Immune/NK issues - aka Pred Thread no.20!

Fingers crossed but far, far away from certain.

LunaB, it will be, we are picking up newbies all the time. And once we all get BFPs we have many months of pregnancy angst to support each other through! 😂

I am comforted by those going before me, I must say ❤️

🤞🤞🤞 more babies - this group won't be TTC for much longer ❤️

Haha, great question, LunaB! First I had nothing then it gave me 8 points out of 100 up until yesterday, then jumped to 16 this morning and now it's down at 15 but not sure why! If it keeps increasing at this rate I will be happy because if it gets to 70-80 by test day you are almost twice as likely to be pregnant than not...or something, I'm not very good on statistics.

By the way, all, I wondered if you might be interested in a distracting little survey. It's the second What Women Want Survey, 20 years after the first. I've said I want a number of things including better maternity care, more research into recurrent miscarriage and a breaking down of the taboo around miscarriage. Should have said one of the worst things about it is feeling like you can't take time off for that reason because then you're employer knows you intend to take maternity leave in the not so distant future.

Anyway, here it is if anyone is interested!

www.thisiswhatwomenwant.org

Wow poppy what % is the app showing!?

JustLa, that's really interesting about the scan dating. Gosh I don't think I could handle an abrupt manner, I'm too fragile about all this stuff! I love UCLH endocrinology, particularly Professor Conway. They are so kind and soothing.

Sorry to hear you're having an uncomfortable time! Definitely sounds pregnancy related and I suppose pregnancy symptoms feel reassuring even when they're gross, eh?! Also just bought a pack of Fruit n Fibre in an African supermarket. Tasty

I'm 6dpo now and still symptom spotting and amateurishly temping. I'm using Fertility Friend which logs it all and gives you a daily analysis complete with statistical likelihood of pregnancy and reminders not to test too early! It helps having it all organised in one place cos it limits the mindless Googling! I still have mild cramps that are not AF like and briefly a sharp but mild pulsing pain and a bit of stitch like pain. Had loads of creamy cm yesterday which isn't really normal for me. Constipated, tingly boobs and pimples. So I'm quite pleased with the symptoms but also very aware it could be coincidental!

Oh god I hate being proded, especially by male doctors😱😱 oh well... another hideous thing to absorb now and work through with a therapist in my 90s... 🥃😝

Lol Luna, he does the scan himself and is very quick to tell you how it's going which I appreciate. He can be very matter of fact and blunt, yes.
I think he does the scans so he can keep track of the pregnancy personally. He's not keen to comment on scans from elsewhere as he has stated to me 'he's a very busy man' ... sometimes I worry he's a bit too busy to focus for very long on my personal case but that could just be my preggy emo mind 🙄 X

Seeking, I've also noticed a difference between Mr S scans and NHS- NHS measure me a comfortable 3 days ahead of my prediction and Mr S measures me at bang on my gestation.
What did Mr S say in terms of the success chances? And when is your next scan booked for? You could get a sneaky NHS one just for a second look if it would make you feel better x

Hey dear Poppy, I was up 3 times in the night with cramps, but pretty sure it was preggy bowel issues. Launched a huge fibre assault on my body today and seemed to have sorted things out, lol. Part of me keeps trying to go into catastrophist mode, I'm attempting to keep that demon at bay!
How are you? Has your symptom spotting been driving you nuts or are you feeling ok? Are you 7dpo now?
Xx

Signs seem positive harriet!!

Why on earth is DrS getting involved in the scans? He's not a sonographer and shouldn't be trying to interest!! Hhhmmmm ignore him and go by NHS -seeking!

God does he actually perform the scan himself too?? 😱😱😱

Harriet everything crossed for you. Such a nerve wracking time, although brown spotting sounds like old blood, probably from implantation. Hope all goes well with infusion tomorrow.
Seeking urgh I'm sorry you weren't reassured. So there could be a 6 day discrepancy here... positive opk could easily be 2 days in advance of ovulation, then late implantation as Drttc suggested? FX for you... how does Dr S respond to these types of concerns? I've heard he can be very abrupt. So far I've found that he's not especially detailed and often in a rush. I was hoping that once pregnant they wrap you up in cotton wool a bit?!

Seeking it really sounds like the two machines are giving different readings. I've had a gynae tell me this often happens, measurements can vary by 1mm or so even on the same machine, she said and more so if different machines are used. The fact that you progressed from one worrying scan to a heartbeat scan shows that the baby is still developing. I would put money on Dr S's scan machine being stricter.

Harriet, sounds like the spotting is already subsiding if it's only tinged. At least you know it's different to what happened previously. Glad the clinic said it's fine, I hope that reassured you!

JustLa, how are you doing, love?

Also I've had major discrepancy in opinion between Dr S and other private scans when it came to the size of the SCH I had. They were convinced he was misunderstanding the scan he made and stood by their interpretation.

Seeking could it have been late implantation? I know someone that happened to. She did Ivf so she was 100% certain of her dates and so was very worried. But it turned out it was just a bit of slower start to the pregnancy...

Sorry you're worry Harriet. Spotting can go either way but it doesn't necessarily mean bad news. So just take it one day at a time xx

Arghhh the drama continues...
Just had my scan with MrS. He puts the pregnancy at 6+2!! He said the NHS must have measured wrong yesterday because at a push he could make it 6+3. There's no way that I can only be 6+3. By my dates I thought I should be 7+2. There's NO WAY I had a positive opk and then ovulated a WEEK later. We didn't have sex then any way.
So now I'm convinced that baby isn't growing properly and that it's going to end badly after all. I'm so pissed off

Hope symptoms have settled and you're holding up ok Harriett xx

Tryingno1, congratulations! How lovely and exciting. Can't believe you're managing to keep the suspense about the gender! You must have incredible, zen willpower!

Seeking that is totally stupid from the midwives. I've found they either go beyond expectations or dramatically fall short! Totally understand why you wanted to hold back.

Harriet, feeling for you, any kind of spotting is such a horrible after what we've been through. It's that thing where we know spotting is normal but fear what it might lead to. And if spotting is normal that means you're most likely to be fine. Brown is good cos it's old, which means it's unlikely to progress to anything else. Every time I've had bleeding that went wrong, it was pink then very quickly turned to red. I know none of this is getting to help calm you down but it's worth saying anyway. Lots of love and strong sticky vibes to you Hun.

trying, its so lovely to see you back on here and now so close too. I know it probably still feels a long way off though. When pregnant the first time it literally felt like years rather than 40 weeks! I had an emergency c-section first time round (not a true emergency - my waters had been broken more than 24 hours and wasn't progressing so they thought it was best), this time I am electing to have another c-section. Its not an easy option, but I feel its the best and the safest for me.

I understand your thinking that it could go either way Harriett, it's one of those things that could be a sign but equally could be just normal random pregnancy symptoms.
Fingers crossed for the latter.
Good idea to stay at home and rest up, rub your belly and watch day time TV.
Thinking of you, I know how stressful it is xx

Seeking was a nightmare trying to move forward and feel like a normal pregnancy lady! But we are not all 'normal' and some of us do need extra understanding and care... I hope the midwife sorts ASAP

Harriet thinking of you hun, keep positive and download all your worries in here until you feel more secure... it's so common to have bleeding/spotting/pain - I did with my DS, so much pain I thought I had an ectopic! It's awful there arent any clear signs a pregnancy is going well or wrong... I understand your worry 😰💪💪💪💪

Also I agree that mild cramping for several weeks is absolutely normal as things get set up for baby in there. It's hard to get accustomed to as we see cramping as the enemy.

Seeking- argh!!! This is why I have a negative view of a lot of the staff/midwives I've encountered. They can really make you feel as though your part of the masses and could care less about specialized care. I know this doesn't apply to everyone but I've come across too many of them since starting this journey! I'm sorry you have to deal with it during this time.