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Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

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duchesse · 23/03/2007 12:19

Et voila.

This Hut is more of a Bedouin or desert tent than anything too gloomy. We shall supply our our own gloom.

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nomoremagnolia · 15/05/2007 11:29

anyone else feel like this?

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 21:31

Piece of cake. Feign complete confidence, say "this is a collaborative process, so I expect lots of input", pretend language differences if they appear not to understand what you are explaining, and ask for lots of questions at the end which you open to the floor to answer.

Failing that, play the "what's the worst that can happen?" game with the presentation and stay as unruffled as possible. And that, along with the old cliche about women in war zones, should see you home and dry.

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Chocolatedays · 14/05/2007 21:27

By this I mean the stress - rather than the presentation!!!

Chocolatedays · 14/05/2007 21:27

Evenin' all.

I had a bad experience in a Hammam once. -got a little more attention to detail than bargained for.... yuk.

Duchesse - can you find out when your gp is going on holiday? The locum may well be more giving.

Started my job today - go to Paris for the day to present to 40 bigwigs on a subject I know little about - could someone lie and tell me this will not have any impact on the IVF - Ta.

sideways · 14/05/2007 20:53

duchesse - get to the dr and complain long and loud and refuse to leave until they have taken you seriously.

I may be joining you on CD1 tomorrow, as I have the usual big achy boobs.

To be honest, I have got to the point wher eI no longer worry about what CD I am on, when my period is due to start and I don't really think about it. That's how confident I am that nothing is happening or going to happen.

It doesn't change the fact that I still have a desperate, physical yearning inside me, find it hard to be interested in, or even pleasant about, friends' pregnancies and cry whenever I see a baby. It just means I am becoming resigned to events.

beansprout · 14/05/2007 20:38

That sounds perfect!

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 20:29

"who goes to A&E because they are having a period"?

Men would.

I would like our next hut to be a hammam type place, heady with essential oils and gossip and proper turkish towelling and mosaics and steam rooms. Not one of those nasty modern-fangled health club places in former manor houses in the countryside, with paper knickers and "beauty products".

Not that a hammam is very hut-like, but hey! We're going up in the world...

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beansprout · 14/05/2007 19:00

Plus, MN seems to be awash with accidential pregnancies at the moment which is not helping matters much.

beansprout · 14/05/2007 18:59

It's so great how a predominantly male profession can decide how we feel about so many things. If I am upset about something, who is anyone else to tell me I am not?
I had a similar experience a couple of weeks ago. Was told, repeatedly, that I was just having my normal period. I sussed out that I had a chemical pregnancy. If I had listened to them I would have just come away thinking I was a bit hysterical, I mean, who goes to A&E because they are having a period ffs?

Duchesse - I say, go for the acupuncture and see how you get on. I would.

Are we still talking about moving hut? I'm really up for the spa version. Have had a really difficult weekend and am feeling that I am a sh*t mum at the moment who shouldn't even be thinking about another baby. Am really not in a good way atm. This is all getting a bit much.

lissielou · 14/05/2007 13:51

duchesse, you are as entitled to help as anyone. 2 out of my 4 mcs were at the 4-5w mark and tbh i did play the hysterical female card. i remember being told by 1 doc that at 4w it was a period, not a mc and i asked him how many times he'd been pg, and if he'd ever tried for a baby for this long only to see that line appear, start planning then see all that blood. its still a mc because conception had occured and it still hurts because you want that baby.

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:45

Ah yes, Lissie, sorry- I was about to say that I will mention the chemical pregnancies (there was at least one other last year) but that you see them mentally tutting and raising their eyes when you mention pregnancies that miscarry at 4 or 5 weeks.

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:43

I find it very hard to explain anything to anyone at my surgery without coming across as a hysterical female, even though I am not at all. They appear to dislike well-informed patients who arrive with an idea of what's wrong with them. It's very frustrating.

Also I kind of feel that fertility resources shouldn't be used on people like me, who already have three beautiful children, and that I may really be pushing my luck by seeking help. I guess I'm just struggling to come to terms with my fate.

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:40

I am very seriously considering acupuncture (as in on the verge of picking up the phone). Acupuncturists are one thing there is a lot of in Devon.

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lissielou · 14/05/2007 13:38

well, (sorry to dredge it up again) your chemical pg a few months back can count as a mc so you can push on that basis. i know thats what i did with all mine. i made a point of traipsing into the doc every time it happened.

sorry, i know its not much help.

sideways · 14/05/2007 13:38

duchess - sorry, that's crap.

Have you thought about something like reflexology or acupuncture for your thyroid, as the drs are rubbish?

scorpio1 · 14/05/2007 13:38

duchesse - i understand, i live in cornwall.gp's here the same-and always the same old ones.and one hospital. see the one you like the most.

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:33

Very difficult to change practises around here (rural Devon) as they tend to be few and far between, although some GPs within the practise are better than others. Frankly though they are about thirty years in outlook behind other parts of the country.

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lissielou · 14/05/2007 13:31

oh duchesse, im sorry. can you change docs?

beansprout · 14/05/2007 13:23

Duchesse, sorry to hear that. Truly pants.

scorpio1 · 14/05/2007 13:23

what about a change of GP?

sorry to hear its CD1....mine due this week, just waiting for it so i can do this again.hope you feel better

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:11

Yup

&

It's like drawing blood from a stone

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beansprout · 14/05/2007 13:09

Oh f*ck is it CD1 Duchesse?

Can you get a second opinion? Why won't they address this?

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:03

Hi Scorpio, thank for asking.

Have reached a mental impasse in which I either have to stop ttc altogether, or go to GP to argue my case about investigations. Judging on past experience, it's going to be a struggle- they seemm exceedingly unwilling to help me in any way.

It just makes me so angry that it could be something as stupid as my thyroid levels needing adjusting, but they won't do anything about it as I am not hypothyroid enough. I'm just fed up.

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scorpio1 · 14/05/2007 12:57

duchesse - dont think we have properly met before.

See you are having a day like i was on saturday. you ok?

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 12:46

stumps in, plonks self down and sulks

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