Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Thread 8

Enjoy your week off Jupiter, do you have anything planned or will there be a Jupiter shaped indent left in the sofa after your week off 😂 Hopefully the tiredness will start to ease for the humped ladies who are soon reaching the 2nd trimester.

Is confused on holiday, haven't see her comment in a while but may have missed it with the speed this thread moves.

Haha Tigger I love that you've prepared oh for his duties next cycle.

Good luck for getting it on in your fertile week seven, must be stressful with an irregular cycle and no OPKs.

Happy Friday folks

This is in my travel insurance docs:

Not covered:

1. Any claim arising from pregnancy related conditions not due to complications of pregnancy which first arise after departing on your trip. Normal pregnancy or childbirth, or travelling when your medical practitioner has recorded your pregnancy as high risk or being at a heightened risk of premature birth, would not constitute an unforeseen event.

Parsnips woohoo!! Massive congrats! So happy for you. Curious why you want an elective caesarean for first baby? I'm being nosy so don't feel you have to answer that! Will you have the baby in Dubai?

Jupiter I guess everyone is different, I felt the worst from 4-6 weeks, exhausted, dizzy and off food. Since 6/7 weeks I've felt much more normal (except I get tired after eating, like my body can't supply blood to both brain and digestion at same time). You and buzz must be close to 12wks now right? Or are you going by your new dates buzz?

Tigger sorry AF got you, I reckon things will go back to normal for you next cycle x

JB i hope the spotting calms down soon x

Happy humping seven

HB I'm right behind you, I'm 8+5 today, only 10 days until my harmony test, very excited to know the sex!

Mummy I'm looking forward to meeting up when I'm back! Although I'm off to Barcelona on Tuesday night until next Sunday it's a hard life 😎

Dancing and everyone, thanks for the support re work, it feels a relief to have an ally (although she's based here so won't be at any European drinks events)! Now I know I'm doing the right thing to wait to announce it. Work is actually going really well otherwise, I'm hopeful to do well at year end pay review. Going to emphasise my DH will be a SAHD!

Morning all! Beautiful sunny day. I'm starting to get af cramps and back pain. Looks like my cycle is going to be around 26 days if I come on tomorrow which seems very short considering I'm usually 30 days but I guess it's all up in the air after the op! So we'll be back to dtd eod I've prepared my oh lol.

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend.

Oh Buzz My DH is literally like my servant at the mo! I feel so bad, he gets me drinks, makes my hot water bottle, washes up, gets me a hoody/blanket, puts my work stuff in the boot, i just sit on the sofa like a knackered bloated princess😂

I was thinking, how the eff do people do this for a second time when there's a toddler/little person running round? & there's zero opportunity to chill out?? Respect!

yaaay happy humped parsnips xxxx

buzz all sounds good about the promotion!!

I'm so sorry about AF otters We're here if you need us xxxxx

Lol Wiggley that's exactly what happens every month...it's ridiculous!!!!

Sorry you're feeling so tired Jupiter xxx

CD26 (out of probably 38 again)...apparently in fw and so dtd last night. OPK's still haven't arrived - couldn't get them on Prime so I guess I'm having an OPK free month (which may not be a bad thing) :D Working until 9pm tonight but at least can work from home for a few hours this afternoon.

Aaaaaaaaaahh congratulations Parsnips glad all the confusion is over and all confirmed in writing!! Very cute babygrow!

Glad you've had a positive outcome and received good advice from telling your colleague Grumpy it all seems so tactical in your industry!

jupiter all I've been thinking is roll on the second trimester!! Cannot wait to have more energy and motivation! I'm ok at work cos im constantly busy & talking and forget about it but as soon as i sit down I want to go to sleep & socialising in the evenings?? So not up for that... I've become completely boring! I'm SURE we'll come out the other side! Not long to go... I'm 10 weeks today!

Happy Friday Everyone!

jupiter sorry you're feeling so exhausted. I know how you feel! I've been getting DP to literally do everything I feel awful, like fetch me drinks, blankets, stuff around the house etc. I'm finding commuting the worst tbh. I do feel a bit better this week although still in bed straight away after work by 8:30-9! Can you duck out early of your dinner when you start to feel tired? So excited for your leave! What have you got planned apart from dinners? :)

parsnips that's such a lovely way to tell him!! Congratulations! How do you feel now it's really happening? :) :)

jb hope the spotting stops soon ❤️

grumpy glad you're feeling better about telling someone at work, maybe she can cover for you drink wise at future events! :) she's probably right about not telling them for a while. I really don't believe that there's no discrimination because they can't. They'll find a way to be dicks about it! Sounds like you've got a good plan there though :)

Wiggley forgot to say good luck for your 2ww!! You never know...:)

Huge congratulations parnsips - what wonderful news!!! So happy for you and so glad it's now been confirmed by a digital :) How are you feeling? Any symptoms yet?

Sucks about the spotting JB, but hopefully just part of the implantation process. How many days of brown spotting would you normally get pre-AF?

grumpy so glad you had a good chat with your colleague, how reassuring - and good to hear it from someone who understands your job role and all the subtleties that come with it. Excellent news.

Humped people - how are you coping with fatigue at the moment? I'm finding the constant exhaustion really hard to manage. Fortunately am on annual leave for a week after next week so counting down the days. Am out with friends for the next two evenings and to be honest I'm dreading it because I'll know that come 9pm I'll be useless. Can't wait until I can just tell people. One of my friends knows but not telling the others as we all work together (and one can't keep a secret haha!) Need this placenta to hurry up and take over so I can start feeling more normal hopefully.

Parsnips congratulations!! So glad we weren't all going crazy over the lines! Glad your DH is excited and planning everything! We have a new wave of Jan babies!

Jb oh, it sucks that you have more spotting. Still likely to be nothing, but it's just so hard. And yes, I remember the feeling of thinking about how long there is to wait!!

Grumpy I'm so glad you felt the support from your colleague. I feel sad for you that you'll have to hide it for as long as possible, but really good that you have a game plan.

Aww bless him, that's lovely.

I'm doing ok, spotting again this morning so will just have to wait and see what happens and I thought the TWW was bad

parsnips congratulations!! Fab news.

grumpy good news your colleague is being helpful and supportive!

parsnips massive congratulations lovely! What a special way to tell DH won't steal this idea at all, how did he take the news? I'm so excited for you, have you worked out your due date.

grumpy that's fab about how supportive your colleague was. It must really help having someone who knows the position you are in to help guide you a bit and back up what you were already thinking.

She was great, I told her and she was very supportive and I feel I can trust her. She said to not tell anyone even my LM until I have to because then mgmt could decide that the new junior should report to someone else ahead of time. This way, I'm his boss until I go on leave, then it's gonna be hard to change his reporting line without it looking like discrimination against me especially as I'll only be off for 6 months. Feels a relief to have some advice from someone in my team who knows my exact role. She was encouraged to hear my plans to work 2 KIT days per month (important meeting days and catching up with my key relationships so they don't transfer those relationships to others in the team). She did warn me that my bonus the following year might disappoint (it is discretionary so very hard to prove discrimination) but long term the time off shouldn't affect my career. It's complicated but glad I have a plan!

I know it's hard grumpy, and I had serious issues about work and pregnancy, but even if they don't think it's an ideal work situation, they really shouldn't be angry with you. I know that not everything and every employer lives in the ideal world where they're not anti pregnancy... but it sounds like you're incredibly respected where you work and they'll want to do everything they can to make sure when you return to work it's with them! Sounds like this person might be able to provide some moral support through it all. Hope the evening goes ok either way!

I've actually been complaining to her about our big boss grilling me about baby plans. (This was just before I fell pregnant). Today she joked to me, he didn't ask you again did he? I could do with her advice on whether to tell my line manager or not. I'm really stressed about the fact I've only got 6 months to train my junior when I was expecting to have a year (the hiring process took much longer than it should have). I'm worried that my bosses will be really annoyed about me going off while he still needs loads of supervision.

Ha, yes! Living up to my name indeed - I am by no means a dancer!

Oh JB you do all the blood testing? Shame, because I guess it'd be nice to have someone in the background for reassurance. But I'm sure things will go along nicely! :)

Mummy I really hope this is your month!

Wiggley All I can remember is strawberries tasting really metallic. It was my earliest symptom by far. I remember thinking 'This is weird, maybe I am pregnant'... but then didn't think we'd timed anything right so told myself I was being ridiculous!

Whatever you decide will be ok grumpy. If you don't drink and she guesses, hopefully she'll be tactful enough to leave it as your business. If you tell her, I'm sure she'll keep your secret for you. Women in male dominated business environments should be looking out for each other!! (FX!)

Spoiler culprit was DH French aunt so don't think the "it's top secret don't put anything on Facebook because of my work" got through (but still - it's obvious I've not announced it on Fb so why would you do that - and she knows it's early days still!). However the comment was there only for an hour so I'm hoping no one saw it - my work colleagues are not very active on FB anyway - and no one else has said anything so 🤞🏼. The only people that had commented (and so would get notified of other comments) were MIL (who knows) and two of my friends who I think would be tactful enough to keep quiet if they saw it! One of them actually had dreadful infertility problems and finally had her son a year ago after IVF.

I'm going for dinner with the only other woman on my team now. Not sure whether to trust her with the news, I think I can but she'll guess if I'm not drinking for sure. Argh. I have an hour to decide.

You are surely living up to your name dancing 😂 Glad you had a fun night.
It's self referral to midwives here but I don't want to book too early because as soon as I get bloods taken my work will know. Will just wait and see what happens over the next few days.

wiggley logical thinking goes out the window during the TWW and I would hate for someone to read my recent google searches, haha

Sounding very positive mummy