Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

eclipse - yep, with you on that one! How ludicrous to suggest that having sex in the middle of the month could lead to pregnancy? I am now really of the mindset that this is just something that happens to other people, but not me. Doesn't stop me trying though. Generally, as each month passes I feel worse each time I'm back on CD1 and less and less "hey, just hang on in there, it will happen" etc etc.

Can we cheer ourselves up by being grumpy and slagging off baby dust please?

Also, we have to make a pact in a kind of one for all and all for one kind of a way as there is no way I could just go over to one of those way, way too chipper ante-natal threads now I am used to the hut!

Lissie - what you doing? Are you shagging? And are you shagging now?
Crypto - I'm right there with you on the cramping. Did I mention that it's driving me mad?
Wonder how seaside is doing in the big smoke? A bit like Babe, Pig in the City? Or perhaps just a grown woman, going to work? (Hey, I do it, so how hard can it be?!!)

Eclipse, I love the fact that you have such ridiculous thoughts cos it means I'm not alone!!! However, my predominant thought is NOT irrational and is based purely on fact....didn't shag at the right time!!

Hi, Lissielou, hope you're bearing up okay. I don't know what or if you've decided yet but I'd probably find it hard to stop, even knowing the problems I might be facing. It's so hard to emotionally detach from the process. Whatever you decide, there's still lots of good vibes hanging round the hut ready to get behind you again.

I'm at a despondent stage. It's time to get lively in the sack department again and I know as soon as it's 2ww time my split personality will spend every waking moment tormenting me with repetitive argument cycles of the form - 'Maybe this time it's worked' - 'Oh do shut up you daft barren old bint, of course it hasn't' etc, etc.

Each month I try to find a reason why it might not have worked, e.g. too much running meant the embryo couldn't implant, too much coughing (bit of a chest infection thing going on) squished it all out, blah, blah, blah. Wonder how mad a reason I can think of this time?

I don't know what I would do Lissie - rationally I think it would be good for you to have some time off to give your body and emotions some rest but I know its not that simple.

I am 10dpo today and well and truly in the torturing myself thinking I am pregnant but trying not to get my hopes up phase. I have been having definate cramping the last couple of days and somehow I manage to convince myself that this is a pregnancy sympton rather than precurser to period (which isn't actually due for another 6 days). Aarrrggggh.

C'Days: Baking my mother! Hilarious! It might resort to that...

Lissie, my mum has her flaws but ultimately she's quite lovely (in her way ). Yours takes the biscuit! I can't believe she'd say those things. And somehow the 20quid bill tops it off. That's rotten.

blimey beansprout you were up early

fertile time starts today by my reckoning,so.... god i dont know what to do!

How are you Lissie? Are you still thinking of going for it this month?

Ok, driving myself a bit mad but ok. Not sleeping is not helping though - have been awake since 3am and ds will be awake in an hour so I think that is me done for the night!

lol thank you, every birthday i ask dh for reassurance that im not turning into her

how are you?

Sorry! In which case the apple falls a very, very long way from the tree!

sorry meant to put a after the mum bit. wasnt being nasty.

oh beansprout {{hug}} and =-''' (thats hard drugs btw

and it was my MUM MiL is fab

Lissie - your MIL wins some sort of evil prize. She really is quite something.

I HATE this cramping leading up to my fecking period. I HATE these last few days. Cycle varies so am in limbo for the next few days as I don't even know when I am due.

And, IF YOU SEE ME LURKING ON THE DECEMBER THREAD, PLEASE F*CKING WELL SHOOT ME!!!

I thank you

Crikey Lissie Lou, I have heard some evil mother in law stories in my time but that your mother could be so hurtful and thoughtless.

I haven't been around for a while as I was off work last week but have been catching up and wanted to say how sorry I am about your news Lissie and also for Impatience - it hurts so much when you have allowed yourself to dream that this month could actually be the one.

impatience, my mother is vile! when i had my 1st mc she said "oooh you must be so relieved" when i had my 2nd she said IN THE HOSPITAL "well you must be doing something wrong" after my 3rd i got the "women like you arent supposed to have babies" (ive had eating disorders since i was 6 and severe pnd) and when my ep was diagnosed and i had to go straight to another hospital for the op she charged me £20 to take me.

sorry everyones having a shit time. but then i suppose thats what the hut is for. enter my fertile period tomorrow and really tempted to try again. i read that you are at your most fertile after youve been pg. am i mad?

I've got the usual pre-menstrual symptoms too. Can't bear it. Am so fed up.

And I'll be eating loads cos I am beginning to get my usual pre-menstrual symptoms and can feel my period is on it's way! Raaaarhhhh!

Of course it's good for us!! Stuff like chocolate releasing endorphines, etc, is bound to make us more relaxed and less likely to FTC!!

For anyone mildly interested, I transferred my beardie eggs into incubator yesterday and there are 15. Now we just have to wait 65-85 days to see if any hatch!!

Baking! lol. I meant backing!

Baking! lol. I meant backing!

I was rather hoping I might get better odds by baking the rank outsider.... y'know lots of carrot cake, jug of G&T, choc and caffeine fixes....

I'm going for the car option, as I always find that cars are conducive to slights and rows in general, given the unwelcome proximity they afford.

C'days: I wish!

Lissie: off-the-cuff, so there's no actual discussion or even any opportunity to register that anything was said? So it then just tumbles round and round your brain with no way out?

ooh, if shes anything like my mum 8pm thursday! just as a casual off-the-cuff remark you understand