Immune/NK issues - aka Pred Thread no. 21!

Thank you @karryk for updating us with your marvellous success story! Cheers to your lovely little girl x

❤️😌 Take xxx

Thanks @karryk for your post, perfect timing and @LunaB for tagging me! I got a BFN today after my second round of pred with Dr S and the anxiety around my age - 43 - has kicked in horrendously. So your post and your wonderful, happy ending has helped and made me smile.

To everyone on this tumultuous journey I salute you! ❤️

@karryk I would say that post is just what some of us need!! @Take4 hope this cheers you up a bit today - I really think we need to chill a bit more and know we are doing all we can!

karry, what a lovely story and I'm so pleased for you and your wondefyl rainbow 🌈 this story has cheered me up so much!

I too have a bad reaction to the Pred so at some point I would need to evaluate the pros and cons xxxx

Hello ladies :)

It's been a while since I was here so don't recognise any of the names but thought I'd pop by to offer support.

My story is probably more for those who try Dr S and it doesn't work for any reason. I had two mmc and a chemical pregnancy. One of those mmc was on the steroid programme. Unfortunately I had quite a reaction to the tablets and took the decision to discontinue the treatment and just let whatever happened, happen. To my delight, a few months after the erpc last summer, I was pregnant and a couple of dramas aside, I had a lovely baby girl in July. Just a month past my 40th birthday too (to give hope to anyone thinking they're running out of time).

I hope that one way or another you all get your little bubs, safe and sound. I'll never forget the emotions we went through while trying and maybe our happy beginning gives others hope.

Much love...do DM me if you have any questions, I do pop back to check those.

Best wishes xx

Congrats Choo!! That's amazing!! So you got preg between appointments?? That happened to me. And I was already pg this time before seeing DrS.
Have you got any meds to start you off?
Def get an early scan if you can. Generally EPU are very sympathetic. I'm sure you'll be able to get a reassurance scan if you want one. I've sent the invite link so we'll see you over on FB soon

choo congratulations! This is great news!!! Hope you can relax and not worry (I know so much easier said than done) before you see Mr S. hopefully this is the start of a bfp run as well!

Choo, when you coming over to Facebook? Xxx

One more this from my visit to the clinic today...
Did anyone read my post on mums net re sperm medication? If you did Dr S today said that husbands are only meant to be on ONE of the two drugs. He slightly favours the fertisilan. The bit of paper he gives does not say just pick one! I did point that out and he said he's sure the midwife should have told me... it was actually him who gave me the card but was obvs too scared to say!! Sooooo I'm hoping we haven't fried the current sperm!! For anyone who's bought the fertisilan he said to get the strongest strength... I could only see one strength in the site but he was armament there were several. Xxx Dr Soph the sperm doctor isn't so knowledgeable after all x

Thanks guys ❤️

Please don't worry about age, I've had so many consultants tell me this scaremongering over age is ridiculous. I know plenty of first time mums in their 40s

Hear hear pops

Congrats Choo! A few people on this thread and related previous ones have been have got to Dr S pregnant and they've turned out fine. All the best with out!

Thanks JustLa, for the reassurance boost. My instinct is that it's all fine age wise and the more I hear that more confident about that! I'd feel blessed with one and over the moon with too I got there so I think it's totally toable even without the mad rush rush! I'm seeing so many women breezing late thirties and into their forties I really should give myself a break!x

Fingers crossed Choo - and he will of course support you and so with your EPU - and so will we 💓

No way Just - the banter is the best bit! Was just trying to show that we try to copy the medical stuff here as well as FB to inform newbies! We also post porn, sex talk etc. 😝😝

Poppy, glad AF is behaving for you! Gaining a day is always nice 😊

No matter how hard you try, the age thing is always niggling away! I keep regretting not moving faster between mc, but I may have broken myself if pushed too fast. 35 is nothing sweetie, I aimed for 33 being the perfect age to get pg (missed it by a few years haha) but you are only a couple of years over that! Still within 'perfect' range imo xxx Hope the new drops help too

Choochoo omg!!! Pg, congrats!!
Yes jump onto fb, there is always a lot happening in there but hopefully it's easier to look at the different threads we have.
We also post scan pics, ovu test pics, etc which is great. You can tell them you've been having some pains and concerns (which won't be a lie) and that you would like a scan at the early pregnancy unit at local hospital. Once you've got in there and befriended the sonographers, you can ask to book again for 2 weeks after 1st scan, and continue rebooking every time you go in. I found letting the sonographers know how distraught I was about the whole thing helped them to want to support me. They've been fab (I have my last one with her tomorrow at 15+5 which is way past early pregnancy time!)
Xx

Luna, great idea on keeping it real in here, I go off track way too easy which isn't helpful for newcomers 😖 x

It's in a couple of weeks. I'm hoping this sticks but it will be nice to have some support. I'm hoping mw will let me have early reassurance scan this time. I usually lose at around 7 weeks.

Choo!!! AMAZING news my love!!! How wonderful - let's pretend nothing bad has ever happened and enjoy the moment :))

When is your appointment again??

We try and keep the proper medical stuff on here, so newbies can find useful info - and Facebook for sillier and more personal stuff-
If you send your email address to Seeking, she can add you 💓

Hello all! I'm trying to keep up and understand the lingo :) it's all a bit new!

Following all your progress but I'm wondering if it would be easier on Facebook. How do I join please?

So as I suspected it looks like I'm pregnant again, which means (hopefully if it sticks) I'll be pregnant when I go to see Dr S. argh! I hope he's not annoyed.

I'd love to turn them all into women doctors tho... I feel v uncomfortable with man doctors

Argh, that's horrifying! No one gets how bad it is until it happens, so in a way male docs will never fully understand. Still, means I have a lot of respect for men like Dr S and Professor Conway who specialise in women's stuff.

God I'll never forget the little fucker GP who snapped, "its only the second - so what do you want then?" When I told him I'm in the middle of my 2nd consequtive miscarriage! Motherfucker - I've never tried so hard not to cry... didn't want to let that fucker make me cry...

Did I mention he was a fucker lol

Very true.. the only reason I took it is because I found a random old mumsnet post where they were all taking aspirin! I asked the GP and he just shrugged and said 'can't hurt I guess'... so I went for it! Luckily Dr S prescribes it as standard to all his ladies...

First time anyone has ever told me to take it! I really feel like some docs treat miscarriage as some airy fairy setback rather than the horrific trauma it actually is x

Wow poppy amazing story about your doc! I hate all the age stress post 35... it's really suffocated me, but I've released myself from that worry. Got bigger fish to fry!

Great the Pred is regulating your cycle and you're right, coming on/off it isn't a good idea!! I'm surprised you've not been on aspirin all this time? Thought it was standard practice for recurrent miscarriage?

Hi all,

Right. Back home with connection; DP has been very demanding since he's been back, but I'm so happy to have him with me again!

All of you who commented on my earlier post, AF did arrive mid-sex last night which I think counts as 12DPO as it was about 1am. So I've gained a day on my luteal phase as VERY relieved!

Tee - that's so frustrating about coordinating with your DH; I think it's really hard for them too. We have had a few similar issues and tried not telling him when it was the fertile window, to alleviate the pressure. In the end I decided, as your DH acknowledges, that being on these meds is a big deal and it's just not possible to take a relaxed approach. I really feel for you because it's so upsetting. Congrats on the positive thyroid result, that should be a great feather in your cap from now on. We all need a boost when we're so used to bad news from docs.

Luna - glad you and DH have found an arrangement. Sniggering at the idea of "whatever the Hell he wants" and thinking back to your earlier comment about being on your knees dripping with lube In answer to your suggestion, I'm too afraid to come off Pred and then go back on as it messed my cycle up so much initially it could take another six months to get regular again!

Thanks, Seeking, I am going to go with the high progesterone is my saviour theory!

Harriet, sorry I missed your message about the booking apt. Congrats on graduating from EPU, that must feel sooo good. Thanks for your thoughts on the cumulative effect; I think that is what's happening given my growing luteal phase!

Drttc, completely understand about Facebook! Harriet has already made the point that we must keep the MN chat going strong, particularly for the newbies we are picking up. Sorry to hear you're feeling so sick. Do you feel better or worse outside in fresh air?

Just, wow, you must be so horny, bless you! I understand your fear. There are just so many little potential risks out there that may or may not be a problem but the fear kind of stops them being enjoyable anyway, eh, so avoiding often feels like the best approach.

Regarding my natural therapy apt; I didn't have acupuncture because the homeopath/acupuncturist said it won't suit my travel schedule and I'm better off with a medication. She prescribed me drops that I have to take three times a day to help regulate hormones. She said it works fine with the Pred. She also told me to take an aspirin a day from now on.

She also told me to stop worrying about age and produced a newspaper clipping of herself 21 years ago featured having just given birth to her son, aged 48! I had heard this from my mum who also sees her but it was so lovely to see the proof. She said women were having babies into their 50s when there was no contraception and "35 is nothing." As I left the room she said "you will get there." I really needed to hear that!

I hope I haven't missed anyone out but I think I've caught a couple of you on FB on more up to date posts xx