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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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So, onto cycle number 2! Anyone else quite new to this game?

233 replies

karategirl · 02/09/2017 17:44

We started trying properly last month, and inevitably my husband was away during the key few days! Unsurprisingly, my period arrived bang on time so now we're onto cycle number 2.

I'm being very impatient about conceiving and it seems to have been forever already (I know, I'm being a crazy person!) but I think part of that is having taken pregnacare since April, even though we were still using contraception then. I guess I'm just not very good at not being in control... I've had to seriously educate my husband too - he seemed to be convinced that we could get pregnant at any time of the month, and that it would inevitably happen immediately! He didn't realise that it often takes months even for healthy couples.

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DragonsandDungeons · 03/09/2017 13:56

Hi Armygirl :) welcome!

Armygirl · 03/09/2017 13:55

Hi can I join? I stopped my mini pill 24th July and stupidly thought I would have a bleed after a few days! Nope! 6 weeks later and still no period! 😔 PT are negative! DP and I live apart as he's in the army so I have a feeling it's going to be pretty difficult ttc! Just wish my period would hurry up so I can start again. Cycle was always 28 days before the pill and I conceived 3 dc first few months!

DragonsandDungeons · 03/09/2017 13:54

Mine has no idea when it is. I'm sure it's today judging by my OPKs but I'm certainly not saying that!

We had a funny conversation when he saw ff on my phone. He thought it was a calendar.

Mr Dungeon: What's that? A calendar?
Me: don't touch it.
Mr Dungeon: why?
Me: just don't. You don't want to know.
Mr Dungeon: no I do! Tell me!
Me: No. You don't want to
Mr Dungeon: TELL MEEEE!
Me: GODDAMNIT ITS A FERTILITY APP.
Mr Dungeon: ...oh hides and runs away

Beckypea · 03/09/2017 13:39

Yeah think that's the best way. I told him it's towards the end of the month but that's all he knows. Yup fingers crossed guys.

DragonsandDungeons · 03/09/2017 13:14

My DP doesn't like trying. He's said he's fine with me trying but to not tell him when ovulation is or anything because he feels pressured. He knows I use OPK, and cycle tracking, he just likes to forget about it

Stee1 · 03/09/2017 13:04

Yes same here lol. Fingers crossed for a BFP in October for us. X

Beckypea · 03/09/2017 12:58

@Stee1 we also didn't really TRY this cycle. Trying to keep cool not to freak DP out as it was the first month without any protection. But I have told him that this next cycle I want to make sure we do it right.

Beckypea · 03/09/2017 12:55

It's such a mixed bag... I have two friends who tired ages for DC1 and they are now both trying for DC2 and finding it just as hard. However my friend friend fell pregnant 4 times straight away.... She was honestly pregnant for about 4 years none stop. My sister caught straight away as well. Fingers crossed for you. Yeah 7 months is terrible... They think my sister in law may have Endometriosis. They have done bloods through the the GP but to been seen in the hospital for tests it's 7 months waiting list.

Stee1 · 03/09/2017 12:46

I'm ok we didn't really 'try' to be honest once this period arrives thats when we will properly start x

KEG973 · 03/09/2017 12:42

Hi Beckypea

Welcome :) aw im gald your DP is on board now and may it happen super quickly for u. Wow 7 months that is a very long time! My GP is lovely and i would hope he can reassure me. Those stupid tests are really starting to annoy me, i could punch that flashy face!!!!! Also they are
So expensive £27 for 10 tests nearly 3 quid to pee ona damn stick. Will do it for one more month then stop as it is getting disheartning. Also did some research on leutal phases and cant seem to get a proper answer on what the treatment would be. Im 27 and DH is 34 married for 4.5 years and i really did think it would just happen straight away for us

Stee1 :( im sorry its not nice knowing you have to start everything all over again.

Stee1 · 03/09/2017 12:25

I'm sure we missed our window last month too. Expecting flo anytime broke out on my chin and pains today 😑

Beckypea · 03/09/2017 11:51

@Sictransitgloria also avoiding opks for as long as I can.

Sictransitgloria · 03/09/2017 11:44

@karategirl yep definitely in the same boat. I will think about opks in a few months but I personally think the pressure would cause me more harm than good. Good luck 😁

Beckypea · 03/09/2017 11:42

Hi can I join? Hi everyone!

We are on cycle one.... But I really think I'm out this month. Trying for our first so knew to all this. I don't feel like I ovulated this month. I don't temp. Just have an app or two and look for signs. AF is due Thursday. Been off my pill since June 2016 as was hoping to start TTC last year but DP had a freak out about it all. We had a couple of good chats, and he feels ready now. We are both in our early 30s.

@karategirl my DP also thought that it could happen at any time of the month, also been educating him.

@KEG973 I'm not sure what to say. My sister in law told me the other day that she has been to see her GP after TTC for 5 months and she told me it's a 7 month waiting list to see someone in our area. Maybe worth a chat if you are worried?

DragonsandDungeons · 03/09/2017 11:37

Stee thanks. I had mild cramps this morning so I'm assuming that was ovulation. CD9. Bugger. I'm worried we missed the window :(

KEG973 · 03/09/2017 10:24

Hi there all

This is my first time posting on Mums net :)

We are now in month 2. I had myself convinced i was pregnant last month but what i thought was implantation bleeding was my period. I have bought and used clearblue ovulation kits (the expensive kind) and I ovulated on CD21 had period on CD28.

This month is getting me concerned, i am now on CD24 and still have the smiley face that flashes, ie not yet ovulated. If i get my period on CD28 as I an expecting to this puts the time from ovulation to period to just 3 or 4 days which is impossible to concieve with.

My question to you lovely ladies is, should i go and highlight this to my GP at this point? My concern
Is that come January my husband will be away for 6 months sp if it doesnt happen for us before then it will be at least a year away x

Original poster
karategirl · 03/09/2017 10:13

Hi MrsJones17, Stee1 and Sictransitgloria.

Glad to hear there are others in the same boat in terms of impatience Grin.

I'm not temping or doing OPKs at the moment, but expect I will start to if nothing happens in the next couple of months. I'm just using the estimated dates on my Clue app, and keeping an eye on my CM (and level of horniness! Wink) to work out ovulation.

Having been on hormonal contraception for 12 or 13 years, it's made me realise how much it was messing with my mental health. I'm so much happier since I had my implant out - has anyone else had a similar experience?

I spent £40 on Pregnacare conception vitamins on Friday! 3 for 2 in Boots, and I figured that I'll be really miffed if it takes a few months and I end up buying 3 boxes at full price, whereas if it happens really quickly I won't care about the extra money spent. I then realised that you could read the boxes through the carrier bag, so I had to shove my coat in there too as I don't want my colleagues to know that we're trying!

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Stee1 · 03/09/2017 09:04

You usually ovulate 12-36 after first positive opk. I found them quite confusing at first I bought the clear blue advanced kit for this month No sign of AF a day late x

DragonsandDungeons · 02/09/2017 23:38

Okay just did an OPK today, yesterday's was definitely positive. Does that mean I'm ovulating today

DragonsandDungeons · 02/09/2017 19:55

Yeah similar thing here although I'd only been on contraception for 6 months. I'm tracking my cycle to get a better indication if ovulation. So far I had EWCM yesterday.

I'm hoping it's at least CD11 before I actually ovulate but Angry

Stee1 · 02/09/2017 19:52

Same here unsure of my cycles really as I came off implant start of April after 8 years had them.renewed obviously waiting for my periods to start but got caught pregnant before. Maybe opk for a month or two to check cycles? I had positive ovulation opk and pains on cd 15 so sure of that date. Didn't dtd that much though. X

DragonsandDungeons · 02/09/2017 19:47

And I since, not and since I* dyslexia Blush

DragonsandDungeons · 02/09/2017 19:46

I don't actually know. I got pregnant very quickly after my pill and since I miscarried and had to have ERPC. I had my period 18 days after.

I remember them being around 28 days after I had my son, but I haven't really used OPK before. I'm sure I used to ovulate on day 15 because I get pain, and I conceived both times on day 14...

Stee1 · 02/09/2017 19:44

How long are your cycles? I'm due my 2nd one anytime now had a positive opk on cd15 and should get my period today. Negative tests so far x

DragonsandDungeons · 02/09/2017 19:40

I've discovered I seem to be ovulating around CD9-CD11. I'm worried this is going to cause problems.

CD8 and had an almost positive OPK last night, looks even darker now I've left it out!

So, onto cycle number 2! Anyone else quite new to this game?
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