Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Part 9

Dancing we’ve told most of our close friends and family and will be telling colleagues at work next week (although I imagine my manager has already spread this around - not the end of the world!) Feels so nice that it’s out in the open. So scared of something going wrong but I guess if it does then people will need to know either way. So glad you’ve got lots to look forward to over the next few weeks, what sort of things have you got planned?

Springer so sorry that the bleeding has continued, you poor thing. Hope you’re looking after yourself this weekend

Oh biker your story is so moving. Thank you for sharing it with us. It sounds as though you are surrounded by people that are looking after you. You’re amazing and so strong. I will be rooting for you and little biker on Monday. Please do let us all know how it goes.

JB you definitely need a trampolining reference haha :D

grumpy excellent work on stocking up! Love it.

Oh my god seven exactly the same this end. I’ve been full on organisation mode today - our utility room is basically finished so have ordered a tumble dryer, some tiles for the kitchen, a sofa bed for our snug-come-dining room and looking for second hand furniture for the babies room (chest of drawers mainly). I’ve also made a list for our handyman of bits and bobs to do around the house before the baby comes. Basically I've bankrupted us already but I feel SO much better for doing all that. I think we are nesting early aren’t we lovely :)

Time to think about making our evening meal (the ol’ feta cheese and spinach lasagne is coming out again - swear i’m craving it for the folic acid) and start the next season of Breaking Bad. Good times! Have a fab Saturday evening all x

Lol @Seven0fNine I went through similar in the first couple of weeks - husband thought I was pregnant even before I did a HPT! It's good though - keep that energy going!

Hello ladies. Massive welcome to dirty and springer but so sorry to hear of your losses.
Dirty what a sad but incredibly moving story and lovely that you have a way to remember her xx Congratulations though on conceiving again so soon and we will help you through Monday xx

Springer I'm so sorry for what you are going through. We are here if you need to rant or talk or just need your mind taking off it xx

Glad you are having a nice weekend Grumpy Can't wait to see a pic of your stoves when they're in. Love your collection of ttc goodies. You need some magic lube for that stash!

Haha JB bless you, hope you can relax the rest of today.

Buzz are you feeling better today?

We've been on a bit of a mission today. DH sold some of his weights on ebay so we went to deliver them and spend the money on a new graphics card for his computer (my eyes are rolling) but it's the last time he's going to get anything nice (if all goes to plan) for a long time and he is in a mega good mood now so that's a bonus!

I am in full cleaning mode...surely it's far too early to be nesting right?! But I can't help it!! Just have an urge to clean and sort and chuck stuff out. I guess it's the only useful thing I can do at the moment.

Thank you 😘

@TheGrumpySquirrel That is a crazy amount of kit - no wonder your OH was shocked on cost 😂 TBF I bought loads as well, every time there was a 3 for 2 deal etc! Where did you order all that from? Was it cheaper than buying them singularly from Boots etc?

Thank you everyone 😘 it's actually the first time I've ever typed our story out, so thank you for being so kind.

@Springersprung I had no bleeding or any other symptoms before the ERPC. A little spotting before the procedure after the softening pills. After the procedure I had an AF type bleed (medium flow) and mild cramps for about 2-3 days, and then light spotting for another 3-4. Total lasted about a week. They did a decent job.

How's Saturday going for everyone?

grumpy i missed the post about the babygro -great idea! Love the ideas already and can't think of another one at the moment but will let you know

dancing great idea about baked Camembert. Are you going to get some mrs ?

parsnips that's a lovely sign and looks like a beautiful cathedral. Enjoy the rest of your weekend here and safe travels back. Can't believe you're literally next to seven it's such a small
world isn't it?

para sorry AF hasn't shown her face. So annoying when you normally wish it away and when you want it to appear, it doesn't!

natur have a great time. Love that your DD wore her big sister t shirt. What did your mum say?

Hello springer and bikerchick and welcome to this amazingly supportive thread. Sorry to hear about your mc congrats on your rainbow baby bikerchick and thanks for sharing your story. Made me feel really emotional. Really hope all goes well with this pregnancy ❤

How's the birthday BBQ tigger hope the rain stayed away for you. A little rain here but managed to mow the garden so phew!

Biker we will be here to hold your hand on Monday. Thanks for sharing your story.

Springer have they scanned you to make sure everything is out yet?

We are getting into the DIY here in the Squirrel household.. DH is finishing laying the living room floor fucking finally. I'm allowed a break because I can't stand the glue smell.

My extra CBFM sticks arrived.. fingers crossed I conceive soon and don't need this much kit!!

Springer I bled for about 7/8 days I think. Stopped for a little in the middle of that. But I had surgical management, so I don't know if that affects things. Emotionally, it's still very painful, and always on my mind. But it does get easier.

Welcome biker and springer. So sorry that you both had such difficult experiences. Congratulations biker on your rainbow baby, no wonder you are terrified for your 12 week scan, we will be here to hand hold on Monday.

Glad you are njoyong your weekend away natur

grumpy get haggling for those wood burning stoves

tigger keeping my fingers crossed that the sun stays shining for your BBQ

Hope you pirated out your DS in the end mummy

jupiter static smiley 😂😂. I thinking 'trampolining=bouncing baby' hahaha

Rudely woken up from nightshift slumber by DH having a political debate on the doorstep with a canvasser. Give me strength! 🙈

Thank you so much biker. I'm sorry you have been through this, but pleased there is hope for you now. I didn't quite make it to my scan mc started 5 days before.
So far everything has happened naturally, I haven't had a ercp. I hope you don't mind me asking, and I know it will vary from person to person, but how long did you bleed for after your mc?

Oh biker. Your story gives me so much hope. I also found out at my 12 week scan; it was such a shock as I had no clue at all (apart from, I realise now, far more fear than I should have had for that morning). That was 7 weeks ago. I can completely understand your fear for Monday, but I desperately hope for you that it goes well and you see your perfect little one with a heart beating for you both. ❤️

I meant to say also to those going through it now - I still get emotional when I think about her and what stage we would be at now had she survived, but it does get easier to deal with; the grief does lighten. Do give it whatever time you need to, and never give up, ladies xx

Thanks all. It's something we just wish didn't happen to anyone.

@DancingUnicorn It was very tough for awhile. Discovered just before Christmas at my 12 week scan that the baby had died a few weeks earlier, but my body hadn't recognised it yet so I was walking around with all the same pregnancy symptoms. As it was Christmas I had to wait 6 days to have my ERPC, so that was almost a week of continuing to walk around no longer oblivious to what was going on inside me. Can't even measure how many tears I shed that week and the weeks that followed. I was already in love and the grief that followed was so overwhelming.

When the hospital finished their brief diagnosis we opted to collect the remains for cremation. The crematorium director was amazing - first person who really knew what to say / not to say. Family and friends tried but as none of them had ever been through it they just tried all the usual platitudes which just made it worse so I had to keep away from them for awhile.

Husband took her (we like to think it was a her) ashes for a brief motorcycle ride through a park, and we then buried her in my PIL's garden, and planted a beautiful camellia japonica 'tree' and flowers to commemorate her and have a place of memories. I was distraught at the time, especially when digging and placing her little bamboo pouch of ashes on and under a bed of dirt, but afterwards it did help to start the healing process. We went away for a few days and later on for a couple of weeks, and those really helped too.

Afterwards I flitted between wanting to TTC straightaway to never doing it again out of fear. But desire outweighed the fear and so we tried again after my first AF which came about 5 weeks after the ERPC.

Nothing happened the first month but the next month it did (we were stunned) and we are 12 weeks today. 12 week scan on Monday (5 months to the day of my last 12 week scan and devastating news) so I am scared as hell!

Tigger I hope you are having an amazing party x

Hope everyone is having a lovely Saturday. It's mostly sunny here which is nice. I went for a walk on the common with DH this morning but needed a nap afterwards - just woke up from a blissful 2hr sleep! Now I'm badgering him to finish the living room DIY we need to do so we can finally sit in it! My stove quote came back a bit pricey so I've asked them to give a discount given that we are buying 2.. fingers crossed!

Haha, nope not pregnant. I wish!

Welcome to the newbies; these lot are just lovely! ❤

Tigger fingers crossed the weather is better where you are than it is here!

Thank you for the lovely welcome everyone. It is so sad to think that so many people have been in the same situation.
My bleeding us fluctuating too. I thought it was easing off on Thursday morning, then by Thursday evening, I was back feeling like I was having contractions and it got very heavy. Eased off during Friday and is a bit heavier again this morning. I have been wondering whether I should get some iron tablets.

Have everything crossed for the weather Tigger. Hope it all goes ok and not too overwhelming.

Wilde glad you are having a wonderful time. Are you just away for the weekend?

Yeah, really looking forward to it Jupiter. Has come around really quickly. These things always do. Got lots to look forward to in the coming weeks too, which I'm hoping will keep me sane! Are you still clinging on to the relaxed feeling from your trip? And have you announced baby Jupes to the world?

Biker, thank you. ❤️ How are you feeling about things now?

@Parastars any chance you could be pg again already?

@Springersprung hi and welcome. This is a lovely supportive group. How is your bleeding now? Mine is super annoying as it seems like it stops for a few hours then bam. It's been a week since the first spotting and almost 3 days since the MC completed. I'm still very tired especially when I eat but feeling a bit stronger today.

Thank you @dirtygrubbybikerchick for your kind words and sorry to hear about your loss.

Welcome silver and biker so sorry for your losses but welcome to our lovely thread!

Well I'm setting up for my BBQ so far the suns shining... we're expecting around 30 people I think so fingers crossed it stays shiny!!

Have a wonderful Saturday and I'll try and catch up on the 100's of updates later