Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Thread 8

Sorry you had such a rubbish night grumpy, I hope tonight is better for you.

Aw dancing, I think we should go into a dark room and cry together! I can understand you're worried about when you're going to get a sticky bean, but just try to rationalise it and remind yourself that there's nothing to suggest you have any kind of fertility problem. Trouble concentrating is difficult, the only suggestion I can make is to break it down into small bits and focus on one thing at a time. Tomorrow is a new day

So sorry grumpy. That sounds like a horrible night. I hate the feeling of waking up in a panic. Really hope the day goes smoothly for you and tonight is better.

I'm having a day of anxiousness. Feeling like this will never happen for me which I know is irrational and also struggling at work. Not concentrating well, and have imminent deadlines. Trying hard to not panic, but feel like I'm simply not cut out for my job right now. Not helped by sleeping really badly for the past couple of weeks.

Charl I'm sorry you're doubting your choices. Finances are not an easy fix, but people can make it work without much. I know that's easier to say. I think it's natural to be up and down too.

I'm sorry you're finding work so difficult penguin. It really sucks.

Sorry for the moan. Feel like crying in a dark room for an hour. No time for that though.

Sorry you're feeling so rubbish grumpy jet lag is awful
I still haven't got dressed yet and it's 1pm

Had a terrible first night in California. Stayed up till 7pm (3am uk time) but then struggled to sleep as felt sick and panicky. Had to walk around continuously to deal with it but was so tired. My sister was very sweet and rubbed my back and talked to me but every time I'd get to sleep I'd wake up in a panic shortly afterwards. Almost took a Valium but was too worried about the potential effect on mini bean. Eventually got to sleep at midnight (8am uk) and just woke up (4:30am here). Hope tonight is better, my body just can't deal with jet lag.

In the maternity ward with my mum to discuss her casearean date and seeing all the pregnant woman is making me broody!!xx

Thanks for the list jb!

Sorry you're feeling a bit confused charl. I'm very much in the same boat. I feel like I'm not earning enough to be able to support our family on PT hours, so ideally I'd like to have a "promotion" before having a baby (no such thing in my company, you always have to apply and complete against 100 others!) I also feel very stuck in my career and think that mat leave then reduced hours isn't going to help that... the thought of me being stuck in this job for longer than another day necessary makes me feel depressed! I was very upset about this last night & I just don't know what to do. Like you say, there's never a right time to have a baby....

So exciting for everyone testing next week!! Fx for all of you! 👍🏼🤞🏼

Not sure when am testing, think I am in FW but not paying lots of attention this cycle! I'm really up and down thinking can we afford to have a baby, is this the right time but there's never a right time really is there! We will never be able to afford it really but suppose that shouldn't put me off! Feeling really up and down, so not officially tracking everything just see what happens!

Hope everyone else is ok- love reading all about your days but I find I don't have much spare time to type, I can just manage catching up on everything!!

Congrats Jupiter that photo is lovely!! So excited for you!! 😍 x

Aghh penguin my phone has just done that and I've lost everything I just wrote!! Very annoying!
Anyway.... I Will keep you posted on the asos buys, I got black and regular jeans and wanted a white pair but none in stock in my size so will keep an eye out for them again!
Well done jb on the list! I could maybe have a go at making one of those editable spreadsheets then we could all input and update ourselves, might take the pressure off seven? Let me know and I don't mind having a go at it!
Lots of testing next week, seems ages since we've had a good old test on here!! Can't wait!

Crikey seven its. It until you try to work on the list that you realise how hard it is to keep up with everything. So sorry if there are mistakes. It thought I would try and help you out:

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Parastars -

mummy you're amazing! Literally exactly what I wanted to know! Will enjoy my sleep now without worrying and then will deffo look into pillows. Thank you all! Yay to your bfp! Lots of humping in the mummy household today! 🍆

So excited for our testers! Love testing mornings :)

mrs let us know how the asos stuff is!! I'm very excited about buying some bits! :)

I think I'm going to test around 6th may if I can hold out that long, that would be based on ovulating tomorrow

Eek lots of testing next week! otters are you testing next week too or does it depend on your blood test result?

seven I love the hairy dieters cookbook.

Time to get jiggy with it mummy 😂

Argh I hate my phone!!! Forever deleting my messages mid-type!

We're so lucky to have resident mummy on this thread! Hopefully her advice has given you some reassurance about sleeping positions buzz!

I think I'll be testing with jb and tigger at the end of next week! I'm CD22 today and Ovia has my FW ending tomorrow with AF expected on 9 May. I've had some cramping the last couple of days so I think ov may have happened yesterday? If I test on 4th, that will be CD30 and anywhere between 7-9dpo so hopefully not too early? That's assuming I actually do ovulate, of course...

Hello lovelies,

Just a very quick message before work! I was trying to catch up yesterday but couldn't quite make it to the end. I absolutely think you are all the most wonderful and supportive bunch. It's brilliant being part of such a lovely thread.

Jupiter So relieved that everything is OK! Such a cute little one all snuggled up!

Thanks Parsnips for the new thread. I'm sorry I haven't time to update the list over the next few days but if anyone else fancies doing it I would be very appreciative! I think the last one is on page 29 of the last thread and there are quite a few little mistakes/things that need updating on it!

Tigger Fingers Crossed for a speedy BFP! I made a variation of hairy dieters lasagna for tea the other night (leeks for pasta). It was bloody lovely!

I've not seen Bridget Jones' Baby yet but must watch it! Funny you say about the yoga retreat Grumpy...my Sis is in the process of moving to France to do exactly that! DH and I have to help them...think we are road tripping and driving the van down with her DP in August and they are going to pay for us to stay out there for a week on holiday! So that will be Spain with school in July and France for that in August ...all by road.... In a way I hope I'm not preggers by then!!!

I have so much more to catch up on! But have to go to work in 20 mins and still in bed so better get moving. Speak to you all later. Have a fab day xx

And sleeping thing is more relevant later in pregnancy. I was a back sleeper until about 26weeks when I got a big pillow and started sleeping on my side. There is evidence that sleeping on left side has better outcomes re stillbirth but it's not relevant until end of 2nd trimester when the weight of your uterus on your major blood vessels becomes so heavy they compress and reduce oxygenated blood supply to baby. However, by that point you would know it's a problem as you would feel unwell/faint/dizzy. Don't stress about it, particularly at this stage. Babies are very very protected in there

I got my static smiley on CB OPK Last night and a positive IC 😊 So looks like I'm ovulating today/early tomorrow. I don't seem to have the obvious pains I used to get when I came off the pill which doesn't help pin point it.

otters glad yourGP has agreed to repeating bloods

Sorry I mean hb with the sleeping thing - still half asleep this morning

Hello hello new shiny thread.

Oh Jupiter I am so delighted to see this update from you - wonderful news

otters I'm sorry, it's shit. Really hoping another blood test will have better results for you. Maybe not such a bad thing a couple of colleagues know now though? Especially if one has been through IVF and knows the rollercoaster so well.

buzz the sleeping thing must be hard. I sleep on my front so dreading having to retrain myself!

grumpy sounds like the flight wasn't too bad. Have a good trip! Please bring us back some sunshine!!!

Ooh fun MrsC ! ASOS seem to have the best maternity I've seen so far! You'll have to give us some feedback when they come!

I was confused too otters, i guess it must be the UV light they use to cure the polish... not because maybe something is likely to happen, just if it coincidentally did they'd be in the shit! She offered me a file & pAint but it's just not the same as gels!! My good friend does my beauty normally (traded for my hair services) so will have to spill the beans to her and see if it's cool!

buzz You are TOTALLY covered pre wedding, I'm sure no one will suspect a thing! I gave up alch for two months prior to mine bar the hen weekend & got no funny looks or questions and would never have occurred to me that peiple would even suspect! It's after the wedding that you are under the microscope! ive clocked a few glances at my tummy since!

dancing I always think I'd be so easily identifiable on here! Oh well!

I'm sure the sleeping thing is fine at this stage... confused I'm sure you did a thread about this on pregnacy?? From what i remember people were brushing off concerns about only sleeping on left?? I sleep in every position EXCEPT left🙈 Was considering swapping sides with DH! Defo getting a monster pillow at some point tho!

tigger keeping it all crossed for you for this cycle, you were so quick last time I'm sure it'll happen as quick this time too, hope the tww flies!
dancing that sounds like progress, hopefully AF will be along very soon so you'll know where you stand xx
buzz I'm such a belly sleeper, or else I'm on my right, I sleep on my left the least I think.... Which Probably isn't for the best, I might take jbs advice and get a pillow although it'll only add to my slothness!

I just ordered two pairs of maternity jeans off asos, I'm struggling to keep the button shut on mine, I just look like a chubster though rather than pregnant!

Thanks for all the support, really appreciate it. You gals are the best ❤ I'm really hoping that it was the wrong time to test but time will tell. Feels good to have a good cry about everything!

grumpy can't believe you get wifi on the plane! And first class as well - wow. Hope the flight was good and you're well rested. Yoga retreat sounds great - where do I sign up? I'm on 150mg clomid and really hoped that it would kickstart ovulation

dancing I managed to convince the doctor that I need another blood test on Friday so hopefully it will be better. Great London pic!

mummy economy is terrible especially if it's more than a few hours. Definitely premium if you can afford it!

jupiter congrats on your scan and so pleased to hear that little bean is doing well! Must be such a relief. How was your celebratory meal? thanks for reassurance about luteal phase. I think I may have ovulated on Sunday so this Sunday will be 7dpo. I'm getting the bloods on Friday though as can't get it at weekend and bank holiday Monday.

mummy I really hope it was late ovulation. Doctor agreed to do another blood test but probably indulging me! Sounds like you've done well with dtd, hopefully you've caught the egg! You can join the 2WW soon!

penguin really hope the Friday blood test will be promising. How was your Haircut ? Did you get a glass of wine?

hb glad you had a good spa trip. Why wouldn't she do the shellac pedi? I'm confused. Really hope it's late ovulation, will find out soon enough.

youngmummy I used clear blue fertility monitor which is great as it's digital and easy to read. I have just ordered some one step opks from amazon, waiting for them to arrive. Also ordered a thermometer. Thought I'd go all out next time! Still new to opk so we can learn together

Ha! Thanks jupiter's mum!

I totally agree Jupiter I think this group is amazing. it's so lovely to have someone to talk to about TTC/pregnancy when no one ofther than DH knows on the real world.

Cross post Dancing - so pleased that the tests are getting fainter. I so hope that AF appears soon too so you know where you are cycle-wise. It will happen soon I'm sure xx

Thanks for all the kind words everyone :)