Morning all, thanks for the condolences...😞 Syd, sorry af got you too. Wow, 43 days, that is one long cycle....also cycle 17 - as someone else said, I would've officially crazy by then....I already am now. Well done you for keeping sane.
I was thinking last night that we really really have to just stay positive and think about what we do have and maybe stop stressing so much about ttc in order to actually be successful at it..... (mother, I am also worried that stress is affecting my ability to conceive.... again, like you, not mainly from the actual ttc process but from work and housework and managing relationship and childcare....i.e life in general; two many spinning plates!!)
I recovered relatively quick after the disappointment of another bfn this month. After the usual crying and feeling like utter shit and a massive failure and letting down everyone (the thoughts that always run through my head: I can't provide a sibling for DS; we can't be a "proper" family, I.e more then one child - which I know is wrong and stupid anyway...) which come with af every month, I started thinking about being more proactive in a positive way.
So I am going to put in one last massive effort with ttc for the next six months, but also be glad of what I do have and try to enjoy that without letting ttc get me down if it doesn't work out.
These are my goals for the next few months:
- start temping again (began this morning / setting alarm for 5.30 every day as this is my wake up on a normal work day anyway....oh gonna love this at the weekends!!
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- sex every day from day 12 to day 16, or as a minimum every other day if we really can't manage it
- enjoy the sex!! And put in some effort to initiate and seduce oh rather than just "it's the right time, we need to have sex now....!"
Get out sexy underwear that is hidden under a pile of "comfortable" non-wired bed bras and maternity bras!!! (Why am I still wearing these?!?!?! Because they're so comfy.....!)
- get back into running - which was going really well until I got pneumonia last month and had to give up - gah! This makes me feel so much better about myself, my body and hence wearing said sexy underwear (see above!)
- keep off the caffeine and further reduce alcohol but not enough to mean I can't enjoy a glass and a laugh here and there!
- book Drs app to discuss no conception after six months (as I'm over 35) and get blood tests for different times of the month to check hormone levels
- have a frank and honest discussion with oh about why I need to get pg asap (so many reasons, including financial and to fit in with career and job options ATM, as well as the obvious emotional ones and to complete our lovely family and make DS a little brother or sister....) Need to make sure he is completely on side and as into it as me. I don't think he realises at the moment why it needs to be soon - mainly because of my age but not just that, for reasons above - but that is my fault because I don't tell him!!
- and finally enjoy as much time as I can with my lovely son and oh and be happy with them, not wasting my emotions feeling sad for a baby who isn't here whilst my current son grows up with a sad mummy!
Well sorry for the long and rambling post....mainly therapy for me (!!) but hopefully something here rings a bell with someone else and it will help you think about things and get back on track too.
Good luck all xxx