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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC after recurrent miscarriage

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 10/09/2017 11:48

Hi, just wondering if anyone else was in a similar place to me and wanted to chat about it? I'm 30, TTC my first and have had three miscarriages, all early (two natural MCs at five weeks, then a MMC where a scan at 6+5 revealed development had again stopped at 5 weeks). I've had RMC tests and am just waiting on the results of that but hoping to be able to TTC again from my next period, which should come any day now. I've found throughout the whole thing (have been TTC just over a year now) that it's really helped me to chat with people in similar positions, so if anyone wants to be TTC buddies please let me know!

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 28/11/2017 17:46

Totally agree with your logic anne - if you're seven months pregnant by then there'll be so much to be happy about that altering a dress won't seem like a big deal! Whereabouts in Italy is the wedding?

Thanks keepon - yes, it is the furthest I've got. Which of course doesn't make me safe, or anything like it (as we all sadly know you're never really safe, but I'm still right in the riskiest bit), but has made me feel a bit better by feeling like it's broken the pattern - all my previous pregnancies ended at 5 weeks pretty much on the dot (though one of them then hung around to be discovered at a scan two weeks later) and it felt like exactly the same thing must have been going wrong each time. So I sort of feel now like this one is it's own thing, with its own chances of success or failure, not just a re-run of the last three, if that makes sense?

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FoxtrotSkarloey · 28/11/2017 17:38

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AnneLovesGilbert · 28/11/2017 16:41

It'll be lovely

I've found it a bit difficult committing to the practicalities of flights and dresses as I've been expecting to have a baby by then or be pregnant. As the months have passed that's clearly not fucking happening! So the most I could be now is 7 months pregnant and may as well just book flights and a dress and get on board with it. If I need to change the dress due to a pregnancy I'll be bloody delighted Being pregnant would give me an excuse for being the chubby one too. I'm not actually fat but the other 3 are skinny minnies!

Does it help to refer to it as a miscarriage or a pregnancy loss rather than something blighted, which is such a horrible word? Sorry your GP is an arse. Is there another one at the same practise you could see instead? Good plan to have a private scan. Sure you definitely won't get one from your EPU?

keeponrunning85 · 28/11/2017 16:38

Great news Lisa! I'm so pleased for you. Is this the furthest you have got? Will you have any more early scans?

Fox I hope things are ticking along quietly in there for you. And also that your GP is helpful and not an arse! Will your scan be a private one?

Anne, bridesmaiding in Italy sounds immense!

Miami, thinking of you.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 28/11/2017 12:46

That's good, keeps an eye on things. The stats for a heartbeat at 8 weeks are very positive. How are you feeling?

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 28/11/2017 12:44

Only 6+4 so such, such a long way to go - of course I know that seeing a heartbeat doesn't mean it'll stay that way. They've booked me in for another one in two weeks - I think they'll scan me fortnightly until either something goes wrong or I get to 12 weeks.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 28/11/2017 12:42

How wonderful Lisa, so relieved and happy for you! How many weeks today?

When might you have a scan Foxtrot?

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 28/11/2017 11:42

Thanks all - to my absolute astonishment there's a little bean with a heartbeat. Still such a long way to go, but feel like we're one stage closer than we've ever been before.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 27/11/2017 22:26

Thank you both. I’m really writing it off, which is so disappointing as we were on such a good run dtd through fertile week then got whatever it was and felt so shit I didn’t even think about it!

Wedding is in Italy! It’s gping to be the wedding of the century, epically fancy and being a bridesmaid for my little sister is a dream come true.

lisa

Thinking of you and with you in spirit tomorrow. What time is the scan? So desperately hope all is well and you and DH have a tiny sticky strong bean growing in there. Sending all possible good thoughts.

Glad you’re doing better keepon, keep chatting.

How’s your head foxtrot? Does it feel anymore real?

So glad I’ve got you lot. Thank you.

keeponrunning85 · 27/11/2017 17:49

Oh lisa, it is so difficult being where you are right now. Please don't feel you have to apologise. I so hope it is good news tomorrow.

Anne that's annoying that your ov date has been changed. Hopefully there were some swimmers waiting around from previous times. Booking flights for your sister's wedding sounds exciting!

I've never remembered specific due dates either. More just an awareness of roughly when and it was the beginning of December for this last one. I've not done anything specific to mark previous ones either. I tend to just acknowledge it in my mind and let myself feel sad, rather than the head down, crack on with life attitude I usually go with. Have felt better for being distracted at work today.

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 27/11/2017 16:16

I'm not doing so well - scan tomorrow morning, but symptoms have completely faded and I suspect it's going to be a complete re-run of last time, where a scan at the same point found just an empty and very undeveloped sac. Have been trying to be positive, but I feel like I've run out of emotional steam - I've been like a tightly coiled little anxious spring for three weeks now and I'm just so exhausted. Sorry for the moan.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 27/11/2017 11:36

How's everyone?

Had an update in my ov date in FF, now says it was Thursday and I was feeling awful end of last week so we didn't dtd Wednesday or Thursday. Bit pissed off tbh. Assuming it's not happening so going to relax for the rest of the cycle, book flights for my sister's wedding next year, and try and keep busy.

I was really worried about my due date keepon, I worked from home as was expecting a bit of a bawl at some point. Because I'd been thinking about it in the run up I was actually completely fine on the day, DH and I both mentioned it briefly but it felt like any other day, which really surprised me as I'm always one for marking things.

If anything, once it had passed, I found myself no longer keeping track of where I'd have been with the pregnancy. It's coming back with a vengeance now as I never imagined we'd get to xmas 2017 and not have a baby by now. What the fuck is going on? But I haven't had a baby before, only a handful of pregnancies, so I stopped keeping track in my head as I don't know what the baby bit is like. Not sure if that makes sense.

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 26/11/2017 21:04

I'm really sorry for your losses, Gill, and I hope you find this a comforting place to talk.

A long run, a cry and a peaceful day with friends sounds like a good plan, keepon. I think I feel glad that the only due date of the three I remember (because it fell on a day that was otherwise memorable for me) has now passed, so although I know there would be one in December and one in February I don't have days to mark. But I was so much earlier in the pregnancy, of course: although I sometimes think 'I'd be seven months now' or 'I'd have a newborn' I never got to a point where I really thought that would happen because I either lost them so fast or knew it was doomed for a while beforehand.

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keeponrunning85 · 26/11/2017 20:18

Great news on the flat Bertie!

Thanks for the kind words ladies. Lisa, no specific plan to mark it yet. Next weekend I'm going to Exeter to visit an old uni friend to meet her baby which was born in March. She's very kind and sensitive so I think it will be ok. Get back at lunchtime on the Sunday so I'll probably just allow myself a little cry and then go for a long run to clear my head. I've told a couple of close friends about it and am going to meet one of them in the afternoon.

Welcome Gill. Sorry to hear about everything you've been through.

AnneLovesGilbert · 26/11/2017 17:53

Really happy for you Bertie.

Keepon, big hugs love x

BertieBotts · 26/11/2017 12:17

Not until February which is good as gives us time to plan and make arrangements for this place.

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Gillzermammy · 25/11/2017 15:37

Can I join this thread I'm new to all this. Just waiting on my D and C after 5 years of trying, assisted and natural. Had a chemical after one of the IVFs but never been through this. This pregnancy was spontaneous and heartbeat was strong at seven weeks. My 5 year old came hone with slapped cheek, the following week the heartbeat was gone. I have been reading through all your posts and I am humbled by what you are all going through. Thanks for sharing

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LisaSimpsonsbff · 25/11/2017 13:36

Oh that's great news, bertie - congrats! When will you move?

I'm really sorry you're feeling so low, keepon. This whole thing is an awful rollercoaster and I think it's totally normal to find that you feel positive one day and despondent the next. It's so shit because there's nothing to do but keep trying, but trying is so hard and takes so much. I also think it's normal to feel disconnected from others at time.

When is your due date? Do you think it might help to have a plan to mark it, even if just in a very small and private way?

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BertieBotts · 25/11/2017 12:42

We got the flat!! :)

Keepon, sorry you're feeling down. That does sound tough.

Have decided to temp this cycle, if I remember.

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