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SQUARE ONE'RS TO GRADUATES! Morale & energy is low, but we will not be beaten, BFPs WILL be achieved in this here thread!

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Tee4me · 06/08/2017 19:08

Roll call:

Tee4me: 34 years old
TTC: #2 since December 2015
DC: DS nearly 5 years old
x2 early MCs
Diagnosed with high level of activated NK cells with positive result for Antinuclear Antibodies plus Hypothyroidism.
About to embark on 1st cycle with medication (from ovulation).
CD7 and gearing up for FW!

Welcoming original square-oner's and any newbies battling along and in need some support x

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physicskate · 26/06/2018 09:07

I have to go in on Friday to get a beta hcg. That's what my clinic does... and then I have to make it to 6 week scan and then I think I would get discharged. I'll have to take blood thinners until 8 or 10 weeks (not my favourite injection) and cyclogest until 12 weeks... trying not to get carried away. There is a reasonable probability of his ending in tears...

SQUARE ONE'RS TO GRADUATES! Morale & energy is low, but we will not be beaten, BFPs WILL be achieved in this here thread!
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Tee4me · 26/06/2018 08:55

Praying it'll be 4th time lucky! I'm entitled to an early scan on NHS because of the ectopic in March/April. I feel very grateful to have fallen again so quickly, I just hope it's in the right place and my body doesn't reject it! The line on the hpt was pretty strong though (which it wasn't at this stage last time)
@Russkispy there is a theory that you could be more fertile after miscarriage so 🙏🏻 for you xx

SQUARE ONE'RS TO GRADUATES! Morale & energy is low, but we will not be beaten, BFPs WILL be achieved in this here thread!
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Russkispy · 26/06/2018 08:35

@kate and @Tee, that’s fantastic news! Cautious congratulations and I’ve crossed everything here for you!

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Tee4me · 26/06/2018 07:53

Oh fantastic @physicskate that's great!!
OK I can now admit to the bfp I also got yesterday morning at 14dpo, we could be in this together 😬 xx

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physicskate · 26/06/2018 07:38

I always did have rubbish timing... I got a bfp. I did yesterday and thought it might be the trigger shot, but it's a little darker today... so I guess I'm still in with a shout. Trying not to get excited just yet... it's early days. I'm only 6dp5dt.

Russkispy · 25/06/2018 21:01

Thank you ladies. I’ll still call EPU tomorrow and Wednesday mornings to see if they had any cancellations before Friday. They did say they would call me but it won’t hurt if I do that too. Still hoping the bleeding won’t start till then. The initial shock has been worn off now, I believe. And must think positive from this point onwards. Went on cooking binge for 2 days now! Practically cooked for Russia and now no space left in the freezer. And yesterday, straight after my scan, I met my best friend and her family for her 3d+4d scan which I booked for her weeks ago! I’ve got thick skin, and even today walking around EPU and maternity department, seeing all pregnant ladies, didn’t make feel upset or mad or angry. Was only thinking they might have had a long journey too. Spoke with my clinic today and we’re thinking about IUI in September/October. The fight is not over for me and you, ladies! We must get going till we get there! And I’m convinced some time later it will happen!

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Tee4me · 25/06/2018 19:23

Hi @Russkispy. My D&C was booked a week after the scan confirmed missed miscarriage. I started bleeding a few days before I was due to go in. I was pleased for natural in my situation, although passing the empty sack was like a mini labour. I know a lot of ladies who felt the procedure was the quickest most painless option, and had a better experience with that versus natural. Sounds like it will work for you considering all you have going on. Psychologically it might be less painful too. I always wanted to TTC immediately after miscarriage, and I know some women who fell in the following cycle, but generally you are advised to take a break so that you have a period before trying again. I think I always still ovulated 2 weeks after I miscarried, so I could basically count the first day of miscarriage bleed as CD1 of my cycle. Some people count D&C as CD1.
Good luck xx

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physicskate · 25/06/2018 17:07

I'm so sorry @Russkispy. I haven't ever been that far along, so can't advise about timing. I really hope you can relax and recover over your holiday.

Russkispy · 25/06/2018 16:27

Thank you lovely ladies! Went to EPU lunch time, the scan confirmed the growth/pregnancy stopped at 6w2d, pretty much straight after my first early scan.
I’ve opted for a D&C and they squeezed me in this Friday. We got family holiday booked a few months ago and flying this Sunday, plus I’m returning to work after my maternity leave the following week. I couldn’t deal with the natural way during those times plus at work. I’m just hoping there’s a cancellation and I can be called in soon than Friday. Just don’t want bleeding starting now till Friday. @Tee, how long did you wait for your D&C?
MC is still very much foreign to me although I tried to read about it last night. Too painful. And I just want to get D&C done and come back to work without thinking about it.
Thank you for all your support lovely ladies! Just wondering how soon have you started TTC after MC? the doctor today said to wait till I get my 1st AF, which is roughly 6 weeks? Must concentrate on positives here

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Tee4me · 24/06/2018 20:27

Oh @Russkispy I'm so sorry. Yes I've been in that position, my second miscarriage was 'missed', and my third was ectopic. It's just horrendous going for that scan only to be told there's no heartbeat, I'm so sorry you're going through this, there are no words that I can say that will make you feel better right now, but I promise you will get through this. I suspect at the EPU they will give you the option to book for a D&C or wait for things to happen naturally. I booked in for the procedure but then things happened naturally in the meantime. Let us know how you get on, will be thinking of you xx

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physicskate · 24/06/2018 17:38

Very sorry to hear that @Russkispy. It's never the news you want to hear... be kind to yourself. However you're feeling is totally justified.

Welcome back @radderss! Of course I remember you. It does make me a bit sad though for myself... I've changed a lot in the last two years. Not at all in a good way... hope it's a quick process again for you!

Russkispy · 24/06/2018 17:10

Never felt any pain or cramps, or bleeding. Just noticed the nausea stopped 2 weeks ago and yet was on and off with it for the past 2 weeks. At the scan I was told it was a missed miscarriage

Russkispy · 24/06/2018 17:05

Thought I’d never write this but...sad news for us. Had my 8+2 scan today but there was no heartbeat! When we had our 1st scan 2 weeks ago and I was measured a week behind as originally thought, sadly, everything stopped pretty much right there and then. As they measured me today at 6 weeks only! Devastated is the understatement. Booked for a scan at the local EPU for tomorrow afternoon and then discuss the next steps. I know some of you been in this position before and I’m really sorry about that. I couldn’t never imagine yiur pain but now I know! I hope you’re feeling stronger after that and positive as I believe it’s only the way forward. I have to! Thank you for yiur time reading this. X

radderss · 24/06/2018 14:46

Yes had a little boy who's now nearly 17 Months. How quick time has gone!
I've always been here reading all your journeys. Often wonder how Jam is .... she seems to have disappeared now xx

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Tee4me · 24/06/2018 10:56

Great news @radderss Gosh I remember you right at the start, over 2 years ago now. How is you little one? You had a little boy didn't you? x

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emalady · 24/06/2018 06:52

@physicskate really good news that you have some frozen as well as the fresh cycle. Good luck with your test, when should you find out?

radderss · 23/06/2018 21:21

Fingers crossed for you Kate.... eagerly awaiting Friday.

We have decided to try for a second and I am hoping that we can all be on the pregnancy journey together this time xxx

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Tee4me · 22/06/2018 07:30

I understand, to a degree I try and manage my expectations every month too. I'm just really encouraged that you have a fresh cycle and a good supply of frosties too. I have been listening to an audio book called 'The Power', which coaches you to imagine and visualise the outcome you want as a strategy for helping you get there. I think after 2.5 years trying, subconsciously we are prepared for negative outcomes anyway, so allow yourself to imagine success too.

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physicskate · 21/06/2018 18:31

Right, of course. But I am also trying to be realistic. We've got a 30.5% chance of this working. Trying not to get my hopes up because I'm not sure how I would pick myself up....

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Tee4me · 21/06/2018 18:29

@physicskate

SQUARE ONE'RS TO GRADUATES! Morale & energy is low, but we will not be beaten, BFPs WILL be achieved in this here thread!
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Tee4me · 21/06/2018 18:28

Think positive @physicskate!! This is going to happen for you, you are so close now. I can't tell you how excited I am for you, you so deserve this!! xx

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physicskate · 21/06/2018 18:11

Ovaries quite painful still, hopefully settling down. Trying to just keep chill. Got to see our little blast yesterday. Already feeling maternal towards it which will make next Friday sad when/ if it doesn't work.

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Tee4me · 21/06/2018 17:59

Oh amazing @physicskate!! How are you feeling today?? When do you test?? xx

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physicskate · 20/06/2018 09:28

One top quality being transferred today and three in the freezer!! Maybe more to freeze tomorrow (but unlikely)! I'm quite honestly surprised!!

physicskate · 18/06/2018 11:57

Mild OHSS and now on daily injections of fragmin, which I gather is a blood thinner. May or may not have transfer Wednesday (if we get any to 5 day - not counting my chickens!!).

Congrats emalady.

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