Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

Sunshine - so sorry to hear that. I had a similar falling out when the person I sat next at work fell preg. I was saying that I didn't think I could face the next few months watching and hearing about her preg and dh just said, "it's not about you!". They have no idea sometimes.

Impatience - I feel for you. Dh's ex (mum of his dd) claimed benefit for years on the basis that he wasn't giving them a penny when he was more than paying his whack. The result? He is paying thousands to the CSA who have now "caught up with him" and who are under the impression that he owes them, big time. He won't grass up his ex as he is scared of the effect this might have on his dd.

They still live in a huge garden flat in a nice part of London, while we, um, do not.

I have had to learn to ignore the whole situation, but it has not been easy, especially when I get sneering comments from her about going off to work and leaving ds (so we can afford to keep up the mortgage payments AND pay the CSA!!!)

So - I've just had a splendid few days. Worst PMT in months, spotting and feeling overly hopeful... followed by the mother of all bleeds. But wait, there's more. My BF giddily announced she is 6 weeks pg (while training for the marathon) - "Oh my god that's wonderful" I say "so delighted for you" I exclaim - I have cried me a river and fallen out with dh. Fan-bloody-tastic.

I seem to be in synch too. Freaky.

Impy - maybe you should dicuss your uncle at the dinner party. I think it might distract the conversation a little.

Duchesse, Soreheart, thanks for the diplomacy advice. Surely by now you've realised that such gentleness isn't my usual way, and friend will definately know it to be a line, but never mind!

My uncle works cash in hand and lives with his girlfriend, but claims all the benefits going AND has a council/HA flat (not sure) that he uses for storage . On top of that he's just somehow managed to wrangle a swap to a bigger flat which could house a small family. He's also requested the council spend loads of money putting in a new kitchen because it has a really old one. If he never stays there I might feel duty bound to rat on him. Frankly I don't give a damn whether he knows it's me who ratted on him, I think his behaviour is disgusting. There are so many people who really need a place.

And when my Nan was starting to lose her marbles he had the cheek to complain how outrageous it was that social services etc didn't have more resources with which to help her with. WTF?!

If I've trodden on anyone's toes with this post, well, I'd like to apologise but on this I find my tolerance stretched. And I feel the same for the richer end of society sneaking out of taxes: It's exactly the same.

Straw poll: Should I rat on him?

LOL beansprout at Holy Moley - very Batman!!

Hi all. Thing there may be something in this Hut syncing notion - I am CD 5 today - and still feeling pants.

Am slowly becoming reconciled to the idea that IVF is going to be necessary due to my rubbish ovarian reserve and rapidly approaching early menopause and I am absoultely petrified of getting on that particular rollercoaster. Think I will be residing in the hut for a bit if thats OK.

Soreheart - HMMOG - Holy Mary Mother of God??! maybe? I too have been trying for 18 months (try to kid myself that it has only been a year cos thats when I started paying atention but facing facts I came off the pill with the intention of TTC in Aug 05 - so 18months it is!!) I joined the monthly TTC threads for Jan and Feb but havent been able to bring myself to join March or April as I have become a cynical old bint!! I am on the temp buddies thread though and they are all lovely.

Impatience - I have totally avoided my BF who is 9 weeks pg - cant even bring myself to call her at the mo- I know if I was able to be all happy and fake with her I would come home and be so upset and angry and if I wasn't and showed my true feelings I would feel really guilty for being mean - lose lose situation - so am avoiding altogether! My advice - cancel dinner date!!!

Holy Moley Mother Of God?

I sort of go for the Tennant and then I see again how skinny he is and how odd those teeth are and I realise that there is only one man for me. Sigh. I might just have a little snooze and fantasise for a bit.....

May be a bit obsessed with David Tennant as I think tenant is spelt 'tenant' and not 'tennant'.

HMMOG! (my own new acronym - guesses on a postcard, please).Have just been skimming a thread on council / HA tennants and whether they are all merciless, criminal masterminds bent on defrauding the Gov't and therefore the tax-payer. Or not. Maybe I just didn't get the hang of the thread! I am clearly in a very reasonable mood today.

The tent is lovely as there's only 2 of us here, we have the doors open and the side flaps pegged up and the warm Saharan breeze wafting through (stopping the chocolates from melting ) Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Count me in Soreheart. I have an obscenely large box of Thorntons here which are just asking to be scoffed. Anyone?

So...have been roaming around MN and can't figure out what the 'April thread' is, unless it's the TTC in April type thread? Is that it? Ahhhh. OK. Hell, it's like a competition. Not sure I'd feel good in there as technically, we've been TTC for 18 months and in addition, I'm running out of time, big style. I'm very impressed by some of the ladees casual attitude. Not that this is a bad thing, just something I cannot pretend to be.

On another point, I went to a friends make-up party last week and I was the only person there without children. I felt like a freak. I had to escape to the kitchen every 5 minutes to breath freely. I didn't feel jealous, exactly, just like a freak, with a fixed grin and nothing to say. You won't be surprised to hear that I was the first to leave.

Thank the Lord for the Hut o' Doom & Gloom.

I'm collapsing into mound of silky cushions with a large qty of Maltesers for the afternoon. Should anyone care to join me I will looking wistfully out over the dunes.

Yuuuurrrs. Balloon + lead, lead + balloon.
BUT, I know you can say the same thing with a bit more 'softness' and get away with it:

"You know, I'm really delighted for you that things have turned out so well and I hope they pan out as well for me and my DP. Sadly, this hasn't been the case for sometime now and I'm feeling very sensitive on the whole topic of reproduction. So, let me tell you about this totally brilliant x."

I'm feeling decidedly queasy about this statement but I know it's along the right lines - if you can bear it. Practise usually works for me.

Yes, SH, it's a tricky one. I'm not generally inclined to pretending everything's rosy. I basically want to say 'Don't harp on about it: I wish to buggery that I were pregnant, and you got it without even trying, so I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself right now. Good for you, but can we talk about something else now?' Any predictions on how that would go down?!

I'm wondering if Hut of Doomies aren't all synching.....this has NEVER happened to me before...I always thought it might a load of old twaddle.

I'm certainly not wondering if I'm having implantation bleeding. What a laugh that would be. Or taking a week off to paint the nursery. Ahhahahahahahaha.....

Impy, dinner date with pregnant friend. Jeez, I still don't have the answer to this kind of thing. Act like a fake version of yourself and make out all is totally great / be true to yourself and risk making other person feel like an arse. Hmm.. having said that, you can focus all your chat on DP..maybe??

Oh, here you all are!

Dp got her period today, which means she'll be trying next week. Goodness! I feel really peculiar about it - mixed. All good things, but a mix of excitement and a kind of fatigued relief, and also a bit of indifference. Perhaps I'm so disillusioned with this whole T/FTC lark that I don't really feel that optimistic. In fact I'm trying very hard not to imagine us wallowing in misery come the winter, having doubled the effort but neither of us actually getting pregnant. God, I really am very pessimistic about it. But I'm refusing to share that with her so I'll let it all out on here if you don't mind! She's forbidden from coming into the Hut - this is my space!

Actually, I won't yet know whether this month worked for me when she tries. Er, not that that'll mean anything of course because there's no frigging way I will be pregnant.

See the bloody swings and roundabouts!

Am still hating my silly upbeat accidentally-and-delightedly-pregnant friend. We have a dinner date next week. Anyone got any magic mantras I can borrow?

Ahem, move along now, nothing to see.

Sorry Sir, won't happen again Sir!

Can I be a "cycle buddy" too - I'm on CD3 - then we can share babydust

Hello ladies. Have not been in the hut for a few days and look what happens.......you only go and find yourselves a new hut and post loads of messages! There is no way I can catch up, so I'll just have to assume that everyone is as miserable as normal.
I went out on Saturday night and got wasted (it's OK, I was CD 3) Not only have I caused myself a few drunken injuries (that look great with my scambled egg burns that still haven't healed!) but I also blubbed uncontrolably in the arms of my best mate about my mc. Really don't know if I should be going to party next weekend for newly pregnant friends.....

Hi beansprout - that's so great that you are CD1 too, we can be 'cycle twinnies' .

I think I might try grapefruit juice this month, anything worth a try I guess (although I really hate it too).

Hi Crypto. Sorry to hear we are in the same boat (again).

Am off to have my first glass of grapefruit juice. I don't even like the stuff. Actually, I could really come to despise it.

I literally do not look at any other threads than this one. Grumpy cow, me?

It is CD2 for me today and although I wasn't quite as hopeful as previous months (due to lack of shagging at crucial times) the hope was still there. At least I came on at the weekend this month so I could have my depression/day of constance crying at home rather than work.

My pregnant friend (colleague) booked a week off work in May last week so they can paint their nursery. This has really been tormenting me for some reason, thinking how much I would love to be doing that. It is pathetic the new things I can find to set me off. I also can't stop looking at her stomach now she is starting to have a lovely bump which is getting embarrassing.