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TTC after ectopic

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MrsBeeBeeBee · 22/06/2017 13:49

Hello.
Not been on mumsnet for a little while but I'm currently recovering from surgery following an ectopic pregnancy.
Wondered if there was anyone else TTC after ectopic?

Happy for those pregnant or who have a little one after ectopic to come and say hello too x

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Flashinthepan · 22/06/2017 23:24

Same as me, I bled from what was probably ovulation until final,y taking a test at what turned out to be 6 weeks, had what thought was a period too. I only tested because the sore boobs didn't go away. I paid for the privilege of a private scan only to be told it was ectopic. Worst 90 pounds I ever spent! But might have saved my life too given I was 8 weeks by then.

Also, sorry it took you so long to conceive again but I find it really reassuring, I'm on month 6, cycle god knows what and I'm terrified it's never going to happen!

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Flashinthepan · 22/06/2017 22:58

Can I ask what odd symptoms you had before you BFP mrs? I had a weird cycle the month of my ectopic but can't work out what might have been related or just coincidence.

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MrsBeeBeeBee · 22/06/2017 22:13

Congratulations to you both Scandalicity and BlueChamelon. Wish you both happy and healthy pregnancies.
Will keep my fingers crossed for positive news from your location scan *Scandal. I was told I would have a location scan if we get a BFP too. I imagine it's a nerve wracking wait.

Thank you both for telling me your stories. I was starting to get wobbles about listening to my doctor's advice because everything else I read seems to say 3 months. But I think you're right *scandal that it seems to be as much about emotional health. Due to odd symptoms since even before my BFP I didn't really ever believe it was going to be a healthy pregnancy so I think emotionally I'm doing ok.

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bluechameleon · 22/06/2017 21:03

I had an ectopic in autumn 2013. Waited the three months and conceived again that first cycle. He's almost three now. It then took 18m to conceive no.2 but I've just had a 6wk scan and this one is in the right place. Fingers crossed all goes well.

Scandalicity · 22/06/2017 20:47

Hi MrsBeeBee, I also suffered an ectopic earlier this year. I was advised by my surgeon to wait 4-6 weeks, which we did, I had a bleed after the surgery, waited for 1 cycle & full AF around 5 weeks after that, and then found out we were pregnant again a couple of weeks ago on 2nd cycle post ectopic.

I think the doctors advice is from a medical stand point, whereas I think the stuff online about waiting 3 months, on the ectopic trust, etc, comes more from an emotional point of view & letting yourself heal mentally, as everyone deals with things differently.

I 100% agree with flash about being nervous about getting a BFP, and being terrified it will happen again, but I didn't feel that anxiety would go away for me if I waited a few months, although can completely understand why people do take a break, I'm currently awaiting a location scan next week to see where this one is.

Hope you are healing well & your TTC journey is a smooth one here on out.

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MrsBeeBeeBee · 22/06/2017 15:22

Don't worry about long, thanks for the answer!
That makes a lot of sense. I also have none of the risk factors which has also made me nervous about future pregnancies so I don't want to rush into TTC if it increases the likelihood of this happening again. I'm now just confused by conflicting info.

I'm very lucky to have 2 children already. We had an easy ride TTC #1 getting pregnant on 5th cycle. Then when we started TTC#2 I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. Then earlier in the year we decided to TTC#3 and obv this resulted in an ectopic.

Still not feeling up to letting the hub anywhere near me so we may end up waiting a few months anyway x

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Flashinthepan · 22/06/2017 15:09

Sorry that was really long!

Flashinthepan · 22/06/2017 15:08

I was told to wait three months to allow internal healing. But we just couldn't face trying again straight away. I was terrified it would happen again and that I would then potentially be unable to conceive naturally. My DH needed time to process what had happened to me and how worried he was for me.

There doesn't seem to be a potential cause for mine, I don't have any risk factors and all looked healthy internally apparently. In some ways I think that made it worse as I wanted some I could 'fix' to guarantee it wouldn't happen again, and there was nothing.

Things calmed down a lot, and when our December due date came and went we both realised how much we wanted a baby despite the potential obstacles. It still makes me nervous every month that even if I do get a BFP I won't know until an early scan if I can start to get attached to it or not.

Do you want to start again straight away? Do you have other children?

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MrsBeeBeeBee · 22/06/2017 14:59

Sorry to hear you're still trying Flash. Hope you're lucky soon.

If you don't mind sharing was there a reason you waited a while inbetween surgery and starting to TTC again?

My doctor said just to wait a period for dating reasons but lots of info online seems to say wait 3 months.

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Flashinthepan · 22/06/2017 14:13

So sorry to hear about your ectopic. I had surgery for mine last May and started trying again in January. No luck yet but hopefully it will happen soon.