Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Thread 7

Dancing why did you hate it? I'm really not enjoying it at all but hope it will get better and I'll be able to relax a bit more. Really annoyed at my stupid anxiety.

I second that hb! The anxiety is horrible, I don't feel physically normal so can't forget I'm pregnant, plus I'm paranoid about underperforming at work ahead of telling them in the summer, so that's making me even more anxious. Last time apart from the no AF I didn't even notice anything till 5 months!

Penguin hope work is not too bad, I'm also back at work and waiting for my boss to arrive. I feel guilty for being off even though I genuinely had food poisoning! It's ridiculous

Tigger hope you are ok and resting up

Oh no penguin rub that you have to go to work when you're still poorly... try & take it easy.

Tigger good that you potentially have a few expert opinions to take on board x

I had the worst nights sleep, yesterday eve & through the night I've been having sharp twinges on my lower left hand side. I'm off course paranoid that i pissed the baby off running, DH trying to reassure me! I've goggled and most stuff says its just things stretching and settling but it does seem a bit of a coincidence! Argh, so much stress surrounds TTC & EP! Why couldn't i find out at 20 weeks like my cousin!!

Morning all!

Sorry about the bfn mummy, but you're not out until you're out! Fx AF stays away for you.

Still feeling quite horrible but I've got to go back to work today... I'll soldier on through while moaning like a bitch

Really hope there's a squinty line mummy! Definitely seems like it should be your month.

Thanks everyone, I know it's irrational and I'll probably get my time. Tbh, I'm dreading being pregnant again. I really hated it! Feels awful to admit. But, hopefully at least things will work out better for me next time. Think my oh will like the idea of smep - looks like a lot of dtd!!

Para any sign of AF for you?

Tigger I’m was so pleased to read your update. Feeling more positive must be a relief. Don’t feel guilty, grief is a mix of so many emotions. I absolutely agree that it’s worth pushing for results from the trial you did and to find out whether there is a link between high ige and miscarriage. Hopefully not but good to get some expert opinion so you know where you stand. Am so pleased that physically you are feeling okay too.

otters, I think Hb is right that sperm quality isn’t effected by ED DTD-ing and in fact getting more in there (as it were) has to be the priority. Go for it if you don’t find it daunting.

mummy I’m willing AF away for you. Don’t give up hope, 11DPO is still really early.

orange when are you testing lovely?

user, welcome! As confused said you might find the antenatal boards a bit more helpful, but if not then you are very welcome here :)

Morning all

hb thanks for the reassurance. Just so difficult to work out what's for the best.

confused glad your ECG was ok. Definitely relax and take it easy

mummy sorry about the negative test but you're not out till AF arrives. Still a glimmer of hope.

tigger and dancing how are you feeling today?

grumpy and penguin hope you're both feeling better today.

Happy Wednesday all. Not long till the long weekend

11dpo I did a FRER.. looks negative. Maybe if I squint hard enough there might be a line but not really. This time last month my period started on this day, I'm expecting it on Friday though, and I get brown discharge for the whole day before so that should be tomorrow. At least I shouldn't have to wait much longer to know whether I'm completely out!

Morning Ladies thanks so much for the well wishes yesterday... ECG was fine and i'm just going to try and relax a bit more =)

Tigger i'm so glad you have been looked after well by DF they can be such gems when they want! Lol... just keep pushing for answers off the doctors if you are concerned hun and i'm hoping you get the answers that you need!

You will get there Dancing no woman gets left behind!!... plus Jupiter is right you are meant to be super fertile after a miscarriage!...

User This is a TTC thread... as you are already upduffed you may find it more beneficial to be on the Antenatal Club for October or on the pregnancy boards... obviously you are welcome to stick around if you like though =)

I worried about this otters & voiced it on here at the time! but i think unless your partner has got actual sperm issues it should be fine... & is good to make sure there are no old fellas kicking around... fresh is best!

tigger at least it's over now and you can start to heal and move forward. Hope you get some answers from your consultants. Do take care of yourself and remember we are all here for you

dancing sorry you're feeling down. I know words won't help but hopefully the support here is helpful

parsnips thanks. It's just so frustrating and depressing especially after the 1 year mark. Sorry your work is terrible but think of the maternity benefits!

grumpy and jupiter really hope there's some large follicles! EOD sounds like the best chance of success.

hb well done on the run! Thanks for the cycle info. It's really helpful. We were planning ED until ovulation (if I manage it) then EOD but think will go with the SPEM. Have read that ED can reduce sperm quality.

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25 years old
Got pregnant on first cycle after being on the pill for 10years !
Baby due 15 October
13+3

I hope the consultants are able to give you some answers and reassurance Tigger.

Should everyone deals with things differently!

Had a few hours relaxing. I'm feeling ok. Got some light cramps and very light bleeding. Irrationally I'm feeling quite positive at the minute. I'm waiting for it to hit me but I do feel like I did some my grieving over the weekend so this week I'm feeling a bit better and I feel guilty for that which I know I shouldn't and everyone deals with things anyway. I guess I felt so worried about the pregnancy from the start that it always felt a little bit like it wouldn't go well.

My biggest concern is I have bad allergies and so really high ige levels, I've researched and can't find any links but it does say immenuology can be a reason for miscarriage so I have emailed the 2 consultants I've been under to ask advice (the g.p. Said it wouldn't be an issue though so ) I also (due to the allergies) was asked to partake in a genome trail (I think that's what it's called) which did my whole chromosome profile so I've asked if the consultant can chase the results (originally I was told due to the level of testing and the newness of the project it could take 6months to 2 years!!) but I'm sure they must have done the basic profiling.

Hope everyone is doing ok today dancing sorry you're feeling down. It's so hard isn't it.

Grumpy glad all was ok. Take some time to rest.

Sorry everyone I've read all your lovely messages but I don't have the energy tonight to thank you all properly but I will do. You have no idea what strength you have given me and how much your support has meant to me. You are such an amazing bunch and I feel very lucky to have you as part of my journey as bumpy as it may be!

So understandable Dancing, but also likely you will fall pregnant quickly again. Moan and vent away, that's why we're here. I've heard that you are very fertile post mc but I suppose it's whether emotionally you want to crack on straight away or not. I know it must feel disheartening thinking about all this OPK-ing and DTD-ing on demand again but you can do it. Thinking of you xx

It's 'Sperm Meets Egg Plan'

spermmeetseggplan.com

Basically, uses OPKs, EOD until +ve, then maybe three days in a row, then leave a day and then one for luck!! (Roughly, have attached the link for proper rules!)

You can moan all you want babe, Especially here! FX for a swift rainbow baby... aren't you meant to be quite fertile after MC? Im sure I've read this x

What is SMEP hb?

I'm so terrified that it's going to take ages to fall again. I'm sure it's completely irrational, but just feeling really miserable about it. I felt like crap for the majority of the year, and it was all for nothing, and I'm going to have to go through it all again. Sorry for moaning, I'm trying to be positive, just failing right now!

Otters This is my successful cycle... ignore where the fertile week is... i think it went a bit haywire when I didn't imput AB.

We kind of went in a bit hard early on, so if it didn't happen i was going to EOD it for a bit, then everyday in FW, then a bit more EOD after. (DH does shifts too sonhave to work round them!) Or was also considering SMEP which is very manageable & has good success! Good luck for lots of juicy follicles!

Evening girls, you've been chatty today!

Tigger glad you're home, are being looked after & have a good few days off for starting the recovery

grumpy Glad you're feeling better & have got a couple of cheeky scans from the experience! I think mine came from the right ovary too! Also snap on the boobs getting BIG (well bigger, quite petite to start with so a new experience!) I'm sure DH is disappointed that he can't play, too sore!

Wiggley definitely think it's a wise decision to postpone til honeymoon! Loved my wedding so much and had such a laugh, nice to concentrate fully on that rather than worrying about early symptoms etc! Where are you honeymooning?

Get well soon penguin sounds absolutely horrendous, you're not in FW yet are you?

JB get humping!! I'm sure you can do it quietly 😂

parsnips time will fly... and you might be on for a May baby, which is the best month for a birthday if you could pick them!!

I had a slightly early finish so DH & i went for a run!! I haven't exercised for like three weeks (scared i would jiggle things loose!) I seem to have survived but already starting to hurt!! Think I'm going to do a sesh with a personal trainer to see what is safe to do at the gym.

Tigger lovely, glad you are being looked after. I hope you are not in too much pain, physically at least. Be kind and gentle to yourself. I found I was fine physically the first couple of days, but was very achey and a bit sore/crampy since then. Found it hard to do too much physically (a ten min walk maybe). Thinking of you. ❤

grumpy fingers crossed the nausea stays away, but ditto on the boobs - mine are all swollen and sore.

I know what you mean buzz, I've been a bit concerned about lack of morning sickness too. Mainly because the internet is full of 'sickness=healthy baby' posts. I do have other symptoms though (sore breasts, night sweats, queasy before meals and fatigue) so something must be happening in there. No shift on the early scan but very excited about yours!!

Lol buzz I might actually have to start wearing a bra again soon 🙈 ps. Sip (or three!) of champers will be totally fine!

tigger glad it's over an DH looking after you ❤️ take as long as you need, don't rush back to work.

grumpy glad everything's alright and you're feeling better! I'm 8 + 3 and still no full on nausea so fingers crossed for you. So funny about the boobs, I feel like mine have doubled in size it's ridiculous 😂 embrace the giant tits! So glad I got those super soft bras though, I wouldn't be able to cope with normal ones!

jupiter glad to hear you've no major symptoms. I'm not going to lie, my lack of symptoms is starting to worry me. I just can't wait till Friday. Literally counting down the minutes. Did DP budge on the early scan?

parsnips sorry work is shit, I'm sure you're not that bad weight wise! And so what, you've been enjoying yourself! I so need to get on the meal planning and healthy eating. I need to get some healthy snack ideas because I'm eating constantly having like 6 meals a day it's ridiculous 😔

seven you're so right about the champagne!! I'm literally gutted I have to say! My mums cousin lives in France and works for a champagne company, she's sent 3 bottles for us to try to decide which to pick for the wedding. I literally feel like throwing an absolute strop and feel like why bother picking one when I can't even have it!! Haha bridezilla moment maybe? I'll probably have a sip at the weekend to taste, that should be okay should it?