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TTC after ectopic

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MrsBeeBeeBee · 22/06/2017 13:49

Hello.
Not been on mumsnet for a little while but I'm currently recovering from surgery following an ectopic pregnancy.
Wondered if there was anyone else TTC after ectopic?

Happy for those pregnant or who have a little one after ectopic to come and say hello too x

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Kittymum03 · 13/07/2017 02:33

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Loosemoose28 · 13/07/2017 00:01

Flash PM me if you need to offload.

I guess ita normal to a degree. I know the day I see a BFP I will be freakin out. I get some many pains due Ectopic history/ anxiety or the endometrosis.

I think until I get that BFP and knowledge its stuck in my womb rather than my tube the anxiety will remain. Its hard. And I don't think there is a simple solution to make it go away.

Flashinthepan · 12/07/2017 22:52

loose glad it's not just me although obviously wish you hadn't gone through it if you see what I mean. It sounds really dramatic but sometimes it feels a bit like PTSD. I've developed really bad anxiety and panic attacks since it happened. I've mostly got it under control now but often wonder if I should see someone.

Loosemoose28 · 12/07/2017 22:41

@flashinthepan I have had a few dreams about ectopic including the hysterical crying I had when I woke up after a nap at home. It scary how much these things haunt us 😞

Stee1 · 12/07/2017 17:51

Congratulations! Hcg down to 21 last week so tomorrow's bloods should be non pregnant levels such a relief I can finally get back to normal and get ready for my holiday next week. Hope everyone is ok x

Flashinthepan · 12/07/2017 16:12

Congrats again Winter! (I posted on your other thread)

I'm still plodding. Had a dream last night I was pregnant again and it was another ectopic. Heading into another fertile week. Fingers crossed.

Hope everyone is doing ok.

Winterc00kie · 12/07/2017 15:54

Hi, just cheking in here, I had an ectopic in Oct 16 and the tube removal ( it was my 2nd ect after one in 2004 chemically treated) and I'm due on tomorrow but i just thought I would test due to sore boobs etc.

heres my post from yesterdy and today xx fingers crossed xx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2977258-Evaporation-line?watched=1&msgid=70392265#prettyPhoto

Kittymum03 · 06/07/2017 09:32

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Stee1 · 23/06/2017 19:38

Thanks everyone I'm actually ok just thrown myself back into work/mum life had to cancel my holiday to Spain as found out 2 days before flying it was ectopic so was a bit of a mess with everything but going in the right direction and they have halved have another holiday to look forward to in 4 weeks. Hope everyone is ok x

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MrsBeeBeeBee · 23/06/2017 19:13

So sorry to hear you're going through it Stee. Hope you're doing ok.

I didn't have to have the injection but when they were talking me through options they said it was def 3 months wait after those as they can be harmful to future pregnancy in that time.

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meadowlark3 · 23/06/2017 18:25

KItty, I didn't start sobbing until after the surgery when I realised that we were back to being not pregnant. The scan was completely surreal for me, too.

Stee, our consultant told me we would need to wait 3 months after methotrexate because it can harm a future pregnancy. It works by stopping the growth of cells so would be toxic to an embryo.

MrsBee, glad you are getting itchy. I had that a week or so later as well. Really can't imagine how the c-section mums do it! I was a bloated and achy mess after my keyhole!

Flowers and better luck for all.

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Stee1 · 23/06/2017 15:54

I'm going through an ectopic as I type I opted for the injection, I had to have a 2nd dose as first wasn't bringing the hcg down much.. has anyone conceived after the methotrexate if so how long after did you wait before ttc again?

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MrsBeeBeeBee · 23/06/2017 13:57

Surreal is definitely a word I'd use about it all too.
I went to epau for a scan, they sat me in a room after whilst the midwife phoned the consultant to check his opinion on results and then she came back in room and told me he was admitting me and I couldn't even go home to get any things!

I'm doing ok. A week today post surgery. I'm getting a bit itchy which I think is a good thing as that normally means healing.
I have a lot of respect for csection mummies! Can't believe they can do the whole new mum thing with recovery far worse than this!

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MrsBeeBeeBee · 23/06/2017 13:52

Sorry to hear about your experience Kitty and that it took you a while to conceive after your ectopic.

Sorry to hear you've been trying for a while Meadow. Must be so heartbreaking. Really hope for some good news soon and good luck of you do think about IVF.

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MrsBeeBeeBee · 23/06/2017 13:24

The circumstances surrounding my BFP were all very odd.

I tested the morning AF was due (11dpo as I have a shorter than average LP) and got a BFN. Spotting started that afternoon and AF the next day. I had what I thought was a normal period (although I do remember thinking it did go on a day or so longer than normal).
On CD9 I started OPKs and got a really strong positive which was unexpected as the previous two months of OPKs I hadn't got a positive until day 15 and day 17. I got another strong positive the following day and some brown spotting. On day 3 of positive opk I also took a pregnancy test expecting it to be negative. But it was positive. I called the epau for advice as it was such an odd situation and they recommended blood tests. I had a series of blood tests plus two scans before being admitted into hospital 9 days after that first BFP. I was in no pain but was bleeding a little.
I had a laparoscopy to investigate as nothing was showing up on scans but my HCG was still rising (but not doubling).

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Flashinthepan · 23/06/2017 09:55

That's reassuring Kitty there seems to be so little information out there. This month we DTD the day after my period, then missed a day, then every day for 5 days leading up to ovulation and the day of ovulation. God knows if it will work but I can only try! I kind of assume I'm out every cycle where the spotting starts after OV, which it just has, at 2 dpo.

Yes I was told about 70 per cent as there's a 20 per cent chance the other tube can "catch" the egg from the other ovary.

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Flashinthepan · 23/06/2017 08:41

Meadow I fell pregnant first time last year. The started again in January, so about 7 months in total. I had really short cycles earlier in the year, about 21 days, so I think I'm on cycle 10/11. My cycle has never gone back to normal though after my ectopic. I now have bleeding from 1/2 days after ovulation until my next AF. I've been scanned by a gynae, checked for infection, and I temp so I know my progesterone is ok. Noone knows the cause and all the doctors have said it won't affect fertility, but I don't really believe them.

Hi Badger. Glad to hear you feel you're making progress. I hope when you feel ready again it goes smoothly.

Badgertastic · 23/06/2017 07:29

Hi Flash. I remember you from my thread earlier in the year.
I had an ectopic in February and was treated with two doses of methotrexate. We were told to wait 3-6 months because of the drug.
I'm also feeling nervous about TTC again but starting to think about it which is a step forward. Fingers crossed for you all.

meadowlark3 · 23/06/2017 07:02

I'm also trying. We have no children. Been TTC for over one year, had one miscarriage and beginning infertility investigations when I fell with the ectopic. The tube where I had the ectopic had some sort of blockage but it's gone now. Not sure how our chances will be so likely to start infertility treatments. Quite nervous about another ectopic and IVF but certainly longing for a baby.

Flash, how long have you been trying in total?

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