Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Thread 7

Just catching up and I'm welling up reading all the posts (i'm blaming the hormones) DH is wondering what's wrong with me! tigger dancing and para you are all so strong and brave. tigger hope you get the closure you need so you can move on. I agree with parsnips about how lovely this thread is. Everyone is so supportive and helpful. I feel really privileged to be a part of this, to share our ups and downs. The saying goes you know who your true friends are when the going gets tough.
Hope everyone else is going to have a relaxing day in the sun today.

Ohh seven are you going to retry tomorrow?

Good luck MrsC, hope you aren't feeling too rotten!! Poor you! Complaining to DH is to be encouraged :)

buzz that is absolutely lovely of you

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Moan all you want babe! Its rubbish to be ill and not be able to take the usual remedies (encountered this with hayfever on hol!) im sure you're entitled to all the moans to DH for at least nine months!! He just got a shag... you have to do all the hard work!!

Hope the scan goes well x

Haha buzz I know, she said full bladder in the phone and all I could think of was that I don't know when my bladder was last empty anyway!

parsnips and grumpy I've sent you a PM but no idea if it's worked!

mrs good luck today! I'm really nervous about drinking all the water before and wetting myself 😂

hb yes it's this afternoon, we'll remembered! Unfortunately I think I have a sinus infection or something, my head is pounding and pressure behind my eyes and nose, my throat is red raw, has the sweats all night too, going to go to gp tomorrow, apparently lemsip and strepsils can't be taken, so I'm finding it hard to think about the scan as I'm just feeling sorry for myself! I feel like I'm always complaining too which I hate, I'd say DH wants to choke me although he's being very nice I'm sure in his head he's like "I wish she would shut it" 😂 😂! Anyway I need to shake myself and just get on with it!

Buzz that's gorgeous thank you

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Crying now after catching up this morning (but in a good way) glad we are all here to share your journeys and support each other as we go xx makes this whole thing much easier to handle.

But on the other hand....

God dammit! I forgot to test with fmu!! Halfway through a sleepy wee at 5.30am and then remembered. No symptoms of being pregnant tho so doubt I am (hope not I've been drinking like a fish..taking the drink til it's pink to heart)

For whoever asked...(dancing maybe?) I think I remember reading somewhere if you take too much folic acid then your body just takes what it needs and gets rid of the rest. But I may be making that up xx

Oh Buzz that's so lovely re. the sunflowers ❤

How you feeling MrsC? Hope the nausea is calming? Have you got a scan today or have I remembered all wrong?!

tigger, dancing and para you are incredible ❤️ I'm so moved by your words, I hope it has helped sharing and please don't ever feel like you can't cause we're all here for it all, no matter what ❤️ hope you enjoy the sunshine today, I'll also be in the garden tigger planting more and definitely thinking of you. I'll be planting 3 sunflowers today, one for each of you, I hope that's okay 🌻

Have fun at the baby show confused

jupiter and hb I'm having such weird dreams at the moment, they keep waking me up!

tigger and dancing both of you are amazing, you have both been so honest and like para has said getting it out helps, that's what this group is for, the highs and the lows of which there will be both, the lows can't be prepared for or seen before they happen and symptoms come and go and nobody is an expert at this including our own bodies who may still think everything is OK when it's not. I hope Monday brings some closure tigger and then it's just a case of time doing what it does anyway, helping you move forward without ever forgetting, big love to you 3 amazing strong women xxx.

Oh Hb I'm exactly the same! Keep going to the loo at about 4:45 and then can't get back to sleep before alarm at 6:45. There are some guided relaxation videos on YouTube that you can then recreate at those times. Lots of stuff about finding your 'safe place' which I like.

How are our two week waiters? Any symptoms orange and mummy?

Mindfulness sounds like a great plan Jupiter i was thinking of looking into something (never needed it before) but when i go to the loo in the night i seem to be awake for up to a couple of hours worrying/frustrated i can't sleep! Need some sort of meditation i think!

Enjoy the babyshow confused do you buy stuff or just get ideas?

Lovely words at such difficult times Tigger, & dancing they made me well up... not in a way that they shouldn't have been said... really appreciate your honesty. Your OHs sound like absolute rocks, so important x

Hope today goes quickly for you Tigger & EPU come through for you tomorrow... all the hugs x

Dancing ❤️ I have no words xx

I plan to spend as much of the day enjoying the sun as possible, whilst also doing all the usual household-y stuff I have to do on a Sunday! I feel like I always miss the sun, usually I'm stuck at work or otherwise busy with indoor stuff 😕

Hope you had a lovely long sleep grumpy

Have fun at the baby event confused, can't wait to hear all about it :)

Oh Dancing, the whole pregnancy process makes us reevaluate our bodies - the miracle of what they can do and then the inexplicable decision they make to do the opposite. I know you feel so let down by yours right now.. but it tried so hard. Even if you had noticed something had changed, the outcome would have been the same. The singer Tori Amos once described miscarriage as very "thief in the night" - unexpected, not always overt. That's always stayed with me. You're so brave my lovely. We're all here xx

I'm going to spend today sitting by a beautiful river enjoying the sunshine. Am trying to practice mindfulness at the moment (given we advocate it so much at work!) and try and live in the moment a bit more.

Big love to you tigger I can't imagine how hard it must be still carrying the baby. Hope they can do the surgery for you asap. Take care

Tigger ❤️ I'm so glad work are being good, I definitely went back too quickly because I felt guilty about missing a meeting. I should have taken the whole week, without question. I really hope they are able to do the surgery on Monday for you and they look after you as well as they did me.

I feel completely betrayed by my body, as baby had been dead for more than a fortnight before I found out. Only the complete sense of dread I had before the scan, which seemed otherwise irrational, made me think anything was wrong. With hindsight, there were maybe other things I could have noticed. But the EPU doctor told me even if I'd gone for a scan every single day, there would have been nothing they could do. My husband said my body was just determined to cling onto its baby, which I think he finds comforting.

Sorry, I didn't mean to have a depressing moan. And hope talking about it doesn't make people more anxious. You are all such wonderful people, and have been such a source of comfort throughout everything. ❤

Tigger you are strong hun you need to see that!... obviously it is going to be weird still carrying the baby until seeing EPU but whatever feelings you have own them!

No one can tell you how to react when you lose a child... and even though you have not met yours does not make it any less real or less hurtful as you and DF were Mother and Father from the moment you got your BFP

About scaring others please don't be worried!... when we all started on this journey together we knew there would be ups and downs and thats just what we signed up for... but just as we all love to scream and shout about the Ups we all have tissues and hugs ready for the Low times.

Symptoms are a hard one to judge at our stage in the race as they should be easing off... as the Placenta starts to kick in they should get better gradually and ease... my boobs have stopped hurting now too and trying to stay positive but i guess none of us really know whats going on in there!

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On a slightly different note... what is everyone doing today? I'm going to the baby and toddler show at Sandown Racecourse... i'm so so excited but obviously still causious... me and DH have agreed not to buy anything too big as we are not out of the woods yet... it was a hard decision whether to go but the only one between now and due date is in Birmingham at the end of May and i'm not sure if i fancy it atm... maybe i'll go with my mum if everything goes well at 12 week scan