2ww#3 - hope, hormones and help

@myusernamewhichisthis - I'm 43 and went to the doctor last week after ttc for 6 months. I've been sent for bloods, had an internal swab to check for infections and am waiting for a referral for an ultrasound.

I mentioned clomid but the doctor said that would be further down the line - also that might not be funded on the NHS as dh and I already have children from previous relationships - don't know if that helps or not x

You’re welcome myusername.... I’m 43, 44 in two months and have been trying on and off for 5 years now.... given ourselves 4 more months and then we’re going to quit. TTC No.1 - but DH has two boys from a previous marriage - all grown up now. So hard isn’t it..... you may swell at least ask... a friend of mine admitted when she found out I was on it that she got pregnant with her son on Clomid - he’s 30 now but she says they’d been trying for 4 years before... so it really does work!

think i might make an appt then - thanks for the info

Hi all,
Sorry I’ve been awol - not been very well. DH and I both had a nasty tummy bug and and felt dreadful for the past 5 days :(

I don’t believe there is any upper age to Clomid. They prescribe for ladies who don’t ovulate regularly and for ladies who have been trying a long time with no success. It works by nudging the pituitary gland and sending your ovaries into a bit of an overdrive; the hope is you release more than one egg thereby increasing your chances of pregnancy if your in the latter category. I’m just going into Cycle 3 on Clomid; fingers crossed..... I hadn’t had any side effects, but my skin last month was horrendous and that is linked to Clomid. But a few spots is a small price to pay if it works.....

Fx to all those in the 2ww and getting ready for the baby dance this month.... Sx

@littlemimosa I just booked a reflexology session for Monday, hoping to balance the hormones again. I can't recommend it enough, it's an amazing treatment.

My username- as far as I know there's no age limit (upper or lower) on clomid. Sarah can perhaps clarify that but as I understand it it's mainly used in younger women with ovulation issues but is also often prescribed to older ladies to give them a 'boost'.

Rhi and Melody - I totally understand how you feel with pregnant people all around. Rhi it does not make you a cow at all. It's normal to feel envious. Doesn't make you a bad person. Melody - no symptoms isn't necessarily a bad sign. Chin up love.

Shred - I'm just finishing AF too. Went for reflexology today which was so relaxing. She said she balanced all my hormones. Here's hoping!

little thats interesting thank you. im 45 so didnt know if that counted against me?
gp just said she could send me for bloods but nothing more so it was a bit irrelevant really and i didnt go for the tests - thought there was no point if nothing could be done.

id happily opt for clomid.

Had a little wobble yesterday as saw my cousin who is 20wks, I know it's ridiculous! Also I've been a bit jealous of a girl in work who's pg but she told me yesterday she'd had 2 mc, I felt like a right cow.

My boobs are agony and still lots of cm. despite DH saying let's TTC again we've only dtd once, think he was just in the mood and said it to get his own way.

No idea what cd I am but think I'm in fw so will look out for AF in a couple of weeks.

Just coming to the end of AF now but with my cycles it will.probably be around 2 and a half weeks before I am in my fertile week. X

@littlemimosa - hey love - 5dpo and feeling no symptoms at all - really tough as one work colleagues baby shower on Friday and another work colleague is 18 weeks today...

And all I have to look forward to is a cd21 blood test on Monday... at least it's a step in the right direction towards having another baby but I'm really trying not to get my hopes up right now x

Rhi and Melody how are you both?

Katie any news lovely? Sorry you've been feeling low. It's such a rollercoaster isn't it.

Sarah hope you're ok sweetie. Thinking of you.

Lisara - welcome to the dreaded 2ww! Fingers tightly crossed for you.

My username - I also have two DC but my GP didn't hesitate to send me for blood tests plus a scan. She also said she could prescribe clomid if tests show I need it. Obviously I wouldn't be a candidate for IVF on the NHS but I'd be surprised if they sent you packing. Hth.

i can relate. cd 19 and frantically boob prodding. (which i KNOW is ridiculous!)
i didnt find out i was pg till i was well over 5 weeks last time. i had completely missed a period, didnt even twig. when i tested it was to rule out pregnancy and i got the shock of my life.

af due 5th august for me. i wont bother testing until im late - i got bitten doing that with a superdrug early - got a false positive with it and the disappointment was indescribable.
so ive got a couple of FRER but ill wait either till AF shows or im actually late.

fingers crossed for you lisara.

dunno why but ive got crampy pains today - cd18. wonder if i have ovulated - should have by now surely i got static smiley cd15.

thank you for the welcome.

littlemimosa no tests for me - i do hve grown up children from a previous relationship so the gp said there is nothing they can do for me. she did offer to test to see if i was ovulating but the opk has made me feel a bit better and i still have a regular cycle of around 30ish days.
dp has no kids and so it was quite a blow to lose a baby girl last year. i didnt want to try again initially. but here i am - going for a final shot at motherhood. well see. i have faith that if its meant to happen it will. if it doesnt it doesnt.

Hi all,

Good luck for this month Lisara and Rhi.

Sorry AF showed up littlemimosa :-(.

Sarah - well done for speaking up about the painful scan. Was it an internal pelvic scan? I thought they were supposed to be painless! I'm going for my first one in a few weeks.

Welcome myusername. Good luck this month.

No news from me - AF due Tuesday/Wednesday, but not getting my hopes up. Feeling pretty flat. I'm aware it's probably partly pmt emotions, but it really feels like my DP isn't that bothered about TTC right now. I know he's stressed and that is playing a part as he has a really intense and emotionally draining job. We've literally only shagged once in the last month and that's only because I nagged him when I got a positive opk. He's not even looked at the sperm analysis letter he got given and I'm worried I'll have to nag him to make an appointment. All in all, it feels like this is on my mind all the time and that he is burying his head in the sand.

Lisara and Rhi thanks for sharing your PMS symptoms. Very interesting hearing what goes on for others.

Welcome my username! Great to have you here. There are a few of us on here over 40 ttc including myself (41). Sorry for your loss last year, that must've been very hard. Have you had any tests or anything since or before? Only asking cos I'm having some and a couple of the other ladies too.

hi ladies can i join? im entering the 2ww today - af due 5th august. got a static smiley on the opk on cd 15 and today is cd17.

never used an opk before but this month used the clearblue and its so easy! really like it and its given me a little boost. i thought maybe id stopped ovulating as im 45, i id gt pg last year at 44 but lost the baby, been ttc for around 10 months now but no luck so far.

so. into the 2ww today. please ladies wish me luck!! x

@littlemimosa I get really sore boobs during ovulation and just before AF. With AF they stop hurting as soon as it arrives. Both times I've been pregnant my boobs have stayed sore. Sorry to hear AF has arrived. It's weird how in tune we get with our bodies when TTC.

Well done @Sarah2209 for speaking up, I hope you're feeling reassured that it was just one insensitive nurse and not the norm.

If I am ovulating/ in fw then AF is due 2 days before my birthday and DH has booked us a night away in a fancy hotel...typical!

Af arrived this morning. I knew she would. I know as soon as boobs stop hurting it's all over. Does anyone else have this pattern?! I.e. Sore boobs approx 7dpo to two days before AF, then the boob pain tapers off, I get a slight headache then AF 1/2 days later.

Feeling ok as I'd already had my cry yesterday. Think my next step is to pull on my big girl pants and get my results.

Sarah, I've got two suggestions for you. One is to just search YouTube for fertility meditation. Try a few to see which ones 'speak' to you. Most are v American so you have to be selective and also try to see past that! The other things is to look into EFT/Tapping. It's a v simple way of tapping (with your fingertips) certain spots around your face, hands and chest whilst repeating an affirmation. Google it. It sounds a bit woo but it's very good for calming and focussing your mind. It's mainly used for post traumatic stress but is good if you're upset and need to think positively. I can't really explain it properly here but hopefully you can get info from the information superhighway!

Ps thanks for the scan tip and well done for speaking up. It pays to be brave and say when you think something is wrong x

Morning Ladies... LittleMimosa/KatieGd any news? So hope you both get good news this month....

LittleMimosa - no I haven’t tried affirmations? Where can I find more information about that? Willing to try anything!

Good luck RhiBee and Lisara - really hope you both bounce back after your trying times.

I have to say this AF is hugely painful and heavy. Almost feels like my MC did.... wonder if it was a chemical as I didn’t test. But a nasty, nasty one this time.

Melody - hope your tests are all good. At least you’ll know whats what and can make plan.

Oh by the way - I was brave and mentioned my really awful scan to the nice nurse I saw 3 weeks ago and apparently a few other ladies had complained about that particular nurse. She said we must empower you ladies to say if its uncomfortable or hurting.... so pleased I said something as I was so nervous after last time and she was so gentle it restored my faith..... So if any of you start having internal scans please do tell them if their being too rough..... and not sit there like me and take it!!!