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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Worried il never have children ..doctor won't help.

61 replies

Lousa31 · 08/09/2017 10:42

I'm 31 nearly 32 and for the past 4 months have tried to get pregnant.
I'm a massive healthy anxiety worrier.
I went back and forwards to the doctor who told me to try for a year etc.
Finally a doctor agreed to run some tests.
She did blood tests day 3/21 etc and they came back fine so she reluctantly sent me for a pelvic ultrasound.
That came back fine and yesterday I went to talk about things and she said nothing on the ultrasound was wrong and no reason to believe I had any issues but I've been reading online that it doesn't show endometriosis or if your tubes are blocked.
So it's not much use.
The doctor won't give me a laparoscopy to look for endo and I asked about the test where they inject dye into you to check for blockages but she said no.
I'm just worried that whatever is stopping me getting pregnant is being missed.
My periods are every 29 days and the ultrasound showed I was about to ovulate from my right ovary.
I just don't know what to do now.

OP posts:
PaintingOwls · 08/09/2017 11:00

In the gentlest possible way, how are you going to cope with pregnancy, OP, if you're like this after 4 (!!) months of TTC? I think you need to look at your anxiety first, as a priority.

StormTreader · 08/09/2017 10:56

4 months is NOTHING, you need to stop worrying.

Afreshstartplease · 08/09/2017 10:55

You perhaps need to see someone about your anxiety and address that first

chronicleink · 08/09/2017 10:54

You need to be trying for 2 years before those tests would be relevant. Get some ovulation tests and start using them, sort the timing out. Four month is nothing. If anything get your partner's sperm count checked privately, that's the cheapest thing at this point. But your Doctor won't to that, you'll have to go private. BECAUSE it's TOO early!

Merida83 · 08/09/2017 10:52

I can't believe you got your GP to do any tests after only 4 months.
NHS guidelines are after 12 continuous months then they will consider it.
4 months of ttc is nothing at all for even the healthiest most fertile types. I honestly think you are a long way off having to worry. (Tho trust me I know how hard it is each month with AF arrives).

But if you are keen to get pregnant asap try using fertility apps, ovulation kits, track your temp and even try using lubrication aimed at helping to conceive like preseed or conceive plus.

(Personal reccomendation try the sperm meets the egg plan, can be found online and down loaded for free!)

But mostly (as hard as it is) just try to relax and enjoy yourself - it helps!

LeChatSauvage · 08/09/2017 10:51

This may sound a bit harsh but you are wasting your poor doctor's time and NHS money. There are women who've been trying for four years not four months. Please let the resources go to helping them. I understand you may have anxiety, but try to think of others. They suggest you give it a year for a reason - it's very common to take a year. In fact some CCGs will make you wait two years before doing tests if you're under 35. In the nicest possible way, you need to get a grip.

Aridane · 08/09/2017 10:49

Not sure private health will carry out invasive testing when it would be premature to do so

Afreshstartplease · 08/09/2017 10:46

Stressing yourself out wont help op

Ttbb · 08/09/2017 10:46

You can always pay to have the tests done privately if you want them.

BackieJerkhart · 08/09/2017 10:45

Umm you are massively jumping the gun! You have been trying for 4 months!! That's no time at all. You realise all those tests and investigations cost the NHS a lot of money don't you??

Aridane · 08/09/2017 10:44

Bloody hell, OP - it's only been 4 months. I think it's your health anxiety that needs attention, not your fertility. And I mean this in the nicest possible way.