Immune/NK issues - aka Pred Thread no.20!

Well my appointment with Professor Quenby is the 15th September now to try and get a shift swap with someone for that Friday.
I am trying to sort through the Ikea drawers in the living room as I am getting more organised.. just need to find proper homes for things

Thanks all for the sweet comments about my step kids! 😍

I think we have mounting evidence that scan machines differ. It's important to hear that in mind and not assume bad news if the scan doesn't show much or if dates don't match. For most scans I've had it's been abdominal in the first instance (even at less than six weeks) changing to internal if necessary. I see it as a chance to avoid the discomfort if possible!

Seeking I've asked and they said they'll do internal if they think it's necessary. Wish they'd just bloody start with it. Oh well. I'll likely have a meltdown if they don't so hopefully they'd rather have a happy customer :-D

Didn't mean to write 6 weeks, but i think you twigged into that. Meant to write 10 weeks!
I dont think I'd want a tummy scan that early, unless they can offer internal if nothing is seen. The EPU where I used to live always tried tummy first but never saw anything, I'd then have to go wee before they'd do it internally. Always something to worry about!

Seeking I only found out it was a tummy scan after booking it and was pretty shocked. It worries me and I'm wondering if I should just cancel and try going to the other place again (more expensive). Argh there's always something isn't there!!!

Poppy I agree that your step children sound so lovely!

I actually preferred her to Mr S just. She was there for ages! Baby was wiggling away! She genuinely seemed as amazed by it as me, despite the fact she sees it everyday, which I thought was endearing.

Are they likely to see much via tummy this early on drttc. Most places don't do it via tummy until 6 weeks. Not sure if want to risk the worry myself. But I do hope you see baby and can get a date.

Poppy, your step kids sounds lovely. How sweet that they're excited for their family to grow. A lot of kids would feel grossed out at the idea! Lol!

Their nanny's horse!!?? Jeeeez. No female is safe from this shit! 😝😱

Seeking Fantastic news!!! You're well on your way to the second tri now!

Luna have fun hehe!!

Harriet I don't actually have a date as their machine couldn't measure the pregnancy as it was so small. At the time I was 5 weeks +4 by LMP, and the machine started measuring at 5+5. The woman said by eyeball she'd have guessed 5+2, but that's not a very scientific way of measuring pregnancy I'd say ;-). By LMP I'm 6 weeks + 1 today. I'm booked for a scan at a different place on Saturday and am quite nervous as to what will be seen. Also they do it via tummy ultrasound rather than vaginal so going to be very different.

It does bother me when people put such importance on gender as if a human life is just for their enjoyment. They have no idea how idiotic they sound to people like us.

Yes JustLa, the girls really keep my spirits up through all the TTC stuff. They're very keen for me to have a baby and often ask whether it's in the cards! We haven't told them about my miscarriages because they were so early but DP and I have discussed that it won't be a secret in the future if they want to know things, just not appropriate for now. They're aged 8-11 and very aware of baby loss because their teacher had a miscarriage, a family friend had one and their nanny's horse had one. It's quite a big subject for them, actually. Very comforting to know they're aware and sympathetic.

Yessss boink fest for you soon Luna, shave those ankles and iron your bloomers!! 🥂 Xx

Awww it's lovely to hear all your views!

Harriet, I like that you want to keep it as a surprise, that's something traditional about a pregnancy that you want to preserve and these are the things that are a little lost to us. Like the dungarees and painting of the nursery ⭐️

Poppy, you're with me on this one... yay! I feel like it will help hubby bond with bump as i have been so reluctant to let him touch it in the last couple of pregnancies as ... unfortunately I have that guilty feeling that I'm letting him down (unjustly I know)
How cute of your DP's daughter, that innocence brings back a bit of excitement again 😊

Seeking that's so fab!!!! I had her yesterday- did you get the feeling she had seen how much we paid and was like 'shit, they could get this from me free at the NHS, I better put some extra work in!! ' lol she scanned me for so long I ended up worry about my gummy bear getting over stressed, baby was throwing out shapes and ninja moves lol. So glad you're measuring up well! Woot woot, another step along the road x

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FW, got it! Although I do prefer BF - boink fest...?

I've heard the same re girl and boy sperm... I also read that boy babies more commonly die in infancy (cot death etc.) which is why their sperm lives longer I guess; to help more boys be born. Everyone I know has boys!! I'd be happy with either!

Amazing Seeking! Woooohoooo! Little darling bean getting all grown up!

Lovely your little one will have so many wonderful siblings Poppy; blended families are lush!

Harriet, that's really insensitive! Some people are weird like that, they almost like to rub it in.

My DP has 4 kids! I'm very lucky that they are all amazing and we get on pretty well with their mum and her new partner.

Congrats Seeking! Great confirmation of yesterday's good news, sounds like the different scan machines agree better now!

Yes I hear you on how frustrating it is when people moan about gender, especially given that everyone has a headline 50/50 chance so it should heatedly be a surprise.

Interesting to hear the 75% success rate your friend had on Shettles. I have heard, though, that for people for whom he priority is simply to get pregnant, there is a risk that trying to sway for a girl risks not getting pregnant at all. For example, prob not worth the risk for people with fertility issues, particularly on the sperm side.

My friend actively used the shettles method to have girls...worked 3 out 4 times.... and then she was pissed off that number 4 was a boy! That really wound me up... 4 healthy babies!!!

Just had my appointment with MrS' stand in.... she was SOOOO thorough!! Baby measuring 9+1 by her scan so I'm going with that!!

JustLa, I would absolutely be doing the same! I don't know how people hold out knowing the info is so readily available!

A few weeks ago when I was feeling miserable about the whole TTC, DP's eldest daughter (11 yr) cheered me up by piping up with "if you and Dad have a baby will you find out the sex or wait for a surprise?" I said I would absolutely find out immediately and she thoroughly approved of my answer! This was in response to them having to wait until their cousin's birth to find out its sex.

I know that two thirds of babies born to women with my endocrine condition are girls. No one knows why. I wonder if my MCs were with boys.

Interesting theory Poppy! I heard something about boys being more likely to be lost too, seems odd and I didn't look too much more in to it.
Had blood taken for Harmony test yesterday and ticked a box to let me know the sex of my little wriggler... eeeek, I could know in the next couple of weeks! I don't feel like I need to wait for the birth to reveal the surprise (although my and DH are keeping it between ourselves) but just having a baby will be surprise enough for us! Lol xxx

And Luna, you're in my notes to start TTC on 23rd 😂😂

Harriet that's so interesting. I have heard of Shettles method and heard it's about 65% effective.

Good question about the OPKs. I suppose it will cement the trend for sex on a particular day, theroretically swaying pregnancies in favour of boys. However, we also know that O day and the day before are the most likely days to get pregnancy anyway so most pregnancies are conceived at such times and a roughly equal gender balance in still achieved. Could OPKs sway it further though? Perhaps it could even go some way to offsetting the fact that there seem to be more conditions that cause women to miscarry boy fetuses than the other way around? If so, perhaps we could see an increase in the male population...

Yes Luna, I keep wondering how Stuck is getting along?
Would love an update if you're still dropping by Stuck xx