Worried il never have children ..doctor won't help.

You will have to learn to ride out the anxiety and either use self-management strategies to reduce it, or just let it peak and decline. Which it will. Seeking reassurance just lands you in an unproductive vicious cycle.

Op read this ^ its bang on.

All those tests you had didn't help. No matter how many tests you have it won't help. If you have a laparoscopy (which would be medically indefensible at this point) it won't help. You'll just latch onto something else.

The only thing that will help is having strategies to manage the anxiety itself, whether that's trying to reduce it or just cope with it.

I suffered with severe an anxiety and OCD after the birth of my first. I was very, very ill. I'm getting through it now but please, get a grip on the anxiety before you are pregnant

I'm not surprised your doctor was reluctant to send you for tests. It isn't uncommon for concieving to take a while, not everyone just stops contraception and suddenly gets pregnant. I dont think the Infertility board is the right place to post this either? There are women on here who have been trying and are still trying after many years. Not just 4 months.

Some people could be completely fertile and it take up to a year.

Some people could have fertility problems and are fortunate to conceive first go.

Some people could have this happen and later find out about any issue further down the line when trying for another child.

It's all down to chance. Seriously. There are so many different scenarios.

You need to clam down OP!

It's only been 4 months.

Also if you have endometriosis you would know about it.

It can take a couple 2 years with no problems/health reason and feasibly healthy and fit are you on anything for your anxiety?

Also if you have been on pill ect 4 months is no time at all for any of that to be totally out your system that can take up to a year my GP told me and sometimes longer he said.

I really think you need to be on something to manage your anxiety.

I spent six months trying to conceive. Four months doesn't sound an excessive amount of time at all.

Stay calm. I'm 33 and fell pregnant so you have time.

Things to consider:
Have you been on the pill? It might take a while to get out your system. When did you stop taking it?
Are you fit and healthy in other way? Do you eat well and exercise? You'll want to be as fit and healthy and it makes conceiving more likely
Are you calm? I really believe your body protects you. So if you are too stressed your body won't let you get pregnant and put you at more risk

My friends took 6 months on average. I fell within a couple of months but had been off the pill for 18 months.

Look after yourself. And don't let it become you're everything (although I understand how it consumes your mind).

I agree with getting your anxiety sorted first before getting pregnant. Otherwise you are more likely to be having a stressful pregnancy and birth, and possibly PND.
You have plenty of time.

OP, I think you would be well advised to hold off from ttc until you have your anxiety under control.
I say this because I am not at all an anxious person, but being a mother has made me worry in new and intense ways.
As others have said, 4 months without a pregnancy is no big deal. A laparoscopy is invasive, not entirely without risk and expensive, particularly where there is as yet no reason to think you need one.

I say this kindly:

1. Your doctor would be grossly negligent and irresponsible if she authorised invasive procedures at this point

1. Humans have a really low rate of sperm+egg= healthy baby. For an AVERAGE healthy young couple it takes a few months. That's an average, so for everyone who has nothing wrong with them and gets pregnant immediately there are others who also have nothing wrong with them and take many months. It's just how it is. We are shit at segregation of chromosomes, we create a lot of sub standard embryos that don't make it very far. All this is normal.

I'm 38, trying to ttc my second and I've had a chemical pregnancy and a miscarriage so far. I KNOW that this is within the bounds of normal. No doctor would investigate me just now.

If you want to maximise your chances then look at apps that chart temperature, pee on opk sticks and examine your cervical mucous.

You're also experiencing a high degree of anxiety. Please if you can get some help in place NOW for that, because the hormonal and physical changes that come with pregnancy can worsen anxiety massively.

At this point, there is no reason to suspect anything is wrong. The chances are you will conceive and carry a perfectly healthy child. It may take several more months. If it's not happening for you after a year, then your GP should start more thorough investigation

Ask your GP for extra help with the health anxiety - there is help available.
But in the fertility front, do you monitor your cycle? I found the Clearblue fertility monitor brilliant. Try that to see if it helps.
But I agree, four months is nothing.
And you're still v young

Has your dh been checked?

Because there is only a 1 in 4 chance every month?

Okay, so don't get your head around it. But accept it, and that that's how ttc works - it isn't in your control and there's a large element of chance. Nobody's going to give a reason that satisfies you, because that's not how anxiety works. You will have to learn to ride out the anxiety and either use self-management strategies to reduce it, or just let it peak and decline. Which it will. Seeking reassurance just lands you in an unproductive vicious cycle.

Are you discussing ttc in your counselling?

OP, I don't wish to increase your stress levels but you do realise it takes two people to create a pregnancy? Your health may be top notch but if there is an issue conceiveing (far too early to tell btw) it could be due to your partner's sperm count or his health. Does he know you are as anxious as you are and putting all this responsibility in your own health?

it can take up to TWO YEARS for a couple with NO FERTILITY PROBLEMS to fall pregnant. Please go and use CBT or other help for your anxiety.

What Tiramisu says. It's not nice to have a mum with anxiety problems. Maybe you should get some coping skills first. You have lots of time left to ttc. 4 months is nothing, there is no reason to worry right now. Take care

I'm not sure this is the right time for you to be TTC to be honest. I would suggest putting it on hold for a few months and really working on managing your anxiety without going for tests or scans.

Just want to reiterate what others said. They will only start investigations after 12 months of ttc. You do need to deal with your health anxiety though as it'll go through the roof when you do get pregnant if you don't get a handle on it now.

I get it I really do I am the least anxious person in the world and when ds was conceived in month 2 at 30 when at 34 we tried for dc2 and it wasn't happening I was freaking out...id left it too late, there was something wrong etc dc was conceived on cycle 10 I think and that was after I did have some blood tests which were showing I wasn't ovulating every month which was pretty worrying. In hindsight I was influenced by all these anomalous stories of getting pg first time and how lucky we had been with dc1. 4 months really is no time.

Step away from dr google try to relax concentrate on diet and lifestyle and making your body as healthy as possible it will all help

Four months is well within normal timeframes. It's insulting to those genuinely suffering from infertility to post on these boards. You've had the basic tests and you need to concentrate on the things within your control now. If you had endometriosis you would have most likely already needed to see your GP due to pain and other complications.

You need help with your anxiety first and foremost. It is especially important as pregancy is also a very nervous time in the early days and beyond, and you don't sound very well equipped to deal with that either.

Op go to the drs and talk about your health anxiety. With zero problems it can take a year to conceive. You need to get your health anxiety under control before you have kids because at best you'll be double as worried and at worst you'll hand your issues in to them or put them through a lot of unevessary procedures on no evidence at all just as you have done to yourself.

The problem isn't your fertility, which I'm not even going to address. The problem is your health anxiety. Your doctor really shouldn't have sent you for those tests - not only was it a waste of time and money, but it's now predictably fed and further entrenched the anxiety.

You need to seek counselling and support for the health anxiety, and to develop strategies to manage it yourself without seeking reassurance through doctors and tests.

4 months is nothing. possibly your anxiety is contributing to you not getting pregnant.