17/11/2017 13:21

That's a great increase Lisa!

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AnneLovesGilbert · 17/11/2017 12:54

Lisa!!!!!!!!! That's gone up loads! What a relief. Ignore the stupid arse doctor. It's a fantastic result at this stage. Screw him. Miserable git. They run those tests to see what's going on, and it sounds like it's going well!

What's the next step?

LisaSimpsonsbff · 17/11/2017 12:28

Congratulations fox! Great news!

Thanks for the good wishes all. I have tentatively good news - it was up to 887 yesterday. Doctor was spectacularly crap - me: oh, that's good news; him: well, it doesn't tell you anything this early. I don't know why they agreed to do this test - but I'm trying to let myself feel a little hopeful. I'm trying to tell myself that 'trying not to get your hopes up' doesn't help anyway - it's impossible to do, and you still feel upset when it goes wrong, no matter how 'prepared' for it you are.

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SchnitzelVonCrummsTum · 17/11/2017 12:02

Foxtrot brilliant news - a bfp like that as early as 10 or 11dpo (based on your static smiley) is a great early sign...

AnneLovesGilbert · 17/11/2017 10:56

Mog, I've lost track, have you had your scan? I can't tell you how happy I am it's all going well for you and you've been such a nice support to us here, thank you. Enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can, look after yourself, hold tight baby Mog x

Lisa, thinking of you this morning.

Bertie, have an awesome weekend! Fx Af stays away.

Yep, don't get it at all keepon, I know MN is an open forum but this is a pretty niche thread and it's unhelpful and inappropriate when people jump in with whatever weird theory or ideas they have on the topic.

Good work schnitzel! Grin I use Fertility Friend which is a great app if you're temping. Have a feeling I'm going to ovulate early this cycle. Thanks for your wishes for the weekend, sure it'll be okay. DH is out tonight so I'm going to cook and watch bad tv, have a bath, have a glass of wine, rest and renew before the onslaught! How are you doing?

AnneLovesGilbert · 17/11/2017 10:46

Oh wow, Fox, massive congratulations!!!!!!!!!!! What fantastic news! Smile Delighted for you.

keeponrunning85 · 17/11/2017 10:34

That's great fox! No need to apolgise. Fingers crossed it is a sticky one.

We seem to be on a roll! Who's turn next week?

Mog I hadn't realised you were that far along already! Although I'm sure it has felt like time has been crawling along for you.

Not sure if it is just me, and I know people mean well, but I do find some of the posts from people who just drop in a little odd some times.

MogScratch · 17/11/2017 10:13

Woo fantastic Fox how exciting.

Hoping for good news for you today Lisa

I should be 13 weeks. Really should leave you lovely ladies and move away from conception thread if it is all good news, but I've not had any interest in anti natal / pregnancy chat and didn't want to leave here only to come back.

Allison - Good to know it hadn't been a constant regret for you.

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di626 · 17/11/2017 08:35

Brilliant Fox!! Congrats!! How many dpo are you?

Alison175 · 17/11/2017 08:08

Hi Ladies

Sorry to interrupt, I went through this 30 years ago, 7 in a row after my son was born.

I was chronically messed around, was referred to the Jessop Hospital in Sheffield, which was supposed to be cutting edge. The only thing they were cutting edge with, was loosing my notes and test results.

I never did achieve a second child and it broke my heart.

But 30 years down the line, I’m kind of grateful, don’t have a great relationship with my son, got sick of being used to bale him out, he had no ambition, we are comfortable but certainly not wealthy, but sure he’s waiting for us to die so he can cop for the lot.

I wish you all success, but it’s not the end of the world if it doesn’t happen and don’t let it define who you are.

Much love