TTC After MC 12: Hopeful Twats and Emotional Wrecks welcome!

impatientmummy* I miscarried at 5 weeks too. It's been 2 months and I am still trying hard to over come it.

Your experience is a devastating one and I think although it is good to feel empathy for others who are further along, I just need to tell you that YOU also need love and care and you have to grieve.

Everyone is different and no matter how far along you were it is still a horrible experience. I can vouch for that.
It's good to talk to people, I found that talking to others has really helped and opened my eyes that we are not alone in this. A lot of women I have spoken with have shared similar experiences.

I marked my loss and I found that really helpful.
I ovulated straight away but I didn't rush it. They say to wait a cycle because it can really mess up timings and lead to more heartache but it's a personal choice. Also, for me, I must have had a high HCG level because it took at least 2 weeks to stop feeling symptoms and I still tested positive for a while.
It's everyone's personal journey. I would talk to your partner as well because I have bad days and It makes it difficult to get out of bed etc. If you are having down days, it's important to share that. I didn't and it caused arguments.
I am feeling better now but everyone is different and only you will know how it affects you.
I read up a lot about trying again and there are some useful articles but I think i obsessed about it. I'm trying to take it easy now and find that making time for me and enjoying myself with the things I love help a lot.
I certainly won't be the same again and i think it's about acceptance of that. The hardest thing for me was not understanding why and I think that is common. I still hate that I don't know why but I have been trying hard to keep fit, eat well and take vitamins which I wasn't doing before.
You will go through stages...I suspect. I went through really wanting to try again as soon as possible, to anger, sadness, guilt. The lot. And that is normal. By understanding that it is normal will go along way. I hope this was somehow helpful... and I hope things go well for you in the future.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Ray

Well AF just arrived - in the evening weirdly which never happens and makes this a 26 day cycle and 11/12 day LP. My cycles have been 30-32 days since coming off pill in Dec but I did ovulate earlier this month - hoped it was a good sign as the only other month I ovulated this early, I got my BFP, which sadly ended in MC. Silver lining of AF arriving today is that FW will start 5 days before we fly home so lots of scope for a nice holiday baby. I've had a little cry but I'm ok. Onto cycle 4 post mc now. Hope everyone is holding up ok x

Weaseldee thanks so much for responding, & so glad that happened for you. I'm going to try the same, using as day one, and hope this is our month x

Hi mummy36, I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks and got pregnant straight after by using the miscarriage at day 1 of cycle. He's now 4 :)
Good luck and sorry for your loss, it's never easy x

Hi & Hope it's ok to jump in? Firstly I'm so sorry for everyone's losses, can't believe this happens to so many.

Compared to others' experiences I feel a bit of a fraud because I've just mc at 5 weeks, and I do understand that's less traumatic than a loss later down the line, I really am not trying to compare my experience to that.

I did want to ask though if anyone else on here had similar experience and if so how did you go about trying again, when did you ovulate, knowing when to start using ovulation kit for example (I use clearblue). I've heard people say they used first day of MC bleed as cycle day one but no idea if that's right?

This has only just happened to me this weekend and I do feel devastated of course, but feel the only way to move on is to try to conceive as fast as possible now. I'm 36 and had been trying for 6 months up to MC.

Thanks XX

So basically I took myself to a&e 22nd June with bleeding they told me everything was fine cause a pregnancy test came back positive and to go home, so I rang my midwife arranged a same day scan found out baby had no heart beat and stopped developing at 8 weeks. Got admitted to hospital 23rd as insane pain and had to go through the labour, was bleeding for 1/2 weeks then stopped done a pregnancy test after leaving hospital (negative) then was in hospital for sprained back 17th July done a preg test then (negative) since miscarriage I've had no bleeding/cramps nothing, however no pregnancy symptoms either so done preg test a week ago (positive) and then 2 clear blues (positive: 1-2 weeks) two days later (positive 2-3 weeks) surely it can't be hormones from the miscarriage? Help? Just scared to get my hopes up and my gp has given me nothing to go on except to say "just wait and see"

Ray I always get moody, have always had a row with DH before getting a positive result

I had exactly that Ray with one of mine! I've awful sore boobs pre every af since I came off the pill and with one of my pregnancies I knew I was pregnant, mainly because I knew af wasn't coming, and looking back that was way ahead of when I tested. I turned over in the morning to DH on his birthday and said "I think I'm pregnant" and he said "I think you are too". And I was!

Also apologies for not reading all these messages it would take forever!. I did see that lime has had a shocking time with her GP. Sorry to hear that and to everyone else going through awful circumstances. I hope we all get the BFP's and sticky beans soon.

Hey, just wanted some Insight and wonder if anyone else has experienced the same thing.

Miscarried about 2 months ago but when I found out I was pregnant I didn't have sore boobs. Usually my boobs are really sore about 2 weeks before period and I have awful PMS. I kinda figured somehing was up because I always have breast tenderness.

After miscarriage I had a horrible AF (to be expected). This month, I am currently 7dpo am I don't feel any tenderness.. similar to when I found out I was pregnant but mc.

Anyone else have lack of symptoms before positive?
After I got my positive my boobs started hurting.

Any insight would be very welcome!

Ray

Welcome hongkong, I'm so sorry about your losses

You're among friends here, no one gets it like this beautiful rabble, they've been keeping me sane!

Hi, can I join please - bit of an emotional wreck today! I had a mmc in April which was my third miscarriage in total (in between them I did have my ds who I am hugely grateful for). This is 2nd month of ttc after mmc and I got a bfn on a FRER yesterday and AF due tomorrow. I try to stay positive and relaxed but failing badly today!
So sorry for everyone also having a hard time - miscarriage and ttc after them can be soul destroying at times xxx

It's so natural though tiffin, we've all been there xxx

I've never used opk but like that temping confirms ovulation. From a dtd perspective, you have to keep going after you think you've ovd as you don't confirm it happened till 3 days after. Both cycles I've temped the ov date on Fertility Friend has then changed to a couple of days later (it tells you when you've had 3 days days of increasing temps higher than the coverline).

If it's feeling like hard work you might find that makes it worse. I kicked myself this cycle because we dtd every days for ages, I was sure I'd ovd, and then didn't for two days and might have bloody missed it as FF changed my OD! Which obviously isn't stopping me from getting my stupid hopes up.... I'm not going to miss more than one day at a time in future till I've got a solid red crosshairs confirming it!

If you switch to every other day you should still be covered. Some people find throwing all the other stuff out the window and just focussing on dtd every other day means you don't have to think about timings. But temping itself is the easiest thing ever, I WISH I'd started last year. Taking charge of your fertility is a brilliant read, I got one second hand on amazon. Very straight forward and she manages to inject plenty of comedy into TTC. Which, I'll be honest, I find pretty unamusing most of the time. Worth a go. If you find it a hassle you just stop.

Depending on your working days, can you dtd as soon as you're both home before you settle down for the night a couple of times a week? Mixes things up a bit and you won't have it hanging over you when you're shattered and ready for bed to sleep. Or go for every other day.

Hi everyone, sorry I am struggling to keep up with you all!

Yellow and Grumpy I'm sorry about the bfn, they hit you like a tonne of bricks each month don't they.

Bertie and Anne you've inspired me to temp too. Not sure if it's really worth it given that I'm doing the clear blue opks too, but I figured it was worth a shot. No idea what I'm doing yet though! What should I be looking for?

I'm cd14 and peak fertility according to my clear blue opk. Trying to DTD every day, but exhausted so finding it hard. It's getting very monotonous this ttc business.

It seems like everyone around me is pregnant too which is depressing. I'm finding it increasingly difficult to be happy for people as I seem to turn into a jealous monster at anyone who can get pregnant. Not a personality trait I want or am proud of.

Blimey. I'll have a look later. I'm shattered after not getting to sleep till about 2 then having mental dreams and waking up a couple of times. Today has very real rabbit hole potential.....

not looking up due dates or anything, honest

I've been doing so well since June when I had my last really mega HT/anxiety episode and it's all gone to shit. I so desperately want to be pregnant

can you fly with a 6 week old baby, how do you get it a passport?!

Annie pretty much. I was searching 'live pregnancy test, 7dpo' etc.

T'was a long long rabbit hole I fell in to!

What a Saturday night I had!

People peeing on sticks on camera?! Or them showing other people they were pregnant? Sounds amazing.

Any sign of af...?

What we all do to ourselves Annie! I lost a frightening hour you-tubing live pregnancy test results.
Sometimes I wonder what's become of me

Crap bags, sorry Grumpy Plan something nice for today, look after yourself.

I've entered terrifying HT territory as has DH. Huge temp spike today and spent about an hour last night geeking out on photos of implantation dips. What am I doing to myself?!

BFN on FRER so expect AF in the next couple of days. Onto cycle 4 post mc

hot I feel exactly the same - scared of letting myself feel hopeful and resigned to it ending one way or another. I'm trying to take it each day at a time - each day I get through still pregnant is a step in the right direction. If I make it to the 12 week scan I know I'll be expecting bad news but trying to allow myself little glimpses of what it would be like to get that far and get good news. One day at a time x

Grumpy, good luck for tomorrow!

yellow, hope af comes soon for you so you know where you're at.

Anne, sorry I can't offer any advice on the chart but I have everything crossed for you x

Thank you bertie, you're my temping guru. Will have to see what happens! Fx for you too.

@AnneLovesGilbert I have absolutely no idea. My ERPC was 10th July, but my cycles can be around 40-50 days. Hopefully AF will turn up at the weekend & I'll be put out of my misery. I'm not peeing on anymore sticks, even opks, until I've had AF.