TTC First Time... #3!!

@Jelly I think you can POAS can't you if AF is 4 days away? Not that I would tbh, I would wait, but anyway!

I cycled into work this morning and am feeling mighty proud of myself! Its only 6 miles but still! Got a bit scared by some of the massive roundabouts/buses/lorries/roadworks, but I live to tell the tale!

I don't know much about diets either but I need to go on one! I have piled on the pounds the last year or so. At first I found it amusing for some reason but now I'm like "holy shit I actually need to do something about this!" Obviously biking into work this morning will have shifted ALL the excess weight...

Congrats @littleemma!!! Me and DP haven't booked anything yet but we only want a small do (if anything at all!). We cant decide if we wanna stay here or go abroad though, which is not helping us make plans!

Did a bonus DTD this morning, think I am def not in FW anymore but there is i think a teeny chance the egg is still hanging around, so let's see!

Also, here are my one a day OPK's... reckon I ovulated between 22/23?

Ps. I know, isn't Hexham Abbey lush!! We're going to pay the extra to have the bells rang as it's going to be so special. Reckon around 110 people at the ceremony alone and then 170 at the reception. We'll be getting married around 4pm so skipping the day time do and going straight to night time. Can't afford to feed that many people 3 courses!!

@misty I already pee so much as I like to drink a lot of water, if I don't I am plagued with headaches!! I'm off for a week in June so maybe that would be the best time to do it as I can't imagine my boss will like me for leaving my desk every 10 seconds lol. And at least if I'm off and need a poo I'll be at home 😂🙈
@jellybean I'm so hopeful for you!! 🤞🏼 Don't write any symptom off, just be careful not to overthink them because I think it's then that the brain starts to play mind games!
Ovia doesn't have a clue about my cycles as I'm that irregular 😤 I'm just learning to go with the flow now and when it comes to TTC we'll just go at it like wild rabbits and hope for the best 🐇🐰 😂🙈
Only problem with going with the flow is I never ever know when AF is due, however I have started recognising certain symptoms. I'm sure I'll get there. I've only been off the pill since December so still need to give my body a chance to chill and regulate, if it will ever do that. Still waiting for my gynaecologist appointment coming through!

Awww @Misty I know what you mean, it drives me mad that people could do such things.

@littleemma Congratulations!! I don't know too much about diets but one thing I remember from Uni is that some quick fix diets can affect your hormonal balance and therefore your periods. I googled Hexham Abbey and it is stunning!!!!

I had a backache since last night, today it seems to be more lower right back (which is the same side I had the sharp cramps on a few days ago). AF due in 4 days so the backache seems to be right on time for it, although it's usually more centre lower back. All my symptoms seem promising but I also get them all before AF. Only strange things are my sore boobs (they hurt when I brush my teeth...I am B cup, why are they juggling?!) and I am so sleepy and have been for a week now. Usually I get extra tired 1 day before AF and it's never this bad.

@misty I thought you might like to hear about 😊 I'm getting married in Hexham Abbey which is beautiful and I really can't wait!! Sending out the "save the dates" today as I'm on two rota'd days off 😄
I have heard of it yes, but I'm dubious about those things in case the make me poop a lot 😂🙈 I struggle to go for a no.2 in public toilets and I'm at work for 9 hours a day so I'd be bound to need one at some point (sorry for the TMI girls lol!)
As for the OPK's I only use the IC POAS versions as I CBA to be catching my pee in cups etc. Seemed to have had a strong peak on Monday morning but not a full positive and I don't know what my other symptoms are! Xx

Hey girls! How is everyone doing?
We've already booked our wedding for 07.07.2018 and IM SO EXCITED!! Need to lose some serious weight fast so I can go dress shopping! Anyone got any advice on losing weight please? I've always done slimming world which works but slowly, and I don't like weightwatchers. I'm thinking something like Cambridge just to shift the weight quickly 🤔
I need help on using OPK's please. I have no idea what's going on with my ovulation, so to try and track I'm still using them. I'm doing one a day and I'm doing my second wee of the day. Is that enough to get an idea of when I've ovulated? I would think it will start to "peak" but I may never get a full "positive" but then once I've ovulated it should start to trail off again?! Xx

Thanks @charl, it only feels like I was in the goddamn 2WW five minutes ago!

I dont really think there's much of a chance this month, but you never know!

Jellybean some of that sounds promising - when is it due? Fx for you?! Maybe do a test to be sure!!☺️☺️

Fingers crossed for you as well pibbee.. now for reeeeallly long tww!!

Sorry to hear you think AF is on the way @Jelly. Yeah this whole process is so crap! I am def going to try to chill out (yeah right!).

Yes the yesterday morning one is almost positive. However, ive now done 3 today (so much for chilling out hey!)and they are all negative. So I reckon I ovulated either Sunday or Monday (and cramps were worst on Sunday) which will mean am in with a chance from Wednesday night's efforts, just about...

Oh and I woke up with cramps which is usually a sign for me.

@pibbee the test from yesterday morning looks almost positive, try again tonight. I've had times when it went almost positive to negative and then positive, just to check if you are still unsure about ovulating. I never add my ovulation day on ovia, i out the positive test in sometimes but I mainly let it calculate using symptoms and cm. I usually works for me as I feel O cramps around the same day ovia gives me a score of 10. Sorry you're still having issues with DTD, I'd say try to not obsess about it but who am I kidding? This shit is driving us insane.
@flat I hope you're feeling better, make sure you rest up. What happened in Manchester is truly horrifying, I just keep thinking of those poor kids and families.

I wore heels to work today and my boobs are so tender they hurt with every step, I more sleepy than I was yesterday, i struggle to keep my eyes open, also got a migraine today which usually doesn't happen unless AF is on her way so I think she might be showing up earlier than expected.

@Twisted your post has made me feel so much better, thanks!! I have a tendency to get obsessive about things anyway, and I knew straight away that OPKs etc. had the potential to drive me mad, and they are doing!

Yeah what is with all the recalculating on Ovia? Like I said in my earlier post, it shifted all my FW out by literally a week, just because I logged a negative OPK. That's just wrong!

I always get the impression from reading other threads that everyone else's DP/DH can jump to it at a moment's notice, which makes me feel really frustrated at DP! But yes, I do know that it's a very common thing amongst the menfolk....I think I am going to adopt your approach and stop with the crazy-inducing apps and sticks. Even this afternoon I was pondering doing a CB stick...WHY!??!?! Stop the madness!!! :D

Sorry to hear you aren't feeling great @flatwhite. Concussion can really take it out of you for a while, so look after yourself!

@Pibbee I have same issue regarding hounding DH & stuff not working when dtd!! This is why I've taken a break from OPKs & Ovia. I still enter bare minimum data on Ovia to keep on top of my cycle but not entering too many symptoms or cm observations that might trigger a recalculate as that just gets me ranting so bad.

Try & have a break & remember that dtd should be fun!! Also remember though you are not alone and your feelings are all normal & we've all been there!

I'm not feeling great today. Was sent home from work with a terrible headache. It's a bit better now I'm at home doing nothing, but it looks like yesterday's knock to the head will take a few days to get over.
Feeling sad about the events in Manchester too. So awful.

Here are my OPKs from Sunday to today. The one that looks most +ve is the one from 6am yesterday. What do you guys think? I dont think its an actual positive, but that doesn't necessarily mean anything as like I say, I have had all those cramps the last couple of days...

I also forgot to mention in my last post that DP is majorly stressed out at work right now (as in wants to quit, pretty much). So i guess I shouldn't be too hard on him. In fact I feel like a bit of a cowbag for hounding him for sex ha

Hi all!

@Twisted I am the same re PJs vs. gym stuff! also, sometimes I even put my gym stuff on first thing in the morning (e.g. now, as I am working from home today) and STILL don't manage to make it to the gym! There is literally NO excuse!!

@Flatwhite how are you feeling today? Take it easy missy!

@Jellybean sounds like your bday improved somewhat. Mine is next month and I am going to be ANCIENT compared to you. Ha!! Oh well sod it. I am old and therefore WISE ().

I am getting all wound up about FW again. I have added Ovia app and I can't make head nor tail of it. I have been getting -ve OPKs, and one which was near-as-dammit a positive (will post a pic in a sec). BUT I am pretty sure I ovulated Sunday/yesterday, as I have ECWM Sunday, and then pains and actually really bad cramps which kept me awake most of Sunday night (on a side-note, is that normal?! I usually get cramps but these were something else!!!). Plus Sunday and Monday were CD 13 and 14 which would make sense for Ov (and pretty much in line with previous cycles).

So: I added the -ve OPK data (for Sunday, Monday and this morning) to Ovia, and it told me that my FW will run from Sunday gone to this Friday. I don't think that's right at all. However, I then added ovulation day as Sunday, and it changed my FW from Sunday to Friday, to last Tuesday to Sunday. WHAAAAAT???? I am pretty sure I have ovulated as mentioned above. I think it is placing too much importance on the -ve OPKs.

FF thinks FW was last Wednesday to Monday (y'day).

Either way, I DTD last Wed, which I think is in FW given that I am pretty sure I have ov'd already. Which is good, but it was only the first day of FW and so I am not expecting much but better than nothing.

And now comes the monthly FW rant . I had thought the most important days this month were Sunday and yesterday. HOWEVER, we attempted DTD on both days, and on both occasions it didn't quite work . I am getting really annoyed with this happening all the time! He knew it was a potential FW day on Wed, and it was totally fine then. I think the problem is that I really do harp on about it too much and just need to chill the F out, but HOW?!? I am aware that I am acting like a crazy person. The recurring pattern is that I go on about it during the most important days, DTD then doesn't work, and both of us get really stressed out and frustrated! I think I need to just stop mentioning it, but I can't! I also can't lie to him either, and he does ask when the days are. I'm just gonna start saying I don't know, I think!

In any case, none of this is an exact science and apps seem to move FW around like nobody's business. And the OPKs aren't an exact determination of anything at all either! So they can all just do one .

I just REALLY wish we have done one more DTD yesterday or Sunday. I had been away for a few days prior to that so couldn't fit any in after Wed.

I think this is taking my life over far too much and I am a bit obsessed. It's only been a few months, and it may well take ages so I just need to chill! it's so hard though...

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@Flatwhite31 I hope you're ok, concussion can be horrible, rest up.

@JellyBean89 I'm glad you feel a little better. Your night in sounds lovely too. Enjoy.

I ache after going to the gym today! I was so tired & fell asleep on the sofa this afternoon. I've not felt tiredness like this in ages like it's my head and my body if that makes sense.

@charl19 your version of exercise seems far more enjoyable 😂 there is no in between for me. I'm either extremely motivated or I accidentally put in my pyjamas instead of gym clothes & there is no coming back from that!!

Thank you for the wishes guys, I feel a bit better now, had a good old cry and decided I don't want to go out, so dh has popped down to Tesco and will cook me my favourite dinner and we'll just cozy up and catch up on our favourite shows.

@flat that sounds painful! Make sure you take things easy, how are you feeling tonight?

@MrsMelron I know how you feel about wasting months, but it sounds like it makes sense to put things on hold, now you can get to know your cycle properly (oh the joys lol) and I have my fingers crossed for December.

@Charl your run sounds like my idea of a work out @Twisted and @Pibbee you are definitely more motivated than me.

Aw jellybean happy birthday!! Hope you've managed to celebrate a bit tonight!!

I've put my running stuff on tonight with every intention of going for a run but now I've sat on the sofa with a cuppa.. think that's as far as my run is going to go 😂😂 twisted you are far more motivated than me!!

Oh flat that sounds painful!!! Glad you're ok! Take it easy tonight! X

Aw mrsmelron I know how you feel.. we've decided to hold off until august and it's killing me!! I think I'm ovulating this week as well.. got proper emosh to DH last night about it all but the reason we are waiting should hopefully give us a bit more maternity pay so I know it's the right thing to do, just so frustrating! Know how you feel about wasting the months though!!

Hope You've all enjoyed the sunshine today ☺️☺️

Xx

Sorry @jelly, forgot to wish you happy birthday. Xx