Waiting to TTC (age 34+)

@malapropist we leave next Friday! I'm very excited, doing lots of fun preparation things!

I change my mind on a regular basis, if AF arrives as usual this month then I'll probably go back to the 'lets wait' thing for, er, a bit haha.

I'm driving myself a little loopy, my app says AF is due Saturday but I think it's more like Monday, maybe Tuesday. I'm actually counting down the days to find out what happens. When the crazy gets a bit much, I turn up here! Chances are I'll be back Tuesday back on the waiting train.

@Malapropist I think I spoke too soon...had a pretty dark line yesterday morning on an opk but not quite positive, thought it would definitely be positive by time i got home from
work so tested again and the line had almost gone same result this morning. Hoping I just missed it as I had some ovulation type pains last night.
Wow that view is incredible! And don't feel guilty about a glass or two of wine, plenty of time to cut that out when you're up the duff - for now I say enjoy it!

Don't panic too much... I have 2 older DC from previous marriage. Now 37 and expected DC3 to take ages but we conceived first go (really didn't expect that so it's totally thrown the financial plan) and am due in March.

Hi all, I hope you are enjoying Cornwall Malapropist, its lovely down there isn't it?
GnT - I couldn't agree more - I am always so happy for my friends when they are pregnant but I am so scared it wont happen for me when I want it so much! All this waiting makes it so much harder too but I know I am doing the right thing. I am trying to distract myself from thinking about it all by planning lots of things to do but it is incredibly hard. I am so pleased for you that you know you are ovulating - that is what I am worried about when I come off the pill. fingers crossed!

@Malapropist it's weird isn't it. As much as I'm thrilled for my friends, I think part of me just thinks oh god I really hope this happens for me too. It's not so much being jealous that they are pregnant just more aware that I really hope I can be too one day if that makes sense? In positive news I've used OPK's just to check if I'm ovulating after so many years on the pill, and I am so that's a relief!

SeaBridge that book sounds really good, I will have to look it up. I'm so glad you said that about the fertility research. It seems that everything I read says it is really difficult to get pregnant over 35 but I know of lots of real life examples where it's been really easy! I think sometimes the more you read, the more paranoid it can make you. Alexsmum that's so funny - once it's in your head it's really hard to think of anything else isn't it? I'm trying to stay focused on the long term and think I've waited this long, it should be ok for another few months!

Hi @malapropist! Ive been once before 2 years ago. Im so excited, it will be my sons 7th birthday whilst out there so im planning all exciting things! Absolutely cannot wait!

@seabridge great news on florida! I'm glad I don't have to worry about zika - phew!

There's been another slipping up kind of situation. I think we are having a bit of trouble with the waiting! The chances are of course slim but my crazy brain is already planning on packing a frer in my suitcase . I'm glad I can let the craziness out here!

Welcome aboard underthepeartree and AlexsMum89!

I've been reading a fantastic book this weekend that I'd highly recommend to all us worriers/planners/control freaks: it's called The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant and it's jam-packed full of down to earth advice, up-to-date medical research, dietary advice and reassuring words: plus it's got a good dose of humour thrown in too. I've just been reading about age: interestingly they tracked down the original source of the 'after 35 your fertility drops off a cliff' research and it was based on something in olden day France. The author goes on to provide a table based on modern-day fertility showing that in reality your fertility in early thirties is not much different from your late twenties. Makes you feel instantly better about everything: plus she says that wanting to learn as much as you can about TCC before you even start isn't crazy - it's just smart and giving yourself the best chance of success!

I too am going to start taking folic acid because I figure it can't hurt: plus now I'm off the pill if an 'accident' did happen before we were officially TTC my body would be better equipped to deal with things. AlexsMum89 it looks like Florida is all clear for Zika now - hooray!

[underthepeartree] your reasons for waiting aren't silly, they're absolutely valid. Well done on your fantastic weight loss! I've lost almost a stone and am hoping for a little more - I'm also unable to go with the flow, I guess it comes from being used to planning all the other aspects of our lives. Enjoy your holidays and wait that tiny bit longer. It'll be here before you know it.

As for Cuba, we haven't actually cancelled the holiday yet but I've been thinking about it all weekend and am very torn over what we should do. My DH says he will support me whatever I choose. Part of me wants to give myself as much time as possible for the TTC journey (my mum took a couple of years to get pregnant with me so you never know) and the other part wants to go on this fantastic holiday in memory of my MIL. BUT waiting for another year to start TTC feels like a very long wait... I think a pros and cons list is needed!

Hi Malapropist. We are waiting to TTC for a number of reasons a lot of which seem silly when you start to write them down. The biggest being that we have 2 active holidays booked for September/October time and I don't want to risk my pregnancy or not be able to do all of the activities. I am also nearly at my target weight after losing 2 stone and I want to be in the healthiest place possible before TCC. We do however keep bringing the date forward as we are getting so excited and the more we keep talking about it, the more I want to start trying sooner but I know I want to wait a bit for practical reasons. I am probably over thinking things and too sensible for my own good and should just go with the flow a bit more, but that is just not me!

Thanks so much Silversun83 - after seeing this and weighing everything up we've decided to cancel, it's just not worth wasting six months as I'd be nearly 35. It would effectively mean we couldn't start TTC for another year. I think we initially read the guidelines wrong...so now, some Zika-free winter sun destinations are needed!

*After visiting an at-risk country

I'm not waiting to TTC.. In fact I am currently six weeks pregnant with second (who took two weeks to conceive at 34 as opposed to a year to conceive DD at 31 - how's that for fertility declining with age )..

But I just felt I should gatecrash to offer advice to @SeaBridge on Zika.. The current guidelines are to wait six-months after visiting an at-risk before getting pregnant.. It's a small risk but can still be transmitted in the sperm for this amount of time so you might wish to rethink your destination/delay TTC. Really sorry to hear about your MIL

Hiya, can I join? I'm still under 30 so I know I'm not in exactly the same boat, but I am also waiting to TTC, and have 1 DS already. He seems to be growing up at an alarming rate and he is about to turn 7 next month so the age gap is worrying me.
We are going to Florida in two weeks so we are supposed to be waiting until after that big holiday, but now I'm on the edge of securing myself a promotion that I've been working towards for years. If I do get it, we would need to wait around a year for me to secure it as a permanent job... The wait isn't ideal, but it's a significant promotion and the extra money would make life so much easier and it would mean I could return on less hours...
I have so many conflicting emotions and thoughts! I had my last depo injection in September after being on it for 6 years. It's been an absolute nightmare and my cycle is still settling down now. We've had a lot of 'slip ups' over the past couple of months with no results, but I've put a firm stop to it for now haha.

Hi all, can I gatecrash. I am 33 soon to be 34 and aiming to start trying at the end of the year. I am still on the pill but plan to stop in September to try and get my body back to "normal!" I feel like a total fraud as I am taking folic acid to prepare but still taking contraceptives! It took me ages to make my mind up to try for a baby but now I have its all I can think of!

Ahh @SeaBridge that's exciting!! Try not to panic too much if your cycles go a bit mental at first, mine are all over the place but I think that's pretty normal. I'm using an app called natural cycles and temping to try and work out what is going on with my body and avoid the fertile times at the moment until we are ready to TTC. I think this site is a blessing and a curse, it's feeding me being bonkers by reading every thread in sight but also keeping me from chatting about it to DP too much

Hello newbies! Welcome!

Well girls, I did it - I took my final pill last night! After FIFTEEN YEARS this is a pretty big deal. Decided to come off it so I can get to grips with my cycle and find out who I really am, mwahahaha.

And GnTplease (great name btw) the very reason I'm on here is so I can spare my DH all the lunacy! Otherwise it's all he'd hear about! Will help me to deal with the anxieties too. It's good to talk...